I woke up this morning to discover I had turned into an insect.

[graceanne]

I'm broke and don't drive, but when my friend's parents died I just hitched out to Calgary, and got them to make arrangments for my treatments to be there instead of here. Like I said, there's always a way.

You hitched? As in you could stand without passing out? I couldn't. It took all my energy everyday to talk to her, and to not let her know what was wrong, cause she didn't need the stress.

Beyond that, I would never hitchhike. It's not safe. I'm not just putting my life on the line, I could leave my children without a mother. It's irresponsible when so many little people depend on you.

 

[canadiancutie]

You hitched? As in you could stand without passing out? I couldn't. It took all my energy everyday to talk to her, and to not let her know what was wrong, cause she didn't need the stress.

Beyond that, I would never hitchhike. It's not safe. I'm not just putting my life on the line, I could leave my children without a mother. It's irresponsible when so many little people depend on you.

Actually I sat for most of time, I have a habit of passing out. Hitching is safe if you bring a big male friend with you, they just have to be out of the way when most of the actual hitching is done, becuase lots of guys will stop for a teenage girl haha, not so many will stop for a 20 year old guy. Especially when that guy could kick their ass. Overall, you seem to have a lot of excuses.

 

[graceanne]

I'm going to bed. But I know that you're going to come back with someway or the other that I'm not a good friend. *shrugs* I don't care, I know I am. Beyond that, I don't think you are ever happy with anything. You are determined to be critical about everything. I have not seen one post you've made that isn't critical in some way or the other. I feel sorry for you, and seriously hope you outgrow this. You'll be a much happier person.

 

[canadiancutie]

I'm going to bed. But I know that you're going to come back with someway or the other that I'm not a good friend. *shrugs* I don't care, I know I am. Beyond that, I don't think you are ever happy with anything. You are determined to be critical about everything. I have not seen one post you've made that isn't critical in some way or the other. I feel sorry for you, and seriously hope you outgrow this. You'll be a much happier person.

I'm happy with lots of things I'm actually one of the cheerier people most people meet. I have high expectations, but most people I know live up to them. I guess I'm over critical because I'm used to be around really amazing people, and I expect the best from people. Too many people make excuses for not being up to par, but that's their problem, not mine

 

[jasonlf]

@gracie: I agree about the non judging thing. It pisses me off when people stand up high and mighty and declare people horrible by the bible standards, then drive by 5 starving people in their viper on their way their 4th mansion. It's insane.

Also, gracie, I wouldn't REALLY lay hands on people without permission. It'd be creepy, disrepectful, and a good way to lose teeth. hahaha

 

[canadiancutie]

@gracie: I agree about the non judging thing. It pisses me off when people stand up high and mighty and declare people horrible by the bible standards, then drive by 5 starving people in their viper on their way their 4th mansion. It's insane.

this from the same guy going on a pro-capitalism rant on another thread? good job on being consistent.

 

[sphynx's dragon]

@gracie: I agree about the non judging thing. It pisses me off when people stand up high and mighty and declare people horrible by the bible standards, then drive by 5 starving people in their viper on their way their 4th mansion. It's insane.

Also, gracie, I wouldn't REALLY lay hands on people without permission. It'd be creepy, disrepectful, and a good way to lose teeth. hahaha

Yeah...would be a good way to lose teeth...or get some serious burns from the spontaneous combustion!

 

[caela]

this from the same guy going on a pro-capitalism rant on another thread? good job on being consistent.

What's inconsistent about it? I'm pro-capitalism but that doesn't mean I don't think that people with the ability to help others shouldn't.

But then again I am one of those people that thinks that if you have the ability to do help someone (without it causing harm to you or your family) you also have the responsibility to help.

 

[Netzach]

Actually I sat for most of time, I have a habit of passing out. Hitching is safe if you bring a big male friend with you, they just have to be out of the way when most of the actual hitching is done, becuase lots of guys will stop for a teenage girl haha, not so many will stop for a 20 year old guy. Especially when that guy could kick their ass. Overall, you seem to have a lot of excuses.

When you develop Crohn's I welcome you to come and tell me what I should do differently. Until then I'd say you should shut the fuck up.

You seem to have no idea what actual chronic illness is, and if you can make a roadtrip, I'd argue you're not sick enough to have remote insight into what my life has been like this past year and some people's life with the same illness is like overall.

There is not always a way, for your fucking information.

 

[Netzach]

this from the same guy going on a pro-capitalism rant on another thread? good job on being consistent.

"I would never want something to die just so that I could live"

Sound familiar?

I would like you to know that the Asian women who make the microchips that fuel our comps have probably developed cancer from the toxic process. No one needs a comp to live, but such is the problem of life in the industrialized world.

But a handful of mice, or a cow...perish the thought.

 

[shy slave]

A sad rant

This thread appears to have taken on a life of its own.

I read it, and try to ignore most of the rubbish thats posted, but everyday i am back re-looking at the same rubbish.

I am NOT going to comment on God/Jesus/Goddess/Laying on of hands/positive thoughts otherwise I will still be ranting about it for weeks to come.

However..

I am so sad that people here feel the need to say cruel things without thought or understanding of other peoples lives or circumstances.

People are different, and we all individually differ from day-to-day.

Things we cope with on one day are often impossible the next.

We are a small community on the BDSM boards, visitors are either trolls or choose not to stay to long.

Most of us have normal ordinary lives and use this place as a haven to be our true selves. To relax, ponder, think, laugh and generally be around people who understand aspects of ourselves that we cannot discuss elsewhere.

Meanness and cruel words are usually used when people have other issues to deal with, when they feel a need to lash out at people who cannot respond with immediate effect due to the online nature of the boards.

It is always of interest to me regarding who uses meanness and to whom they direct it at.

It is often those people who choose to reveal themselves more than others.
In general they are easier targets, they are also often the more 'soft-hearted' people here, regardless of their PYL/pyl nature.

Like others here, I have seen people leave who had a real contribution to make and who made a difference to the overall information on the boards.
They were often generous with their time and energies towards questions and concerns. Either through r/l experience, finding articles that may help, listening and showing that someone is actually interested in what is said, humour or thought provoking questions.

We are a lesser community by their leaving, how sad it would be if this trend continued because some people do not think before they post.

I am honest enough to say that I have argued with three people here. On two occassions it has been on the boards and once in a pm to keep it of the boards and in private. I am also honest enough to admit that when I get it wrong (and I did ), I apologise.
Everyone reads something that makes them annoyed, it happens everyday, it is nothing new.

Communities should support each other, I don't mean we should be less honest, but reminding ourselves, before we press the send button, that we do not know everything about the person who has annoyed us, would help.

 

[chris9]

This thread appears to have taken on a life of its own.

I read it, and try to ignore most of the rubbish thats posted, but everyday i am back re-looking at the same rubbish.

I am NOT going to comment on God/Jesus/Goddess/Laying on of hands/positive thoughts otherwise I will still be ranting about it for weeks to come.

However..

I am so sad that people here feel the need to say cruel things without thought or understanding of other peoples lives or circumstances.

People are different, and we all individually differ from day-to-day.

Things we cope with on one day are often impossible the next.

We are a small community on the BDSM boards, visitors are either trolls or choose not to stay to long.

Most of us have normal ordinary lives and use this place as a haven to be our true selves. To relax, ponder, think, laugh and generally be around people who understand aspects of ourselves that we cannot discuss elsewhere.

Meanness and cruel words are usually used when people have other issues to deal with, when they feel a need to lash out at people who cannot respond with immediate effect due to the online nature of the boards.

It is always of interest to me regarding who uses meanness and to whom they direct it at.

It is often those people who choose to reveal themselves more than others.
In general they are easier targets, they are also often the more 'soft-hearted' people here, regardless of their PYL/pyl nature.

Like others here, I have seen people leave who had a real contribution to make and who made a difference to the overall information on the boards.
They were often generous with their time and energies towards questions and concerns. Either through r/l experience, finding articles that may help, listening and showing that someone is actually interested in what is said, humour or thought provoking questions.

We are a lesser community by their leaving, how sad it would be if this trend continued because some people do not think before they post.

I am honest enough to say that I have argued with three people here. On two occassions it has been on the boards and once in a pm to keep it of the boards and in private. I am also honest enough to admit that when I get it wrong (and I did ), I apologise.
Everyone reads something that makes them annoyed, it happens everyday, it is nothing new.

Communities should support each other, I don't mean we should be less honest, but reminding ourselves, before we press the send button, that we do not know everything about the person who has annoyed us, would help.

Thank you, Shy Slave, for sharing these thoughts. I find them wise and I hope they will help to put more respect for each other in everybody's posts.

 

[canadiancutie]

"I would never want something to die just so that I could live"

Sound familiar?

I would like you to know that the Asian women who make the microchips that fuel our comps have probably developed cancer from the toxic process. No one needs a comp to live, but such is the problem of life in the industrialized world.

But a handful of mice, or a cow...perish the thought.

There's a pretty big difference between slaughtering something and someone possibly developping an illness due to a potentially dangerous work environment.

 

[canadiancutie]

When you develop Crohn's I welcome you to come and tell me what I should do differently. Until then I'd say you should shut the fuck up.

You seem to have no idea what actual chronic illness is, and if you can make a roadtrip, I'd argue you're not sick enough to have remote insight into what my life has been like this past year and some people's life with the same illness is like overall.

There is not always a way, for your fucking information.

Actually one of my best friends has Crohn's, I've seen what he's been through, and yeah, it sucks, but he still manages to do things that he considers to be important. Regardless of what's going on in your life, there's always a way whether you believe so or not, but you actually have to try for things to happen.

 

[O'Mac]

What the hell is with these threads turning into some sort of self-righteous moral debate?!

Ah well, nothing beats good ol' blatant hypocrisy and ignorance, does it?

 

[Marquis]

Actually one of my best friends has Crohn's, I've seen what he's been through, and yeah, it sucks, but he still manages to do things that he considers to be important. Regardless of what's going on in your life, there's always a way whether you believe so or not, but you actually have to try for things to happen.

CC, while your plucky ignorance is usually laughable at worst and charming at best, your lack of respect shown to those infinitely wiser and more experienced than you in something that is really a struggle for them is truely distasteful. I suggest you take the nice ladies' suggestion and shut the fuck up.

 

[serijules]

CC, while your plucky ignorance is usually laughable at worst and charming at best, your lack of respect shown to those infinitely wiser and more experienced than you in something that is really a struggle for them is truely distasteful. I suggest you take the nice ladies' suggestion and shut the fuck up.

What he said.

Only without the charming part.

 

[jasonlf]

What the hell is with these threads turning into some sort of self-righteous moral debate?!

Ah well, nothing beats good ol' blatant hypocrisy and ignorance, does it?

Meh. Just to say, if I come off as a self-righteous asshole, I apologize. I have strong beliefs, and I tend to speak them early and often.

I'm really a sweetheart, I promise, I just make my buttons to easy to push sometimes

 

[O'Mac]

Meh. Just to say, if I come off as a self-righteous asshole, I apologize. I have strong beliefs, and I tend to speak them early and often.

I'm really a sweetheart, I promise, I just make my buttons to easy to push sometimes

Naw, it's no problem. Let's all shake hands and move on.

 

[Marquis]

This thread used to be so cool.

 

[O'Mac]

This thread used to be so cool.

My favourite part was when we talked about kittens. Then I believe ninjas attacked, but I could be mistaken.

 

[graceanne]

I'm sorry. I got too chatty. I blame it on tiredness, since I didn't take any meds yesterday. lol

 

[Marquis]

I often wonder if it's fair to compare the emotional stressors of one person to another. Since the pain is being perceived by different minds it has to be relative.

I remember going to college with kids who would literally cry when daddy would reduce their monthly allowance from $2000 to $1500. Meanwhile I was trying to get an education with my mother recently passed away, no financial support from my father and no home to go to if I didn't make it. I felt pretty self righteous until I met someone who had been shuttled between foster homes his whole life, abused and neglected, offered none of the opportunities many of our peers had yet still fighting like a soldier.

I'm not trying to be glib or flippant at all here, but do you ever wonder if we're given the load we can handle. I mean, I couldn't even imagine putting up with the shit you put up with and being cheerful. I can hardly bring myself to be cheerful now, and I have a lot to be thankful for.

 

[jasonlf]

I'm not trying to be glib or flippant at all here, but do you ever wonder if we're given the load we can handle. I mean, I couldn't even imagine putting up with the shit you put up with and being cheerful. I can hardly bring myself to be cheerful now, and I have a lot to be thankful for.

That's a very good observation, Marquis... I'd argue that probably people who are in rougher situations develop more ability to deal with stuff.

 

[graceanne]

Like I said before - got to chatty. Kinda embarrassed. Sorry y'all.