Jada59
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From a guy's standpoint, there have been times when after a couple of dates, I would feel ok to say, "I have some very strong sexual feelings about you and want to take this to the next level but want to know how you feel and what sorts of things you like before wandering into a mine field."
So, I think you could do the same. I've had women on occasion make a first move even as far as when making out had one say, "I want to do you with my mouth." OK... great as far as I'm concerned but I suppose there are guys who might freak out at something blatant. On the other hand having a woman say the same sorts of things as I mentioned above, shouldn't scare a guy off. "You know George, I really think you're great and have some strong physical attraction to you. I'm hoping you feel the same way because taking our relationship to a more erotic level is something I'd like. How do you feel about that?" It's not TOO forward. You aren't reaching into his pants, but it tells him that you see him as more than just a "date". If he doesn't get the message, then find someone else.
In addition, I always preferred getting things like attitudes toward things like oral and anal and light kink out in the open before hand because making a move that the other dislikes can be a real buzz kill. One time I put my finger in a woman's ass while fucking and she freaked out and nearly kicked me out. Best not to have surprises.
Based on what I know about this guy, anal would be out lf the question. Thanks for your input!