Is male desire cyclical?

[lay5587]

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[Que]

No

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[Pink_Milkmaid]

Men have monthly and life-long hormonal cycles just like women do, so there's some natural ebb and flow to desire based on biology alone. Also people vary greatly when it comes to the effects of stress on libido. That's usually where I see a lot of sexual mismatch.

There are also some tentative links between Asperger's and asexuality, and Asperger's is predominantly a condition that affects men. Hopefully there will be some additional research coming out about this over the next few years.

Fascinating. I can't wait to see that study.

 

[SquareC]

I've wondered the same thing myself and I'd also like to thank the gentlemen for sharing!

 

[Pink_Milkmaid]

I've wondered the same thing myself and I'd also like to thank the gentlemen for sharing!

Yes! This thread actually helped me a lot!

 

[newgentleguy]

I've been wondering a lot about something lately. So many articles, books, and indeed threads here are devoted to female desire--what times of the month, times of life, times of year are more likely to make female desire wax and wane. And it's become a very accepted "fact" that female desire is fickle and that their partners have to bear with these periods of lower interest. But no one really talks about male desire--the converse of the "women are fickle" narrative is the "men want it all the time" myth. But just from my own admittedly limited experience, I know that's not true. I've definitely noticed some patterns with the partners I've had. So men, share--is there a time of day, the month, the year or time of life when desire is either really high or really low? Did you hit a certain age like 40 and it took a big hit? Is it tied to external factors like work or family stress or does it seem more seasonal or hormonal? Or does it indeed stay pretty much constant for you regardless of what's going on?

i'm always in the mood... just wired that way with lots of short circuits created over a lifetime. totally in love and still so attracted to my wife (29 years). she is not anywhere nearly as sexual as i am, and we've fought and struggled sometimes bitterly. But, i still have a crush on her like the first day we met. The love is what held us together (and of course a bunch of kids!)

In our late 50's and enjoying the graceful aging process...

 

[Pink_Milkmaid]

i'm always in the mood... just wired that way with lots of short circuits created over a lifetime. totally in love and still so attracted to my wife (29 years). she is not anywhere nearly as sexual as i am, and we've fought and struggled sometimes bitterly. But, i still have a crush on her like the first day we met. The love is what held us together (and of course a bunch of kids!)

In our late 50's and enjoying the graceful aging process...

Thanks for the great reply!

 

[Learin]

I haven't heard that males have a periodic cyclical desire. Trust me, most of the times they're almost always in the mood to do it.

 

[twister947]

Mine waxes and wanes, but I never, ever, say no.

I wish I could tell you what causes this ebb and flow, but I've been unable to figure it out.

 

[Pink_Milkmaid]

Mine waxes and wanes, but I never, ever, say no.

I wish I could tell you what causes this ebb and flow, but I've been unable to figure it out.

That's a good philosophy

 

[Black_and_White_Writer]

I've been wondering a lot about something lately. So many articles, books, and indeed threads here are devoted to female desire--what times of the month, times of life, times of year are more likely to make female desire wax and wane. And it's become a very accepted "fact" that female desire is fickle and that their partners have to bear with these periods of lower interest. But no one really talks about male desire--the converse of the "women are fickle" narrative is the "men want it all the time" myth. But just from my own admittedly limited experience, I know that's not true. I've definitely noticed some patterns with the partners I've had. So men, share--is there a time of day, the month, the year or time of life when desire is either really high or really low? Did you hit a certain age like 40 and it took a big hit? Is it tied to external factors like work or family stress or does it seem more seasonal or hormonal? Or does it indeed stay pretty much constant for you regardless of what's going on?

About a year ago my husbands very high sex drive dropped off a it while mine has become more pronounced. He still has a high sex drive but he said it has fluctuated a bit in the last decade for him since his late 20s.

A friend said her husband was similar. She did say when he got to his mid 40s it really kicked in again and he got a lot more highly sexed. It depends on many factors, our jobs/careers, home life, health both physical and mental and spiritual and also on other things going on in life.

 

[heatseekher01]

with me it's about time. having the right time - and perhaps a strange thing to say - 'habit'.
When our kids are home from University we lose our free time, and then we're into 'quickie' territory - which isn't my thing. During the summer months the ability to have decent /long play sessions comes down to when we'll have the house to ourselves for a night.

I tend to write the odd bit of erotica, whether to share with Mrs H or not, and i find that this plus popping into forums like this and Fet tends to keep my interest high - but as i said above the need is tempered by having the right time. Especially as we like to have a bit of a bdsm/bondage session when the occasion permits.

Work pressures, tiredness etc do have a role, and there have been a few times when we had kind of promised ourselves some fun only to get in from work and want nothing more than a cuddle and a 'veg' on the sofa. If its worth doing - its worth doing right and in the right frame of mind.

 

[rockinjay]

A lot of desire stems from stimulation and anticipation. There's the obvious role that our immediate environment and state of mind will play.

For instance, when I've had a stressful day at work, I feel like a release to get my mind off anything that's bothering me. When work is going well, my mind is relatively at peace with work expanding or contracting to fill time available. When I'm relaxed and chilling in this situation, I get aroused and seek a release.

I suppose the end result doesn't vary much but the motivation and the path towards release differs on occasion.

 

[Nightierub]

Men have monthly and life-long hormonal cycles just like women do, so there's some natural ebb and flow to desire based on biology alone. Also people vary greatly when it comes to the effects of stress on libido. That's usually where I see a lot of sexual mismatch.

There are also some tentative links between Asperger's and asexuality, and Asperger's is predominantly a condition that affects men. Hopefully there will be some additional research coming out about this over the next few years.

Being an undiagnosed High functioning autistic I lean towards asexuality and fetishism in phases. But I have noticed a strong decrease in my libido within the last decade or longer, I'm 45 now and I go thru times where sex is a constant thought with frequent masturbation sessions, but longer periods, esp during high stress or high workloads where it is not even a thought. It has comeback here and there since I started taking a dhea supplement and vitamin D.

 

[Pink_Milkmaid]

Being an undiagnosed High functioning autistic I lean towards asexuality and fetishism in phases. But I have noticed a strong decrease in my libido within the last decade or longer, I'm 45 now and I go thru times where sex is a constant thought with frequent masturbation sessions, but longer periods, esp during high stress or high workloads where it is not even a thought. It has comeback here and there since I started taking a dhea supplement and vitamin D.

The DHEA supplement seems to help? Does it help with anything else? (Considering rec'ing this to my man)

 

[Nightierub]

The DHEA supplement seems to help? Does it help with anything else? (Considering rec'ing this to my man)

Its sort of a testosterone booster, I take 100 mg a day, but it also adds aggressiveness as a side effect, I notice I road rage or become irritable sometimes. But it helps me out. It helped slim me down and gain some muscle mass and definition.