Is It Wrong To Want Older??

[MissJW]

What others have said, I will repeat: there's nothing wrong with you!

My hubby has 15 years on me, and shoot me if he isn't the sexiest being on this planet. He dyes his hair, but I know for a fact that he's gotten slightly grey already, only for just a few hairs here and there, also on his chin stubble. I like his hair dyed and I don't have a thing for greys, but on him it's just an incredibly hot thought. That just adds the extra bit! Those greys and those little wrinkles around his eyes, those that are most visible when he laughs.

Sometimes, when he's tired, he looks so old and worn. But then I think that's just his old soul manifesting itself, even if it might sound weird. It's the same thing I sometimes see when looking at pictures of him in his twenties. The flawless, physically young body and eyes, where you can see the oldness. He's so beautiful, intelligent, safe, old and totally mine

When I think of old, I don't think of someone who is mentally deteriorating, ending up dead soon, in need of viagra etc. I think of someone who has lots of life experience, who knows what really matters, who has wisdom collected throughout the years and who knows how to take care. That's the definition of "old" to me. So if the OP feels anything like that, I totally understand and repeat: there's nothing wrong with you! And actually, even if she didn't, there's still nothing wrong. To each their own.

Oh and this being fetish & sexuality board, I must admit that being the perv that I am, there's something hot about thinking of a body going older. I love bathing my hubby and soothing his aches, and it def tickles my kinky side... and usually results in him being a lot more achy afterwards

 

[winepleasures]

I think it's great that you know what you like. When I was younger, I always dated older women because I could relate to them intellectually and sexually, they were so much more experienced, it made the sex that much better.

But now that I'm older, I feel a slight shift coming on....

 

[seth6138]

The best thing about The Lit Forums is you can "want" anything your lil heart desires!

 

[klippert]

My name is Marie and I'm 19, I decided to attach a picture as well.
I've been silently looking and reading on here for long and feel like I could fit in here.
All of my friends talk about guys and how hot they are, all of them around our age
I try to join in and play along but truth is I've never been physically, mentally or emotionally attracted to young guys.
Is there something wrong with me?? I just really want an older man who will understand me and be willing to teach me things and explore with me.

Nothing wrong...everyone has a fetish. Including young lady at 19. I might suggest though, you watch you're step.. I find "older" men creeping around 'girls' not old enough to serve me drinks....one step away from crossing the line... and we know a family that suffered the worst of it...

The biggest problem you're having, is your generation lacks communication skills. conversations are via text, or a quick selfie post to a So'Sa Media outlet.

I have a feeling you crave cerebral stimulation as much as physical.... You really want an 'older' man, teaching you, exploring with you...do you have an age range ???

 

[lovekirra25]

I'm 21 and am consistently attracted to older guys. Have been since forever. My first crush was Hugh Laurie, shortly followed by Robert Downey Jr. It was written off as a crush but...well they never quite went away. You aren't alone!

 

[misterb64]

Finally! A place where an old guy can feel appreciated and wanted!

 

[bluesky496]

My name is Marie and I'm 19, I decided to attach a picture as well.
I've been silently looking and reading on here for long and feel like I could fit in here.
All of my friends talk about guys and how hot they are, all of them around our age
I try to join in and play along but truth is I've never been physically, mentally or emotionally attracted to young guys.
Is there something wrong with me?? I just really want an older man who will understand me and be willing to teach me things and explore with me.

no there is nothing wrong with you , age is just a number and who you like and eventually fall in love with is up to you ,just find someone you are comfortable with and actually like and enjoy it .
a lot of my younger friends prefer older partners and they all seem very happy .
so follow your instincts and find that older person and be happy.x

 

[NiceandSmooth]

Most women date men that are older then they are. So I think it's pretty standard.

But you might mean 20 years older or more, and still i've seen that too. Do what you want and what you feel. Once you figure out in life that there is no limitations on what you can do, then sky's the limit.

Nobody can tell you what's right for you, you have to figure that out and go with it. Everybody lives their life for themselves. So do as you please!

 

[jameslewis]

My name is Marie and I'm 19, I decided to attach a picture as well.
I've been silently looking and reading on here for long and feel like I could fit in here.
All of my friends talk about guys and how hot they are, all of them around our age
I try to join in and play along but truth is I've never been physically, mentally or emotionally attracted to young guys.
Is there something wrong with me?? I just really want an older man who will understand me and be willing to teach me things and explore with me.

You'll find no shortage of mature men who would love to get to know you and would love to explore with you and teach you. I imagine you already have an inbox full of interested men.

 

[sexywriterfla]

Welcome, and gorgeous pic!

 

[LadiLucki7]

Definitely nothing wrong. I always knew I was attracted to older guys for as long as I can remember. Always had attraction to friends dads, teachers, etc but smart enough to never act on anything until I was older which was even better after a told a few and played fantasies. I still have my love for a nice young buck every now and then but give me my silver fox anyday

 

[firefighterscott]

Nothing wrong at all I'm 43 and would be honor if a younger came after me.

 

[gunthernehmen]

Nothing wrong at all I'm 43 and would be honor if a younger came after me.

I'm older than he is! Pick me! Pick me!

LOL

Nothing wrong with liking older partners. We tend to have more experience and perhaps last longer. Though the batteries do take longer to recharge....

On the other hand, looking at lovely ladies such as yourself helps that along!

 

[nowisthetime]

It's not wrong, it's not even an unnatural thing for a young woman to want older. Men at your age tend to be inexperienced and not sure of what they want in the future. With age usually comes wisdom and stability. I know I am more secure now at 31 than I was at 21.

 

[kcwordsmith]

my take

First of all, let's define what is meant by an "older" man. If you take it literally just one year can satisfy this definition. But I don't think that really is the intent.

If you are 19, maybe someone 25 can seem to be a lot older. You can always evoke this creepy thought that when he was 18 you were in sixth grade. Personally, I've done that with my wife who is eight years younger. In my case, I've always dated women a few years younger. Women my age seem too old.

So I suppose a good rule of thumb would be 10 years to qualify as a truly older man. But I also subscribe to the belief, as stated in other posts, that age is just a number. When the gap becomes too great though you should take into consideration the physical differences and libido between people who are, say, 30 and 55. That's not to say those differences can't be overcome. It's just to say they are there.

I also think there is something to be said for the fact that men in their 20s are usually not that good at communication and a lot of them think of nothing more than just getting off during sex. Older man bring a lot more to the equation.

Finally, there's is nothing wrong with having a large gap in ages. What is acceptable to you comes down to personal preference, compatibility and attraction.

 

[robed_masseur]

Is there something wrong with me?? I just really want an older man who will understand me and be willing to teach me things and explore with me.

Nothing wrong at all, especially in this thread! No shortage of silver foxes who will treat you right with the benefits of experience and wisdom, and take some time to appreciate you and get to know you rather than rushing mindlessly to a conclusion.

Welcome Marie.

 

[sandie350]

why should it be wrong.......i would explore with him...........

 

[ncm50]

not wrong at all

 

[garyr19680]

My name is Marie and I'm 19, I decided to attach a picture as well.
I've been silently looking and reading on here for long and feel like I could fit in here.
All of my friends talk about guys and how hot they are, all of them around our age
I try to join in and play along but truth is I've never been physically, mentally or emotionally attracted to young guys.
Is there something wrong with me?? I just really want an older man who will understand me and be willing to teach me things and explore with me.

I guess it is normal for older men to drool over the opportunity to be with a younger woman, experience her young body and all that means.

But for me, a young woman doesn't have much appeal. I like to be able to talk, chat, joke, and generally share experiences. It's not all about sex, although sex is an important part, and someone that many years younger just doesn't have the life experience nor be able to pick up on the references and shared experience that an older woman has.

And as for sex, well, an older woman has more experience in the sack. She would know what she wants, she wouldn't need to be taught or trained, or coached. She would know what to do, and would have the experience to figure out quickly what I would like. Heck, the best sex I ever had was with my wife, last weekend, and next time will be better, and the next will be even better. Sure, there's things that I might like to do that she isn't comfy with, but put that against the things we are so well at, no contest.

So my advice is to find the experiences wherever you can while you're young, and know that it'll be better and better with time.

 

[Que]

I guess it is normal for older men to drool over the opportunity to be with a younger woman, experience her young body and all that means.

But for me, a young woman doesn't have much appeal. I like to be able to talk, chat, joke, and generally share experiences. It's not all about sex, although sex is an important part, and someone that many years younger just doesn't have the life experience nor be able to pick up on the references and shared experience that an older woman has.

And as for sex, well, an older woman has more experience in the sack. She would know what she wants, she wouldn't need to be taught or trained, or coached. She would know what to do, and would have the experience to figure out quickly what I would like. Heck, the best sex I ever had was with my wife, last weekend, and next time will be better, and the next will be even better. Sure, there's things that I might like to do that she isn't comfy with, but put that against the things we are so well at, no contest.

So my advice is to find the experiences wherever you can while you're young, and know that it'll be better and better with time.

This is very true. It was for me once upon a time. My wife and I at one time were relatively well known in the sex-blogging community. The theme of our blog was keeping sex interesting in the confines of being with only each-other for the long haul.

The sex was very good. We could read each other so well. At the peak we had no secrets and that, too, made for intimacy that you cannot match with a random hook-up

I disagree, though that it is age or the alignment of areas of interest that makes it good. It is the commitment to each other and growing together that happens as you get to know someone.

For outright stimulation nothing beats "new" but as the country song says, "Whatcha gonna do when the new wears off and the old shines through?" - meaning that you are still you no matter who you are with. Self improvement is always fulfilling and something you can bring with you to the next relationship.

The age thing doesn't matter at all in bed. I have been connected with some closer to my age and at other times, less connected than I would like. I have had really good intimacy with really big age gaps.

My last partner I was not looking to pick anyone up. I went somewhere outside of my usual pattern to spend time with myself. She hadn't been with anyone in a while and we got to talking and I thought we connected. In public she was very responsive to my non-sexual touching. I have to have cuddling. Without it it seems distant and fake. In private she was skittish yet horny, but not at all comfortable with intimate sex. The mistake I made was thinking I could shortcut the work that goes into building intimacy.

The partner before that, I had similar concerns. I had deliberately not pulled the trigger several times with potential partners. I had waited to see if something built from that initial heat of attraction, and well...if you don't add fuel, attraction fades. So this time I decided "fuck it" my body would help my mind catch up. This was no build-up of intimacy at all. I was fretting as I drove us to the hotel, and a short conversation that came up due to her background as a trauma nurse suddenly bonded us enough that the first time with her was quite lovely, really.

So it depends.

In your case, obviously grow and develop what you have with a cherished partner. I hope for decades. If for some reason you find yourself single again, take the advice of a dirty old man. Don't kick a youthful one out of bed for eating crackers. You never know.

 

[Alliecat1970]

Nothing wrong with being attracted to older men, especially for fun. Just be mindful that while a twenty year age difference may not be a big deal when you are 20, it is a whole different ball game when you are 50 and your partner is 70....

 

[Carlskitty]

Always had older men all my life. Never wanted anyone my age. Now sir is only 6 years older then me . But when I was your age my first older guy was 47 .
So no nothing wrong with u at all ,

 

[KUJACK]

No problem

I had a 70yr old woman when I was 50. She was a beautiful real redhead and we fucked are brains out. She was very appreciative since it was a long time for her. Only did her once, but we both enjoyed each other, lots of kissing.

 

[Itsahard1]

What a young woman get: attention from someone experienced enough to know how to treat a woman; sex from a man who has learned many of the ways a man can give pleasure to a woman with fingers, tongue, cock, and more; security of a relationship with a man who is secure financially, emotionally, and secure in his knowledge of himself. What does a mature man get: fresh, new, smooth body to touch and caress, a student who will be learning all the varieties of ways her body can receive and give pleasures; energy and enthusiasm. Sounds like potentially perfect matches. Any young ladies interested?