Is having sex with someone while the sleep the same as rape?
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LOL! There are many-a-bored-married-folk who'd agree with you on that!
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hehehe, while I dun manage to keep her asleep teh entire way through, I have on more then one occaision woken my pet up to me fuckig her... hehe, she always has some of her stronger orgasms that way, so i can only assume she enjoys it as much as I do 
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Legally, it is non-consensual. Consent must be given, never assumed. If they aren't in condition to give consent, by default, it has not been given.
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My ex used to do this to me on a regular basis. Early in the relationship I had been woken up by him and commented on how nice it was to be woken that way. He was blown away. Turned out it was a major fantasy of his, and he'd never met a girl who liked it.
From that point on, almost every night that we slept together he'd do that. I never slept through the entire act, but he'd usually be well inside me before I stirred. The only problem we ever had was one night he started feeling me up while I was having a dream that some guy was trying to rape me and I flung out my arm and clocked my ex in the face.
After I realized who it was I stopped defending myself and things progressed. I agree that it was consensual because I had given my express consent beforehand. Of course, when he tried the same thing after we had broken up there were a few issues that had to be dealt with. This time the face clocking wasn't so accidental.
From that point on, almost every night that we slept together he'd do that. I never slept through the entire act, but he'd usually be well inside me before I stirred. The only problem we ever had was one night he started feeling me up while I was having a dream that some guy was trying to rape me and I flung out my arm and clocked my ex in the face.
After I realized who it was I stopped defending myself and things progressed. I agree that it was consensual because I had given my express consent beforehand. Of course, when he tried the same thing after we had broken up there were a few issues that had to be dealt with. This time the face clocking wasn't so accidental.
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If you had sex with me while I was sleeping then yes that would be rape.
If any of the lovely ladies of Lit had sex with me while I was sleeping then that would not be rape. That would be a mercy fuck.
trojan_man_co said:
If you had sex with me while I was sleeping then yes that would be rape.
If any of the lovely ladies of Lit had sex with me while I was sleeping then that would not be rape. That would be a mercy fuck.
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Netzach said:
HA HA HA!
Netzach, why do I have a feeling that in the event of nuclear holocaust where you and I would be the last surviving people, there would be very little chance of human repopulation.
For lack of cooperation, not attraction, mind you.
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Marquis said:
I think if you wake her up first it'll be fine. You two would have really attractive kids.
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I like sleep sex. Assuming I'm in bed with someone I wish to keep sexing, then I get off on the idea of him wanting me enough to objectify me that way. Or, in a romantic sense, having him that comfortable and secure with me that it's an okay thing to do without having me sign a waiver in triplicate first.
On a "in my younger dumber days" side, I have on a couple of occasions pretended to be asleep or more intoxicated than I was so I could indulge in the really selfish act of not having to participate while some guy felt me up. Granted I did this where I was safely surrounded by people who could come to my aid if things got out of hand, but one of the hottest things I ever experienced was what started out as a back-rub and ended up as a serious half-hour tit massage while the guy thought I was asleep. The room was mostly dark --- a bunch of us were watching a movie --- so things couldn't get too out of hand and when the movie was over I "woke up" as if nothing had happened. Cruel, I know, but I don't feel too terribly bad for the guy. I mean, nobody told him he had to feel me up, right? He didn't know I was taking advantage of him. I hope he felt at least half as lucky as he did frustrated.
Fantasy-wise I've encountered drugged-sleep rapes a couple of times in books and had many a merry time with myself contemplating them.
On a "in my younger dumber days" side, I have on a couple of occasions pretended to be asleep or more intoxicated than I was so I could indulge in the really selfish act of not having to participate while some guy felt me up. Granted I did this where I was safely surrounded by people who could come to my aid if things got out of hand, but one of the hottest things I ever experienced was what started out as a back-rub and ended up as a serious half-hour tit massage while the guy thought I was asleep. The room was mostly dark --- a bunch of us were watching a movie --- so things couldn't get too out of hand and when the movie was over I "woke up" as if nothing had happened. Cruel, I know, but I don't feel too terribly bad for the guy. I mean, nobody told him he had to feel me up, right? He didn't know I was taking advantage of him. I hope he felt at least half as lucky as he did frustrated.
Fantasy-wise I've encountered drugged-sleep rapes a couple of times in books and had many a merry time with myself contemplating them.
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It's only rape if it's without advance permission.
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If you know the other wants it, how would it be rape?
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Well...
I've had experiences both ways.
My ex husband was an ass. There were all kinds of problems in our relationship and when I was pissed off I did NOT want him touching me. He'd wait until I fell asleep and try to have sex with me anyway. I'd wake up and basically kick the crap out of him. It got to the point if he so much as touched me in my sleep I'd clock him about as hard as I could automatically. He learned to leave me alone and obviously, we didn't last as a couple. Conversely, he was a very deep sleeper with sleep walking issues. There were many times when I'd woken him up (or so I thought) for hot and heavy sex, only to find out he didn't remember it at all the next morning. He was upset that he didn't REMEMBER it, but never upset that it happened.
In subsequent relationships... One bf and I had such completely different schedules that we were never awake at the same time. I'd often wake up to him fucking me rough and hard and would absolutely LOVE it. He had my permission to have sex with me while I was asleep. However, I awoke one night while he was trying to fist me and had to push him off me, and I was PISSED because he knew I was NOT ok with that. *shrugs* Again, that relationship did NOT work out.
My current partner I trust entirely. He would never do something I didn't want him to and he has express permission to do anything to me in my sleep he wants/needs/desires to.
I think the key is a trust level, and if the contact the type of contract is agreed to before hand. I have zero problems with a partner having sex with me while I'm sleeping. Hell, I love to fuck even if it's just to get my partner off when they need release. I do have a problem with them trying to perform sex acts they know I would not normally be ok with while I'm sleeping.
So, there's my $.02.
~ lilmiss_dg
I've had experiences both ways.
My ex husband was an ass. There were all kinds of problems in our relationship and when I was pissed off I did NOT want him touching me. He'd wait until I fell asleep and try to have sex with me anyway. I'd wake up and basically kick the crap out of him. It got to the point if he so much as touched me in my sleep I'd clock him about as hard as I could automatically. He learned to leave me alone and obviously, we didn't last as a couple. Conversely, he was a very deep sleeper with sleep walking issues. There were many times when I'd woken him up (or so I thought) for hot and heavy sex, only to find out he didn't remember it at all the next morning. He was upset that he didn't REMEMBER it, but never upset that it happened.
In subsequent relationships... One bf and I had such completely different schedules that we were never awake at the same time. I'd often wake up to him fucking me rough and hard and would absolutely LOVE it. He had my permission to have sex with me while I was asleep. However, I awoke one night while he was trying to fist me and had to push him off me, and I was PISSED because he knew I was NOT ok with that. *shrugs* Again, that relationship did NOT work out.
My current partner I trust entirely. He would never do something I didn't want him to and he has express permission to do anything to me in my sleep he wants/needs/desires to.
I think the key is a trust level, and if the contact the type of contract is agreed to before hand. I have zero problems with a partner having sex with me while I'm sleeping. Hell, I love to fuck even if it's just to get my partner off when they need release. I do have a problem with them trying to perform sex acts they know I would not normally be ok with while I'm sleeping.
So, there's my $.02.
~ lilmiss_dg
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Given the other thread is touching on this subject matter i thought id give this one a bump to try and help out
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Dude!! WTF? The thread was sleeping! 
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The Antidote to Wet Dreams?
I have been awoken while being fondled! My Goddess said that a hard-on is a terrible thing to waste and was turned on seeing me fully aroused. I don't know what I could have been dreaming about, but I enjoyed being awoken and the lovemaking that followed.
I returned the favor a few times by kissing her beautiful ass while she was asleep.
I have been awoken while being fondled! My Goddess said that a hard-on is a terrible thing to waste and was turned on seeing me fully aroused. I don't know what I could have been dreaming about, but I enjoyed being awoken and the lovemaking that followed.
I returned the favor a few times by kissing her beautiful ass while she was asleep.
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