Wondering_Newb
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- Dec 12, 2005
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Do they? Do they really? Did/do you play devil's advocate in the inter-racial marriage or same-sex marriage debate? Because this is the same sort of thing. You may never understand why some people tick the way you do, but it's really unarguable that the practice of BDSM is within the spectrum of normal human sexuality/psychology. Some people are wired this way, some are not and whether they are or aren't isn't susceptible to judgement!
As for identifying "the other side," I sincerely doubt you have enough information and understanding to identify and articulate the concepts you are arguing against. I also doubt you will find much useful information on Lit. In my experience, very few members of this site are real-world practitioners of BDSM. As someone mentioned above, Fetlife is a much better resource. Ideally, you'll go to your local munch and meet real people who do this every day. You'll find the vast majority are as normal, or fucked up, as you or I.
Sorry, I don't have the time to address the rest of your interesting questions. It's 14:12 where I am and I simply don't have the time right now. I'll try to get back to this later, or feel free to shoot me a PM.
Concerning inter-racial marriage and same-sex marriage, no but there are plenty of people out there that do. Not that he was a devils advocate of any sort but Muhammed Ali made some interesting points that are somewhat invalid in retrospect but probably made some sense back then. He may have been hit on the head a few times but in no way was he a dumb man or someone scared of confrontation or scandal, yet he supported the white segregationalist line on this issue. Even today race-mixing is very much rare and shows that people aren't as open as they are just. And perhaps that's the point you're making in so far that everyone need not understand what everyone else are doing but that they should defend their right to do so. As a general principle there's no way I can even try to argue against that.
Well I had an account on here since long ago and thought I'd give it a shot. Seems Fetlife is some dating site type of thing but meh, maybe eh. Some other fellow also gave that tip earlier.
And you're right, I don't but neither seems the opposite side. So the arguments are all lay, really. They haven't really been that convincing, it's just that some things are so common sense that it's hard to argue against them. I tried to construct my later questions to you in such a way that my knowledge of the subject itself isn't that important. Besides as I said I'm not coming completely out of nowhere here so I get some basic aspects of it and as you can see I first got curious some 9 years ago!
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