Is Pleasure Really What It's All About?

[midwestyankee]

Wow......I guess I meant physical nerve-ending sensation.....leading to orgasmic release.
Ya'll have my mind bent, now.......

"pleasure in all its myriad intellectual and emotional forms too"

I've never had to think so deeply about sex before.....ya'll have me thinking vanilla folks are stuck in this small space when there's a whole universe of possibilities yet to explore.

Totally off the topic, it's my wedding anniversary today, so happy anniversary to me! (not saying how many years, but let's say decades)

Pleasure is experienced in the mind and each mind has been influenced by a zillion different experiences. That which we call pleasure might bore another, or worse.

You might be thinking of sensation play - that is, play in which the primary goal is to create particular sensations in one's partner. The thing is, that's a very personalized thing. One partner might climax over and over again from having a feather drawn across her nipple while another might not get to climax unless she's first spanked or beaten while blindfolded. Each was the receiver of sensations, but quite different ones. And yet both would probably call their experiences pleasurable.

And happy anniversary.

Azalea, eh? I see you came early this spring.

 

[njlauren]

There are many facets to it as others have written. If you are talking sexual pleasure, i.e. that it all is about heightening an orgasm, then it very well may not be. Others have talked about the pleasure of knowing you are serving another in a D/s relationship, that you have brought pleasure to your M or whatever. There is the pleasure of scene play, of being taken into another universe of sorts, of being changed. For me what made the D/s incredibly fulfilling was inherently it is a fantasy relationship of sorts (before jumping on this as meaning not real, let me explain), that there was this incredible level between us that was our special world, with me as the slave to My Lady, it was always there existing on a special plane just between us, something outside the 'normal' world that we shared. It was mind blowing because we created it, it was ours, and it was also mind-blowing for us because of how aspects of it played out to people observing us (for example, as an s I was to be mindful of all times of things My Lady needed, whether it was opening a door for her, or allowing her the honor of walking first through a door, or at a party making sure she always had what she needed without asking, etc). To others it seemed like a mindful spouse/partner, to us it was part of our own magic.

That doesn't mean it cannot be about sex, after playing with me My Lady would be quite turned on and the sex pretty mind-blowing, especially since I was obviously expected to make sure she got what she deserved, but that wasn't why we did all of it. Obviously BD/SM has strong sexual components to it (duh, I know) but it also taps into a lot of who we are I think. It also varies from person to person, the couple 'playing' with blindfolds and restraints and spanking to enhance their love life would say differently, which in their world is true. I think the answer is it depends on who you are talking about, that for lifestyle people the answer is quite different then people who simply use it as enhanced play in their lives

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

I think that pleasure is something you would experience and then willingly wish to continue or to do again. So, yes, I think it is all about pleasure. Even if or especially if it's wretched pleasure... or if it is soothing a need so intense it feels like the need to survive....survival (by my definition of pleasurable) for me has overall been a pleasurable experience.

 

[KoPilot]

SO.........for some folks, orgasm is not actually pleasurable.

I'll be happy to take one every now and then, but there are TONS of other things I'd rather have instead. (That's why I stopped masturbating... without that added element of "being done to", it was pretty pointless for me. )

And happy anniversary!

 

[Azalea]

I'll be happy to take one every now and then, but there are TONS of other things I'd rather have instead. (That's why I stopped masturbating... without that added element of "being done to", it was pretty pointless for me. )

And happy anniversary!

Thanks!


"Azalea, eh? I see you came early this spring."

Midwestyankee, I used to be here a good bit, back in around 2002-3. I wrote with partners in the role-play forum. If you check my pposts, you'll find several stories I cowrote. But then I got, well, scared away by the obssessive nature of this place.
Believeit or not, what brought me back was "Fifty Shades."

 

[sunflowersubmits]

When I submit to someone, it is not because of the physical pleasure. I can get that from a good fucking almost anywhere. It is because of a need to trust someone fully, give them control of what pleasure and pain I can feel that I am a submissive. Their pleasure gives me more pleasure than any orgasm.

 

[midwestyankee]

Thanks!


"Azalea, eh? I see you came early this spring."

Midwestyankee, I used to be here a good bit, back in around 2002-3. I wrote with partners in the role-play forum. If you check my pposts, you'll find several stories I cowrote. But then I got, well, scared away by the obssessive nature of this place.
Believeit or not, what brought me back was "Fifty Shades."

I'll have to go take a look. Nothing like a hot story to make a dull afternoon pass more pleasantly.

 

[palemoon2035]

When I submit to someone, it is not because of the physical pleasure. I can get that from a good fucking almost anywhere. It is because of a need to trust someone fully, give them control of what pleasure and pain I can feel that I am a submissive. Their pleasure gives me more pleasure than any orgasm.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[Shankara20]

Each person gets a gumball of some sort for every action he or she takes, or doesn't. The gumballs vary, and so do each person's coins.

But there are a LOT of gumballs involved in sex.

"gumballs" oooh I like that metaphor (or is it an analogy? I can never remember)

I will use it in other places and never give you direct credit - but I suppose I could offer some sort or gumball...

 

[sunflowersubmits]

I couldn't have said it better myself.

Thank you

 

[BeAGoodBoy]

There is something fabulously self-indulgent about doing "all that work" in order to get off.

Oh so true.