FungiUg said:Hmmm... working under a submissive... interesting thought!
Topping from the bottom shall we say? ... chuckling.FungiUg said:Hmmm... working under a submissive... interesting thought!
AngelicAssassin said:about letting the genie out of the bottle ... way before Robin Williams and Aladdin.
This shot reminded me of that story's attempt to teach young children about the nuclear age ...
SilkVelvet said:Hi making a rare and fleeting visit here because Lit just doesn't seem the same anymore. Remember that thread that was more or less about whether there is such a thing as a natural Dom ?? Went on for weeks, had my brain confuzzed and thoroughly intellectually challenged and er I have an IQ of 102 although my grammar is sh!t much of the time(UK state education what can I say ?)
As our society gets dumbed down it seems that uneducated people with not much to say for themselves are always the ones to be found postulating on radio phone ins and dominating Internet chat forums until those who want a bit of intellectual stimulation and to learn, give up.
We live in a world where the soundbite is paramount, and where you can spend months even years making a TV programme, but if it doesn't grab the viewers' attention in the first 10 sec, they turn over. So how can you expect the unsilent majority to have a better attention span than a gnat or more than the memory of a goldfish ?
And heck actually I'd rather flirt IRL, it's much more fun when you get actual eye contact
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SilkVelvet said:Hi making a rare and fleeting visit here because Lit just doesn't seem the same anymore. Remember that thread that was more or less about whether there is such a thing as a natural Dom ?? Went on for weeks, had my brain confuzzed and thoroughly intellectually challenged and er I have an IQ of 102 although my grammar is sh!t much of the time
As our society gets dumbed down it seems that uneducated people with not much to say for themselves are always the ones to be found postulating on radio phone ins and dominating Internet chat forums until those who want a bit of intellectual stimulation and to learn, give up.
We live in a world where the soundbite is paramount, and where you can spend months even years making a TV programme, but if it doesn't grab the viewers' attention in the first 10 sec, they turn over. So how can you expect the unsilent majority to have a better attention span than a gnat or more than the memory of a goldfish ?
And heck actually I'd rather flirt IRL, it's much more fun when you get actual eye contact
SilkVelvet said:Hi making a rare and fleeting visit here because Lit just doesn't seem the same anymore. Remember that thread that was more or less about whether there is such a thing as a natural Dom ?? Went on for weeks, had my brain confuzzed and thoroughly intellectually challenged and er I have an IQ of 102 although my grammar is sh!t much of the time
As our society gets dumbed down it seems that uneducated people with not much to say for themselves are always the ones to be found postulating on radio phone ins and dominating Internet chat forums until those who want a bit of intellectual stimulation and to learn, give up.
We live in a world where the soundbite is paramount, and where you can spend months even years making a TV programme, but if it doesn't grab the viewers' attention in the first 10 sec, they turn over. So how can you expect the unsilent majority to have a better attention span than a gnat or more than the memory of a goldfish ?
And heck actually I'd rather flirt IRL, it's much more fun when you get actual eye contact
SkylineBlue said:I'm sorry that you're writing Lit off so soon. Life is too short and hard to be constantly serious and introspective. And this time of year what with the bad traffic, the crazy shoppers, the insane family get togethers - I think we could all use a place to just kick back and relax. I suspect that the forum will take up a more serious note again after the new year. Personally, I am grateful for the opportunity to hone my flirting skills, to gather strength in my attractiveness and recieve support in my quest for real life companionship (against all the ups and downs of single life).
And if you tell people they are uneducated or dumbing down the community because they flirt and joke online... well that isn't going to get you a warm reception.... oh and if you want a intellectual discussion regarding something... start up your own thread on the talk forum... you'll get the reception you're looking for there. I know I'll be grateful for a good thread to read that has a serious tone... til then, stop complaining about a lack of intellectual discussion unless you're going to start one (besides what you just said that is
snoozebutton said:
catalina_francisco said:I also think to a degree if you want to be in this lifestyle and you find it so impossible to find the courage to make an anonymous posting, (especially as most who do post are greeted with warmth and unlimited encouragement) then you might find you are going to have a lot more serious issues to overcome before you are going to feel safe and happy in any sort of BDSM relationship, play or serious.
Catalina
redelicious said:
catalina_francisco said:I can relate to what you are saying and empathise. My only bit of thought on this would be to remember you have just as much right to contribute as anyone, including someone you may have been involved with. I would think if it is making you feel this way, you may have a greater need to join back in the discussions as an individual, if only to help you re-establish that feeling of belonging, communication, and sharing. It is not going to be easy, but perhaps you might find it easier if you set it up as your own personal limit to push, and challenge to overcome. Good luck.
Catalina
catalina_francisco said:Mmmmm, well SV has not made a hasty decision, just she has not been around these parts much since before your joining. I know it is put down to seasonal things etc., but I don't think that is the whole problem, and know from others who have long departed that it is not one or two who feel the board has been overtaken with levity of a few long ago. There is no problem with such fun, and as I am sure you know SV was the brains behind BDSM Word Assoc., so she like the rest of us is not up herself and saying out with all funsters, just advocating in the best interests of the board popularity and reputation remaining, and fairness for all who love this lifestyle, that there be some sort of balance between fun and serious discussion.
Catalina
SkylineBlue said:
catalina_francisco said:SB, gee I better stay awake more often!!! Never realised I was first here, or that I was dictating...what I and others were 'asking' for politely and reasonably was a little respect for balance. And as I pointed out, as you say it is those who post who dictate the thread direction, but as I also noted, when there are 2-3 pages of flirting, outright chitchat, and antics mistakenly called fun, it becomes impossible to follow the original topic and contribute in a meaningful way even if you want to....even I don't have the time to try and sift through it all to find the few relevant posts. I fail to see why the two can't co-exist and just thank the heavens I have found some places which make sure that happens and then everyone's needs are met, not just a few.
As to starting thought provoking threads if that is what I or others want...well I think if you want to check you will see I have done aplenty of that, as have others, but invariably of late along come the comedy theater to spread their joy and chatter so it is universal not just where it was made a place for.
If you are referring to your sugar daddy thread, I do not sdee anyone really abused you or stopped you learning. If you wanted answers that would help you got them and politely. All anyone said was sugar daddy and Dominant are two different things entirely....sugar daddy being more typical of a vanilla lifestyle in my experience and not a Dominant.If you start a thread, pose questions, unless you specify up r\front you want a particular answer (which defeats the purpose of asking to learn) it is going to bring answers that come from actual lived experiences and knowledge, and a variety of perspectives.
Catalina
Those exist? Especially in cyberspace?catalina_francisco said:
REALLY?
I find reading info sites and essays interesting to a point, but also gets a bit boring and very often presents just one person's view of how something is or should be. I have learned far more through open discussion which has presented a variety of viewpoints and experiences, as well as allowing myself and others to explore their own reality.
Catalina
SkylineBlue said:
FungiUg said:
Discussion forces us to think *actively* about what we are learning.
FungiUg said:
