Is oral sex more intimate than sex sex?

[Dyslexicea]

Is oral sex more intimate than sex sex?

I'm sorry but I just couldn't help laughing!

As for oral being more intimate, for some of us oral is the sex sex, although I have to admit I love her fingers, actually lately her hand, penetrating my vagina. The feeling of her inside of me is incredible.

For me making love is intimate, something we do sometimes but at other times we have lustful carnal sex and although I'm in love with her it's not really very intimate.

 

[hikingman37]

I've discussed this with someone before. Oral sex can be more intimate than average penetrative sex - when physical acts reflect emotional ones. A person's senses are completely immmersed in the most (for want of a better less juvenile term) private parts of another person, who has revealed that part of their body to them. To allow someone to perform oral sex on you is to know that they have a comletely intimate sensory experience of you, and they have accepted that from you.

Though, as someone said above, intimacy is a state of mind. When the physical aspect means nothing about the mental or emotional, it loses that connection. Simply that many do associate strong emotions and vulnerability to the sexual parts of their bodies.

the emotion, whether of submission or domination, also adds greatly to the act.

 

[xjasminex]

the emotion, whether of submission or domination, also adds greatly to the act.

Sexual emotions don't exclusively fall into either dominance or submission, though those states of mind can very much enhance the act.

 

[sheablue]

Is oral sex more intimate than sex sex?

I'm sorry but I just couldn't help laughing!

As for oral being more intimate, for some of us oral is the sex sex, although I have to admit I love her fingers, actually lately her hand, penetrating my vagina. The feeling of her inside of me is incredible.

For me making love is intimate, something we do sometimes but at other times we have lustful carnal sex and although I'm in love with her it's not really very intimate.

I know, I was laughing when I wrote it. But "vaginal sex" or "intercourse" or even "penetrative sex" sounds so clinical! And penetrative sex could mean so many delightful things.

Maybe it is all just a state of mind. Like you were saying, I love my lover's fingers inside me, almost as much as I love a cock. I don't know why that is ... is it more ... possessive?

I don't have any experience with sex with women, though I did think about it when pondering this question ... aaaand let's just leave it at that.

 

[KoPilot]

Define sex?

Also, I'd say that having him read my erotica is more intimate than a lot of stuff we do in the sack.

 

[RawMonsterLove]

I agree intimacy is more a state of mind than a single act or series of actions.
With regards to oral sex, I find providing oral sex to be easy, unattached, empowering at moments and generally lacking in intimacy.

yes, but can you take your time with your tongue while being "unattached"?

 

[StrayKat]

yes, but can you take your time with your tongue while being "unattached"?

Excuse me but, what?

 

[xjasminex]

I reckon he's saying he wouldn't go down on someone he didn't care about, aka. is 'unattached' to, in contrast to the poster he's quoting who's saying a blowie is a blowie, and not about being close to the guy. Seems like an interesting demonstration of the cliche of women willing to provide pleasure and men less willing.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

I was just writing about this in my blog, recounting the first time I ever gave a blowjob.

Is oral sex more intimate? I believe it is. For me at least. There is something about getting your face all up in there, your mouth as an orifice, your tongue as a penetrator ... All your senses engages so fully. It's so visceral.

Of course there have been many times where I used sucking a cock for some other reason, and it didn't feel intimate at all. But in general, would you agree that there is something about using your mouth that is so much more intimate?

I just sigh a big sigh of relief when my mouth and eyes feast on a woman, It is as if I were home from a long hard journey. I am lost in her pleasure and there is no desire on my part there is need for nothing more.

 

[tristantrotsky]

Mouth-Job

When my Boyfriend ejaculates in my mouth, I'm closer to his orgasm than he is. How much more intimate can that be…? Love it…!

 

[todski28]

I have given some thought to this and I'm undecided about one act being more intimate than the other as I can paint scenarios that will argue the opposite of either. However, I have a few thoughts I will share.

When I think about intimacy, it is about feeling more connected, which for me is usually felt most intensely in the silent whispers of the exchange between eyes. Eye contact and the wordless conversation there can feel far more penetrating and intimate across a fully clothed crowded room than any closed door completely nude sexual act.

That said, I think that oral with eye contact is far more intimate because it seems to reveal and engage honest subtleties and emotions that are sometimes otherwise shy, hidden, or missed. I also think that some of the more typical oral positions tend to allow for more steady gazing which can contribute to feeling more connected, and thusly more intimate.

That aside, I also had the thought that engaging the part of you that controls the life force of breathing, eating, and communication it is possibly far more vulnerable than engaging the more conventional and fleshier parts much more native to deep penetration, bumping, and/or pounding. Maybe there is something to the human animal psychology of that?

Or maybe it simply feels like "more" because it engages more of the senses by adding what someone tastes like to the everything you know and like about them list. Or maybe that is just the foodie in me getting tangled up with my sexuality again.

This is an amazing description, add this
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_many_nerve_endings_are_in_your_lips
Into the equation and what you have is every sense organ in your body working at the same time, sight of your partner engaged in pleasure, taste, smell, texture, sounds of their pleasure the sounds of your own administrations and despite the submissive side of it being on your knees or being lower than your lover you have more control, unless he is fuckingyour throat, but even then bodies natural gag reflex and needing to breathe gives you a modicum of control sex doesn't.

Intimacy to me is a moment thing however it is I believe easier to create an intimate moment when looking into the others eyes before you begin. To me oral sex on a woman is the ultimate sensual and intimate experience, and the orgasms you can deliver would be different than any other form.

For those that don't want to click link
How many nerve endings are in your lips?
Answer
The lips (and tongue) are the most densely concentrated with nerve endings of any part of the human body, surpassing both the clitoris and frenulum of the penis. The exact number varies from person to person, but at a rough estimate I would say 10,000

 

[Shield_Maiden]

When my Boyfriend ejaculates in my mouth, I'm closer to his orgasm than he is. How much more intimate can that be…? Love it…!

^^ Yes. This. ^^

There's just something about kneeling... *Shivers