I think I broke my Dom

[Loverskitten]

" I may be out of my gourd wanting to finally have an orgasm at 65 but I would like to experience it once before I die. I just see myself not ever getting there"

Get yourself a Hitachi Magic Wand.

 

[LearnerDom]

My dear,
Several things stand out from your words

First thing is that vibrators are far more reliable and less emotionally confusing than us men.
I believe that a rabbit, a vibrating clit bullet and a wand are the most effective.
I highly recommend you invest in one if not all.

Secondly, I think a change of attitude about yourself is in order.
Start thinking about yourself as a desirable sexual and sensual being, regardless of your age and physical appearance.
Self love and respect leads to others regarding you as desirable

So, pamper yourself, prepare yourself for self exploration. Bath, massage and relax, put on some porn if it helps.
Don't worry if you don't achieve it first time, just enjoy.
Make it a "date" with yourself

Thirdly, and this is most important.
You do NOT have to be what a man wants you to be!

Just be you and if they don't like it, tough
The odds are with you. Many men, few women
You deserve respect, yes even subs deserve respect.
Maybe you don't have a label. You just want sensual and fulfilling sex and theres nothing wrong with that

Give up the online and join local clubs, dancing etc and meet real people

Good luck in your search, but remember to start with yourself

Stella, I did meet him on Fetlife. He was local. I have met several on Fetlife that are strictly on line but pretty good friends. Not that many locals. I agree with and have decided I won't see him again. He does have magic fingers and I can now cum when I couldn't before. But I do feel put out when he does things the way he does. The girl he was with before me told me he was very good in bed if you can get him to a bed. But she said he is quite happy in the car. I am too old to make out in a car and even though he is a little better than the other dom I met on fetlife I feel neither one were Doms. Wana bees. I still don't know if I am a submissive or not but I know I am not a slave. I am trying to be what a man wants me to be but he can't change what he wants mid stream so to speak. I may be out of my gourd wanting to finally have an orgasm at 65 but I would like to experience it once before I die. I just see myself not ever getting there. Somehow I always get the wrong ones. Even one of the local Fetlife men who contacted me in our discussions got mad at me and broke an online discussion . I must be saying or doing something wrong. I've tried to be honest with everyone in what I want and why. I have tried not to keep secrets from any one and I try to do what they want it I meet in person. But if I can't even keep em interested on line I gotta be doing something wrong.

 

[DVS]

"I think I broke my dom". LOL, good title for such a thread. But, seriously...sweetheart, he was broken long before you met him. I think he's been repaired a few times and maybe broken again.

I told you about the issues he might have. I'm still thinking that might be a part of his past. But, regardless of that, they are his issues, not your issues.