Merelan
Lady's Love
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- Mar 29, 2000
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And here she is again folks, poking her 2 cents in...
Just be very careful. Don't hide it from your husband. Talk to him, or better yet, write a letter to him explaining what it is you are looking for.
See, and here's the biggie guys, and gals. If he isn't along with you on this, and you proceed with an online Domme, it isn't going to work. You will spend half your time trying to hide it, and the other feeling guilty. While guilty is a naughty wonderful feeling at times, at others it is gut wrenching and sickening. It can poison the sweetest flavour ie: relationship.
It is obvious, or so I think, that he knows you are needing more. You said you have tried with him, and you both know the results. Is he going to mind you looking for a strictly online Domme? If so, maybe he can be that. Maybe in the physical world he is not capable, but online he might.
Or if not, and he agrees you may search, do it and present him with the choices you find. Then proceed together. Keep him in the know the entire process. If he says it is fine to search and find one, but does not want anything to do with it, that's another story.
Stop. Take a few steps back, a deep breath and stop. You know him, I don't. But... doesn't she always put these "buts" in here....
If he does not like the idea, nor wishes to know anything about it. Then you cannot proceed and feel right about it. Also, if you choose not to tell him at all, it is wrong to proceed, or would be for me.
If you truly crave this and it is not a passing fantasy or wish or fancy, then it is an integral part of you. Something your loved one he should be a part of. Understand??? Even if, as stated above, he says go ahead but "I don't want anything to do with it", stop and think.
Does he really mean it? Are words on a screen and a thrill or two, and on and on, going to be worth it if he suddenly decides you are His wife?
God knows I play with fire all the time, juggling this relationship and society keeps me busy enough. But I have learned one so very important thing.
Communicate exactly what is is you are wanting, needing, hungering for. Write it up. It doesn't have to be a classic. But sometimes in the act of writing you find answers.
I wish you luck, I wish you happiness, passion and fun.
Just please, please be careful.
And don't get me started on the care and feeding of online Dommes.
Just be very careful. Don't hide it from your husband. Talk to him, or better yet, write a letter to him explaining what it is you are looking for.
See, and here's the biggie guys, and gals. If he isn't along with you on this, and you proceed with an online Domme, it isn't going to work. You will spend half your time trying to hide it, and the other feeling guilty. While guilty is a naughty wonderful feeling at times, at others it is gut wrenching and sickening. It can poison the sweetest flavour ie: relationship.
It is obvious, or so I think, that he knows you are needing more. You said you have tried with him, and you both know the results. Is he going to mind you looking for a strictly online Domme? If so, maybe he can be that. Maybe in the physical world he is not capable, but online he might.
Or if not, and he agrees you may search, do it and present him with the choices you find. Then proceed together. Keep him in the know the entire process. If he says it is fine to search and find one, but does not want anything to do with it, that's another story.
Stop. Take a few steps back, a deep breath and stop. You know him, I don't. But... doesn't she always put these "buts" in here....
If he does not like the idea, nor wishes to know anything about it. Then you cannot proceed and feel right about it. Also, if you choose not to tell him at all, it is wrong to proceed, or would be for me.
If you truly crave this and it is not a passing fantasy or wish or fancy, then it is an integral part of you. Something your loved one he should be a part of. Understand??? Even if, as stated above, he says go ahead but "I don't want anything to do with it", stop and think.
Does he really mean it? Are words on a screen and a thrill or two, and on and on, going to be worth it if he suddenly decides you are His wife?
God knows I play with fire all the time, juggling this relationship and society keeps me busy enough. But I have learned one so very important thing.
Communicate exactly what is is you are wanting, needing, hungering for. Write it up. It doesn't have to be a classic. But sometimes in the act of writing you find answers.
I wish you luck, I wish you happiness, passion and fun.
Just please, please be careful.
And don't get me started on the care and feeding of online Dommes.
