It's difficult for men to make me orgasm.

[Sienna62]

I'm 26, F, from the USA.
I love sex, and everything about it. The different kinks, communities, the fact it can be sentimental and emotional or quick and shameless.
I lost my virginity at 19 to my college boyfriend. It was OK. We had a very strange sex life for those three years which I probably do not need to get into specific details about but the only time he could ever make me orgasm was when I was flat on my back while he fingered my pussy and I rubbed my clit. Usually the fingering needed to be fast and deep and towards my back. I strictly did the clit rubbing.

After we broke up that continued to be the only position I could ever orgasm in with other partners. The fingering had to be in the same fashion as well. Fast, deep, towards the back.

I enjoy penetration, and in certain positions it feels amazing but if I were to orgasm I would definitely need the conjunction of my bullet vibrator now.

I'm just wondering...is this normal? Am I bound to only having an orgasm in this position for the rest of my life? When I masturbate I can orgasm in whatever position I please as long as I have my toys (specifically with the bullet vibe). But when it comes to men I have used that vibrator in doggy or missionary and it is just not the same.

And before anyone is curious, no I have not orgasmed from oral either. My college boyfriend was disgusted by it and never performed. I have since had head from various men and it is enjoyable but I can't get the thought out of my head that they are going to be disgusted by me. Along with that I just can't figure out how to 'tell them' what to do. They usually give up in ten or so minutes and we move on.

Met a beautiful sensual sexual woman of 44 who despite rewarding loving marriage producing 2 children , several beautiful lovers all of which had resulted in highly enjoyable sex - had never climaxed.
A small bullet vibrator changed everything.

 

[old_hippy_46]

I'm 26, F, from the USA.
I love sex, and everything about it. The different kinks, communities, the fact it can be sentimental and emotional or quick and shameless.
I lost my virginity at 19 to my college boyfriend. It was OK. We had a very strange sex life for those three years which I probably do not need to get into specific details about but the only time he could ever make me orgasm was when I was flat on my back while he fingered my pussy and I rubbed my clit. Usually the fingering needed to be fast and deep and towards my back. I strictly did the clit rubbing.

After we broke up that continued to be the only position I could ever orgasm in with other partners. The fingering had to be in the same fashion as well. Fast, deep, towards the back.

I enjoy penetration, and in certain positions it feels amazing but if I were to orgasm I would definitely need the conjunction of my bullet vibrator now.

I'm just wondering...is this normal? Am I bound to only having an orgasm in this position for the rest of my life? When I masturbate I can orgasm in whatever position I please as long as I have my toys (specifically with the bullet vibe). But when it comes to men I have used that vibrator in doggy or missionary and it is just not the same.

And before anyone is curious, no I have not orgasmed from oral either. My college boyfriend was disgusted by it and never performed. I have since had head from various men and it is enjoyable but I can't get the thought out of my head that they are going to be disgusted by me. Along with that I just can't figure out how to 'tell them' what to do. They usually give up in ten or so minutes and we move on.

I don't think your situation is abnormal. I have been in that situation with a girlfriend. We solved it by bringing in reinforcements, another guy, it solved the problem. It just took her a long time to orgasm, and with the stamina of two men, we successfully achieved our goal.

 

[Kuriousnomore]

I'm 26, F, from the USA.
I love sex, and everything about it. The different kinks, communities, the fact it can be sentimental and emotional or quick and shameless.
I lost my virginity at 19 to my college boyfriend. It was OK. We had a very strange sex life for those three years which I probably do not need to get into specific details about but the only time he could ever make me orgasm was when I was flat on my back while he fingered my pussy and I rubbed my clit. Usually the fingering needed to be fast and deep and towards my back. I strictly did the clit rubbing.

After we broke up that continued to be the only position I could ever orgasm in with other partners. The fingering had to be in the same fashion as well. Fast, deep, towards the back.

I enjoy penetration, and in certain positions it feels amazing but if I were to orgasm I would definitely need the conjunction of my bullet vibrator now.

I'm just wondering...is this normal? Am I bound to only having an orgasm in this position for the rest of my life? When I masturbate I can orgasm in whatever position I please as long as I have my toys (specifically with the bullet vibe). But when it comes to men I have used that vibrator in doggy or missionary and it is just not the same.

And before anyone is curious, no I have not orgasmed from oral either. My college boyfriend was disgusted by it and never performed. I have since had head from various men and it is enjoyable but I can't get the thought out of my head that they are going to be disgusted by me. Along with that I just can't figure out how to 'tell them' what to do. They usually give up in ten or so minutes and we move on.

I was with a girl for a while in your situation. I took it as a personal challenge to change that situation. A lot of patience, practice, experimentation, and being able to last as long as I needed to, and we finally found something that worked for her.

 

[Strixaluco]

I now hate having hook ups with men as I never orgasm. Not only because they often don't care to make me but it's also just difficult to do so due to finding the correct fingering pattern. It's embarrassing and make me want to just masturbate instead.

Well, I've found hookups mostly disappointing anyway and worse than masturbation. It's not like you're necessarily missing on anything there.

A good, caring partner with whom you can get open communication working is much better. For good sex and otherwise.

That can get you over the awkwardness of oral, too. When you know you can trust them. Even in what they like to do. And who cares enough to be patient to learn what makes you cum - and possibly find ways you didn't even think of. Frankly, it's common that it takes some learning. I've had 2 long term partners who didn't need to learn how to make me get wet and cum, and 2 who didn't really learn that in 10 years, only succeeding occasionally... (with hookups it was worse) Similarly I've had to learn my partners. It's not always the same even with men, they may like and need surprisingly different things.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

I'm 26, F, from the USA.
I love sex, and everything about it. The different kinks, communities, the fact it can be sentimental and emotional or quick and shameless.
I lost my virginity at 19 to my college boyfriend. It was OK. We had a very strange sex life for those three years which I probably do not need to get into specific details about but the only time he could ever make me orgasm was when I was flat on my back while he fingered my pussy and I rubbed my clit. Usually the fingering needed to be fast and deep and towards my back. I strictly did the clit rubbing.

After we broke up that continued to be the only position I could ever orgasm in with other partners. The fingering had to be in the same fashion as well. Fast, deep, towards the back.

I enjoy penetration, and in certain positions it feels amazing but if I were to orgasm I would definitely need the conjunction of my bullet vibrator now.

I'm just wondering...is this normal? Am I bound to only having an orgasm in this position for the rest of my life? When I masturbate I can orgasm in whatever position I please as long as I have my toys (specifically with the bullet vibe). But when it comes to men I have used that vibrator in doggy or missionary and it is just not the same.

And before anyone is curious, no I have not orgasmed from oral either. My college boyfriend was disgusted by it and never performed. I have since had head from various men and it is enjoyable but I can't get the thought out of my head that they are going to be disgusted by me. Along with that I just can't figure out how to 'tell them' what to do. They usually give up in ten or so minutes and we move on.

Your 26 years old. Probably dating same age. That's the problem.

 

[Xxllrs69xx]

You’re 26 years old. Probably dating same age. That's the problem.

Totally. What I know now compared with what I knew at 26 is as vast as the ocean. You need patience and understanding that it will take time to find the right partner and expect to learn during the journey.

 

[big_cane_sugar]

I have since had head from various men and it is enjoyable but I can't get the thought out of my head that they are going to be disgusted by me.

That's really too bad. I'm a straight guy and I can assure you that at least some of us love the smell and taste of pussy, not to mention the joy of knowing that we're pleasing a woman we care about. Even if you never get into oral, I hope that someday you at least find someone who helps you realize how beautiful you are down there.

Also, if any straight guys are reading this and are not already aware of this: go the fuck down on your women. Warm them up properly by taking care of all the stuff that would distract them and then some romance and foreplay, and then get busy down there. Let them know how beautiful all their bits are, how good they smell and taste and feel, how much you like being down there, how happy you are that you make them feel good, and stay down there having a good time until they insist that you stop. Use any toys they enjoy too. Besides the pleasure of the act itself, you'll probably find it a very good investment.

 

[Curious_2]

Since most people are mostly visual learners I ask Lovers to show me what they like. If the goal is sexploration then its different. Just do what comes to mind and see if you guessed right.Both can be quite fun and sensual




I've been waiting, keeping the bed warm

I'll have a double of what he having

 

[Curious_2]

I'll have a double of what he having

Well fuck me a"running in a bucket

 

[BiCuriousWriter]

I'm 26, F, from the USA.
I love sex, and everything about it. The different kinks, communities, the fact it can be sentimental and emotional or quick and shameless.
I lost my virginity at 19 to my college boyfriend. It was OK. We had a very strange sex life for those three years which I probably do not need to get into specific details about but the only time he could ever make me orgasm was when I was flat on my back while he fingered my pussy and I rubbed my clit. Usually the fingering needed to be fast and deep and towards my back. I strictly did the clit rubbing.

After we broke up that continued to be the only position I could ever orgasm in with other partners. The fingering had to be in the same fashion as well. Fast, deep, towards the back.

I enjoy penetration, and in certain positions it feels amazing but if I were to orgasm I would definitely need the conjunction of my bullet vibrator now.

I'm just wondering...is this normal? Am I bound to only having an orgasm in this position for the rest of my life? When I masturbate I can orgasm in whatever position I please as long as I have my toys (specifically with the bullet vibe). But when it comes to men I have used that vibrator in doggy or missionary and it is just not the same.

And before anyone is curious, no I have not orgasmed from oral either. My college boyfriend was disgusted by it and never performed. I have since had head from various men and it is enjoyable but I can't get the thought out of my head that they are going to be disgusted by me. Along with that I just can't figure out how to 'tell them' what to do. They usually give up in ten or so minutes and we move on.

I had a gf once who had problems cumming unless from masturbation. Her wish was to cum from being licked. I loved the challenge, of course. We knew it would take time for us to find out how it would work best for her. Everyone is different, mastrubation is a lot about nerve endings and no one is wired the same. We would experience and let her give directions and I would try different things.

The very first time I also used fingers. And like you, she came when I fingered here, while focusing on her clit with my tongue, deep and towards the back. I don't remember if I was fingering fast but considering the position probably not.

She came from penetration when my cock was pointing to the back. That's how my cock brushed against the same area. When she would be on her back and I would penetrate her vagina from behind, my cock would be pointing downwards too much. Missionary, same. It did work when we were in missionary and I moved my body upwards so my cock would point more downwards. Difficult was that my cock was partly out of her so making speed often made my cock go out. One more thing that worked was when she was riding me and moved not up and down but forwards and then, especially backwards. Same thing: my cock would point towards her back.

Her sensitive bundle of nerve endings just happened to be there.

I would have loved to try anal, starting with toys, but she was hesitant and the relationship ended before we got any further.

What always helped was her getting very very horny. Long foreplay worked, mostly some role-play, something to make her edge until she was begging to be fucked.

 

[Strixaluco]

We knew it would take time for us to find out how it would work best for her. Everyone is different, mastrubation is a lot about nerve endings and no one is wired the same. We would experience and let her give directions and I would try different things.

This is really a major point in all things sexual. Not to expect people to work in just the same way as others, but experiment and find out.

 

[aldbeir]

My take is a guy cannot make a woman cum. He can provide the stimulus for her to cum but a woman's mind controls her orgasm.