Is it a secret?

[A Desert Rose]

The last thing my parents or my kids want to know about is my sex life. It would never be part of any serious discussion. (Yes, my kids think they know their mom is kinda kinky. But it's never gone any further than teasing.)

Of course, I've never been in a position where I had to discuss (as in explain) my sex life to anyone. And I don't plan to be. I have a few submissive friends (online and in real life) who I can discuss things with, but the details of my sexual adventures are mine. And I'm extremely selective with whom I share those details.

My sex life is never a topic of conversation between my co-workers or my family members.

It's just no one's business.

 

[subfem1963]

I Keep my private life just that, Private. I do have a few select friends I can discuss certain things with or go to for advice. But the majority I dont think would understand the lifestyle I have chosen.

 

[GeekySub]

Well in my own situation, I found myself absolutely having to tell my mother that I was kinky. It was uncomfortable to an extent, but necessary. We end up changing clothes in the same room often due to participating in certain hobbies together, and I figured I'd better explain the bruises before she got the wrong idea!

 

[caela]

I always find the answers to this question interesting. I personally and very open about my sexuality and rarely care what anyone thinks of it. The only exceptions to that being people at work because I don't want my personal life choices to lose me my job. Since I work in surgery though that is a lot less likely to happen than in many other professions but still not a boundary I am eager to push at.

Outside of work though I don't really care who knows. My mother, stepfather and dad all know. Not sure if the stepmom does or not, she and I don't talk so I know I haven't told her but my dad might have, who knows. All of my friends know and so do some of the siblings (those old enough and with enough guts to have actually asked). Mere aquiaintances don't need to know that much about me but when they move from the realm of aquaintance to friend they will eventually be enlightened when the subject of sex or kink comes up...usually when I am called on to explain why I can't to something because I have to go to a "munch" and they want to know what that is.

 

[NemoAlia]

From my experience, and having been very flexible and switchy and bottomy when I began and always being open with mom --

it is MUCH MUCH harder for mom to handle her baby's ass being whacked by anyone other than her than it is for her to handle baby likes to spank her man. I also found this kind of worry very hard to argue with.

Yeah, this worry is -- for me -- downright impossible to argue with. (Notice my complete lack of rebuttal in that post?) I have a tendency to beat myself up, wondering whether she's right. I can brazen it out in public forums, can be out and proud to my friends, can be the wholesomely kinky girl at the play party -- but can't get my mother out of my head.

Netzach's solution (becoming toppy) is, well, probably out of the question for me. Not that I couldn't do it if I had to, but that I wouldn't enjoy it the way one should.