I have a question......

[sexycaz22]

I am just re-reading this thread, as I read my blog also. I talked with someone about how my journey were going, and I remembered Catalina's post in this thread, so I went looking for it.

I do really really appreciate your post, Catalina, for that without it, I might have not been here, you have made me think twice about what I was looking for in a Dom. And I probably would be in an online relationship, and not feeling satisfied, but after reading your post, it have made me realise that I was holding back and settling with an online relationship when I could have had more, and therefore I signed up with different dating sites, and meeting and exploring...and is still having fun!!

I now have a regular play partner, and I do enjoy having my bottom spanked and flogged by him, very much, however, I do feel there's something missing from our relationship - probably the fact that it is so casual that I don't feel like I am his submissive, it is more a Top/bottom relationship and I do enjoy it very much.

I am still dating and seeing other men but so far, have not had any other play sessions, although I do have one planned with a really nice and hwat guy...can't wait! *giggle*

 

[SubKekiLee]

advice..

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Caz

Caz
I love your AD I think it is just what you need no changes neccessary but like alot of others have said.. it takes some weeding out to make the difference in who , what , why.. Ive been in the scene now off and on for 17 years and Ive only had 4 DOMS in that 17 years.. and the most recent one we began as friends and when we met F2F OMG the sparks flew and WE both knew it was the right thing to do... Trust me youll know..

Good luck in your search..

 

[ecstaticsub]

I am just re-reading this thread, as I read my blog also. I talked with someone about how my journey were going, and I remembered Catalina's post in this thread, so I went looking for it.

I do really really appreciate your post, Catalina, for that without it, I might have not been here, you have made me think twice about what I was looking for in a Dom. And I probably would be in an online relationship, and not feeling satisfied, but after reading your post, it have made me realise that I was holding back and settling with an online relationship when I could have had more, and therefore I signed up with different dating sites, and meeting and exploring...and is still having fun!!

I now have a regular play partner, and I do enjoy having my bottom spanked and flogged by him, very much, however, I do feel there's something missing from our relationship - probably the fact that it is so casual that I don't feel like I am his submissive, it is more a Top/bottom relationship and I do enjoy it very much.

I am still dating and seeing other men but so far, have not had any other play sessions, although I do have one planned with a really nice and hwat guy...can't wait! *giggle*

Getting out into real life is in most ways better than purely cyber or an on-line relationship. Though, I wouldn't call an on-line relationship something you "settle for" . You say you have found a play partner you are missing something. The something that is missing is something that can be found on-line.

In someways since being on-line doesn't allow for the kind of physical submission real life does the concentration tends to be on the mental/emotional submission. As much as I enjoy the physical it is the emotional that is the reason I am in a D/s relationship.

I am not at all recommending you not go out to play and see if you connect with someone IRL. Just don't discount someone you may meet and begin with on-line. Especially if there would be a real probability and getting together in person eventually.

I hope that made sense...I'm tired it has been a long day.

I just read what i wrote again. Just wanted to say that I hopefully I didn't come off as defensive, I am not offended at all by what you said.

Good luck to you!

 

[sexycaz22]

Getting out into real life is in most ways better than purely cyber or an on-line relationship. Though, I wouldn't call an on-line relationship something you "settle for" . You say you have found a play partner you are missing something. The something that is missing is something that can be found on-line.

In someways since being on-line doesn't allow for the kind of physical submission real life does the concentration tends to be on the mental/emotional submission. As much as I enjoy the physical it is the emotional that is the reason I am in a D/s relationship.

I am not at all recommending you not go out to play and see if you connect with someone IRL. Just don't discount someone you may meet and begin with on-line. Especially if there would be a real probability and getting together in person eventually.

I hope that made sense...I'm tired it has been a long day.

I just read what i wrote again. Just wanted to say that I hopefully I didn't come off as defensive, I am not offended at all by what you said.

Good luck to you!

No, what you said does make sense! I know that you do have an online relationship with your lovely Dom, and I do admire you for that.

I have been involved in a couple of online relationships years ago, and I realised it wasn't for me. When I first began my journey properly this time, I actually thought about continuing with the online relationships, but then I realised that when I was involved in the couple of relationships, I missed the physical. Obviously when I said online relationships, it was more likely to be the two HNGs who enjoyed watching me on webcam....YUCK! I was going through a rough patch at the time, and didn't think properly.

However, if the right Dom does come along, and if we do gel well together, I would start an online relationship but only if I knew that we would meet up occasionally. For me, physical relationships are important.

 

[ecstaticsub]

No, what you said does make sense! I know that you do have an online relationship with your lovely Dom, and I do admire you for that.

I have been involved in a couple of online relationships years ago, and I realised it wasn't for me. When I first began my journey properly this time, I actually thought about continuing with the online relationships, but then I realised that when I was involved in the couple of relationships, I missed the physical. Obviously when I said online relationships, it was more likely to be the two HNGs who enjoyed watching me on webcam....YUCK! I was going through a rough patch at the time, and didn't think properly.

However, if the right Dom does come along, and if we do gel well together, I would start an online relationship but only if I knew that we would meet up occasionally. For me, physical relationships are important.

Yeah, I agree. I need the physical too. If I were single and didn't have my husband I would need more than the occasional meeting with someone on-line.

On-line HNGs sometimes serve a purpose. LOL I played with a few a few yrs ago. It got old really fast but at the time it was fun.

Again good luck to you.