I don't know how to quit

[LadyAria]

I want to thank everyone profusely for your kind thoughts in PMs and posts. Hearing outside perspectives keeps me from going crazy...and reassures me that I am seeing things as they are, and that it's okay to do this.

My wife has suggested not burning my bridges yet, so for now I am just going to keep quiet and not interact with em much. If Daddy comes to me and says "I miss you, come visit me" then perhaps e is ready to fix what's wrong between us. If not, then the relationship will fade away.

The reason for doing it this way is because I want this to be as amicable as possible. I still love em, I still care about em, I still worry about em. I don't want to lose em as a friend, and I think announcing that it's over would hurt that friendship, and that would hurt me. So I'm just waiting to see what happens.

Part of me wants closure. I want it to be over and done with. But I need to maintain the friendship more than I need the closure, so I will live with it as is for a while, and find my security in knowing that I am free to truly end it at any time.

Best of luck to you. I hope the two of you can be friends. It can be difficult and emotional transition. Positive thoughts your way

 

[Proudsubinatl]

Thanks

 

[Etoile]

Things are looking up. I've adjusted my expectations a lot. Oddly enough, when I did so, I got what I had been wanting before. I'm still not holding my expectations too high; we'll see where things go. My wife is very happy that things are getting better between my Daddy and me. More importantly, I am happy. I think Daddy is too.

 

[FurryFury]

Things are looking up. I've adjusted my expectations a lot. Oddly enough, when I did so, I got what I had been wanting before. I'm still not holding my expectations too high; we'll see where things go. My wife is very happy that things are getting better between my Daddy and me. More importantly, I am happy. I think Daddy is too.

What wonderful and unexpected good news! I'm happy for the three of you!

*smiles*

Fury

 

[vegasbabyvegas]

It has to be done. I have to break up with my Daddy. It's complicated, though.

Some of you may remember my "asking for more" thread from several months back. Well, I never got more. I have been actively trying to make things better for more than a year, but it hasn't worked. The relationship is in shambles, but Daddy doesn't seem to know it. E always thinks everything is fine even when I have been stating (obliquely and explicitly) that I am not happy in this relationship. I keep waiting for it to get better and the months keep passing with no change.

I've never broken up with anybody before. At all. My wife is the first person I had a serious relationship with, and we're still together. The second person I had a serious relationship with was my Daddy, and we're currently still together. I had a non-serious relationship when I was in high school, I hated it, and just stopped returning his calls. But I can't do that with Daddy. But how do I quit?

In addition to not knowing how to break up in general, I don't know how to do it from a sub perspective. I haven't been topped or dominated in ages, so it's not like I need to ask for release, but there's always been a hint of power play even up to now, so I do need to take that into consideration. But I have to do what's right for myself...I have to shake off the things that are making me unhappy.

And then of course there's the poly part of it...I'm not sure what's going to happen in that respect. My wife has told me that I should do what I need to do. But, again, it's complicated.

I actually decided this more than a week ago and I've already told myself "well, I'll just ignore things, I won't go visit, but I won't officially break up" - and yet I'm not satisfied. I need to let go. Maybe doing so will change em so eir next partner won't be so heartbroken by the complete apathy. Or maybe not, and e'll just keep masturbating forever.

I don't know what to do, my friends. How do I let go?

The problem is your focusing on the things in life that don't really matter. When I was a kid I had hopes and dreams. We all did. But over time, the daily grind gets in the way and you miss the things that really matter, even though they are right in front of you, staring you in the face. I think the next time you should ask yourself "Am I on the right track here?". I don't mean to be rude but people like you I really pity. So maybe you could use the few brain cells you have and take advantage of the knowledge I have given you now. Good luck.

 

[FurryFury]

The problem is your focusing on the things in life that don't really matter. When I was a kid I had hopes and dreams. We all did. But over time, the daily grind gets in the way and you miss the things that really matter, even though they are right in front of you, staring you in the face. I think the next time you should ask yourself "Am I on the right track here?". I don't mean to be rude but people like you I really pity. So maybe you could use the few brain cells you have and take advantage of the knowledge I have given you now. Good luck.

That was a mean and useless post to make, one wonders what you get out of being a jerk to someone who is a very nice and respected person on this board.

Are you an Alt for a troll we already know, maybe???

The tone certainly sounds familiar and irritating!

Fury

 

[graceanne]

That was a mean and useless post to make, one wonders what you get out of being a jerk to someone who is a very nice and respected person on this board.

Are you an Alt for a troll we already know, maybe???

The tone certainly sounds familiar and irritating!

Fury

I gotta agree. It sounds familiar. Hm. But definately a troll.

 

[FurryFury]

I gotta agree. It sounds familiar. Hm. But definately a troll.

I wonder what happens to a troll if you kick a board up his ass?

*smiles*

Fury

 

[graceanne]

I wonder what happens to a troll if you kick a board up his ass?

*smiles*

Fury

Oh trolls like htings like that. Know what they hate? When you're nice to them. Gotta tell em how cute they are, how fuzzy and all that. Just keep your distance, trolls bite. Sometimes I even give them chocolate . . . just not cookies, they're not good enough to deserve cookies.

 

[FurryFury]

Oh trolls like htings like that. Know what they hate? When you're nice to them. Gotta tell em how cute they are, how fuzzy and all that. Just keep your distance, trolls bite. Sometimes I even give them chocolate . . . just not cookies, they're not good enough to deserve cookies.

*takes notes*

*smiles*

Fury

 

[catalina_francisco]

The problem is your focusing on the things in life that don't really matter. When I was a kid I had hopes and dreams. We all did. But over time, the daily grind gets in the way and you miss the things that really matter, even though they are right in front of you, staring you in the face. I think the next time you should ask yourself "Am I on the right track here?". I don't mean to be rude but people like you I really pity. So maybe you could use the few brain cells you have and take advantage of the knowledge I have given you now. Good luck.

Hey, speak for yourself!! If you want to feel sorry for someone, feel sorry for yourself because by your own admission (ie. your all inclusive the daily grind gets in the way and you miss the things that really matter ) you let life block you from attaining your dreams and appreciating how wonderful the simple things in life are. Thankfully we are not all so buried in the mundane we can't smell the roses along the way.

Catalina

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

The problem is your focusing on the things in life that don't really matter. When I was a kid I had hopes and dreams. We all did. But over time, the daily grind gets in the way and you miss the things that really matter, even though they are right in front of you, staring you in the face. I think the next time you should ask yourself "Am I on the right track here?". I don't mean to be rude but people like you I really pity. So maybe you could use the few brain cells you have and take advantage of the knowledge I have given you now. Good luck.

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[Etoile]

The problem is your focusing on the things in life that don't really matter. When I was a kid I had hopes and dreams. We all did. But over time, the daily grind gets in the way and you miss the things that really matter, even though they are right in front of you, staring you in the face. I think the next time you should ask yourself "Am I on the right track here?". I don't mean to be rude but people like you I really pity. So maybe you could use the few brain cells you have and take advantage of the knowledge I have given you now. Good luck.

That's nice, dear...now run along and play in the street.

 

[catalina_francisco]

General Board
Listen Up Members of Literotica - HELP! That means YOU
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LOL, so this thing is so creative they just keep reposting the same post?!! Pfft, I knew it before but now it is obvious who needs help...perhaps the post was not even their creation!!

Catalina

 

[SweetCherry]

Oh trolls like htings like that. Know what they hate? When you're nice to them. Gotta tell em how cute they are, how fuzzy and all that. Just keep your distance, trolls bite. Sometimes I even give them chocolate . . . just not cookies, they're not good enough to deserve cookies.

Nah, give 'em fig newtons. Save the chocolate. Maybe the newtons will ease their constipation and then they can be quality members of society once again, if they stop being so full of...well, you know.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

The problem is your focusing on the things in life that don't really matter. ...

Hmmm... same post, different threads, mean-spirited, arrogant and shallow as all get out.

Got your number now, baby. There's nothing like showing the world you're an unoriginal, repetitive, ass by posting a nasty-gram reply to a 3 month past personal issue. Next time try looking at the date of the OP you are replying to, and check further down the line to get, as Paul Harvey likes to say, "the rest of the story."

baby, welcome to the League of Extraordinary Asshats.

And after checking out the ALL POSTINGS BY feature of your profile, you win the grand prize... The first EVER person in Lit I'm putting on ignore.

Ta-DAH!

 

[RawHumor]

That was a mean and useless post to make, one wonders what you get out of being a jerk to someone who is a very nice and respected person on this board.

Are you an Alt for a troll we already know, maybe???

The tone certainly sounds familiar and irritating!

Fury

It's a troll/alt that posted the same exact post in multiple threads on multiple forums here. I think he was having a Dr. Phil moment.

 

[graceanne]

Hey, speak for yourself!! If you want to feel sorry for someone, feel sorry for yourself because by your own admission (ie. your all inclusive the daily grind gets in the way and you miss the things that really matter ) you let life block you from attaining your dreams and appreciating how wonderful the simple things in life are. Thankfully we are not all so buried in the mundane we can't smell the roses along the way.

Catalina

It's hard to smell roses when their's trolls around. Cause P. U.! This one stinks.

 

[Etoile]

Got your number now, baby. There's nothing like showing the world you're an unoriginal, repetitive, ass by posting a nasty-gram reply to a 3 month past personal issue. Next time try looking at the date of the OP you are replying to, and check further down the line to get, as Paul Harvey likes to say, "the rest of the story."

Aww, you mean he DIDN'T have my best interests at heart?! It wasn't actually meant to be helpful feedback that he didn't mean to be rude with? I'm disappointed, I thought I was special! *pouts*

baby, welcome to the League of Extraordinary Asshats.

Bwahahahaha!

 

[ammre]

My one comment on the original topc, even if it is resolved or panning out...

When in a discussion that involves trying to be gentile (you still want to be friends and all) It's good to use "i feel" kind of statements. So it's not like, You do this and you do that. It's a better way to communicate. Maybe somehting is happening and the way you precive it and react to it, it distinctly different then the reaction they were looking for or not even expecting...

Hopefully that helps... I dunno, i jsut spent the last semester in a peer facilitation course... I feel like a bloomin' guidence councler.

 

[BiBunny]

baby, welcome to the League of Extraordinary Asshats.

Hahahaha! I love it!

Etoile, I'm glad things are better for you now.

 

[Private_Label]

Aww, you mean he DIDN'T have my best interests at heart?! It wasn't actually meant to be helpful feedback that he didn't mean to be rude with? I'm disappointed, I thought I was special! *pouts*


Bwahahahaha!

You ARE special Baaabbby!

That this idio... troll wannabee (oh please the same post to different areas? My mother would make a better troll!) doesn't want to take the time to learn that is his loss and not yours.

Don't feed the troll cookies or newtons. If it needs anal relief we can cook a really good purgative, we can feed it rhubarb pie and buckthorn tea. Or we can go to the nearest medical supply store and get some Fleet