Interesting and/or Unusual Safewords

[graceanne]

Mine is the one flower I hate most in the whole world!!

Which flower is that?

 

[arielsgoddess]

"Picklejuice"--I once had a young friend....

More adventurous than I was at the time. When we first met she was strictly les; and for a while we were roommates and I started taking her to parties and group activities with me where she became fascinated with certain scenes. Her more experienced partner told her that she should "go sow her oats for a while". "Clara" entered into zealously and got into bi tag-team S&M. On night, a bit tipsy, I told her this humorous story about a guy, and she giggled herself to sleep repeating "the pickle effect". After that, we were at a group scene where she'd gone off with a couple of the other ladies. Clara suddenly started screaming "Picklejuice!" over and over again, and one of the guys from the party was quickly dragged off in that direction. In short, everyone found-out that she had chosen it as a safeword to mean that she was beyond horny and in need of a member of the phallic sex. It was quite humorous, and several people at this party have adopted it as both a codeword for various things, and as a safeword for specific needs. I have heard of it from this group both as a safeword for blueballs that can't be suffered anymore, and for a Bible-belt raised woman that was raised to despise ejaculation, so when she screams it, her hubby can fill her up, so to speak; I have also heard of it being screamed as a form of 'please master punish me' in which the discipline involves an actual pickle or picklejuice. I note it as one of the oddest ones to suface out of our circle over the years, and that's saying something Ariel

 

[petitefille]

Haha, my safeword is "beagle."

 

[littleunicorn918]

my safeword is guacamole

 

[where]

blackberry, but I've never needed to use it. He's fairly intuitive about how far he can push me and tends to stop short of too far. It's not out of kindness, it's just him liking me frustrated.

 

[Claire73]

green: no such thing
yellow: please consider doing something else
red: definitely do something else, or stop completely.

 

[seela]

Using "red" isn't a nuclear type of safeword, but he would definitely make sure I'd pay for it later.

Aren't safewords supposed to be a way for the pyl to opt out in case the situation is really, very, drastically bad? I don't think anybody should be made pay for using the safeword, if the situation really is something that they absolutely can't take. It seems to negate the whole idea of having a safeword. But that's just my opinion.

I don't have a safeword myself. It's worked out fine for us, but we took things pretty slow in the beginning when we didn't know each other.

 

[chy_girl]

It's kind of the stoplight system, but I hate the color thing so we changed it up a bit.

Time out means "Hold on a sec. I need to reconnect my brain to my mouth so I can talk to you."

Ball! (either said, dropped or thrown at the person) is "FUCK, FUCK, FUCK!!!! Stop now"

Then there's "BEIGE! BEIGE!!!" which I'm waiting patiently for the perfect opportunity to use. If I ever get the balls to try it. Nearly 5 months and I still haven't lived down telling Sir that he could "hit a little harder if he wanted" the first he ever flogged me.

 

[Claire73]

Aren't safewords supposed to be a way for the pyl to opt out in case the situation is really, very, drastically bad? I don't think anybody should be made pay for using the safeword, if the situation really is something that they absolutely can't take. It seems to negate the whole idea of having a safeword. But that's just my opinion.

I don't have a safeword myself. It's worked out fine for us, but we took things pretty slow in the beginning when we didn't know each other.

I'm not sure how our use of the safeword is different from your not having a safeword at all?

I'm not going to defend myself here, in the end I was just sharing how it works in my relationship. It might not be the best way, but it is what we agreed upon.

 

[seela]

I'm not sure how our use of the safeword is different from your not having a safeword at all?

I'm not going to defend myself here, in the end I was just sharing how it works in my relationship. It might not be the best way, but it is what we agreed upon.

I wasn't looking for controversy, although on a second read my post did come off a bit that way. I was just wondering, because I've had a completely different idea of why the safeword exists. I mean, it's a safety measure and if it's going to be punished for, I don't know understand why even have one in the first place.

And the reason I don't have a safeword is that we haven't found it necessary. "My shoulder is dislocated again" works just as well as I imagine "Red! My shoulder is dislocated again" would work for us.

But this whole thing is OT, sorry.

 

[Claire73]

I wasn't looking for controversy, although on a second read my post did come off a bit that way. I was just wondering, because I've had a completely different idea of why the safeword exists. I mean, it's a safety measure and if it's going to be punished for, I don't know understand why even have one in the first place.

And the reason I don't have a safeword is that we haven't found it necessary. "My shoulder is dislocated again" works just as well as I imagine "Red! My shoulder is dislocated again" would work for us.

But this whole thing is OT, sorry.

Thanks for the explanation, seela. I understand why you do not have a safeword now.