Just how Dominant is "grudge fucking"?

[troubledone]

This. Fuck the labels. If it feels good for all involved, do it.

Vixen you seem to like a lot of things i do not understand

 

[VanessaVixen]

Vixen you seem to like a lot of things i do not understand

It happens. It's a wide, wonderful, colourful world out there. There are a lot of kinks I just don't understand either.

 

[troubledone]

It happens. It's a wide, wonderful, colourful world out there. There are a lot of kinks I just don't understand either.

 

[kiltlifter]

omg i never really thought of this before, but it's HOT!
learn something new everyday!

 

[Que]

There's a girl on my crew I think of as the crazy redhead. (I'm told that the two terms together unnecessarily redundant.)

She has fucked almost literally every man on our crew except me. I'm not hating on her promiscuity given the male to female ratio up here... somebody's gotta pull double duty so god bless her for that. I like to talk and she would prefer I shut the hell up.... she's very much a top from the bottom submissive.... I'm in unlikely looking top with a sadistic bent.

we've had our possible moment including 1 morning when I happen to be in her bedroom sans condom, so we passed.

asked in a more roundabout way, "hey, we both know you are down for recreational sex with whomever, why havent we?" ( I had decided as an example a mutual friend of ours that she fucks regularly)

She replied, "oh, he isn't boyfriend material."

it's enough to make me want to fuck her violently unfortunately she would like that.

 

[MeredithEighty8]

I think it's a lot more common than people might think. I had an ex who was at his best when he was pissed at me. I have no problem admitting that there were occasions when I pushed him a bit far because I knew how he would be later on in bed (and sometimes out of bed).

 

[Stella_Omega]

...she's very much a top from the bottom submissive...

As So often happens, I hijack this thread for a public service message;

I'll bet that the lady is not "submissive"at all. She's a Dominant. She's a Domme who bottoms-- she wants to be done unto, but she's not "submitting."

Just something to think about.

 

[desertslave]

As So often happens, I hijack this thread for a public service message;

I'll bet that the lady is not "submissive"at all. She's a Dominant. She's a Domme who bottoms-- she wants to be done unto, but she's not "submitting."

Just something to think about.

I always thought of it as "bottoming from the top."

<cue Bob Dylan's "You Gotta Serve Somebody">

 

[Que]

As So often happens, I hijack this thread for a public service message;

I'll bet that the lady is not "submissive"at all. She's a Dominant. She's a Domme who bottoms-- she wants to be done unto, but she's not "submitting."

Just something to think about.

Aha moment.

I need to think on this a bit..

My ex definatlely acted out a sexually submissive role..i would have said a "service bottom"..but she never really served me ever unless it was in her interest to do so.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Yay, a hijack!

I always thought of it as "bottoming from the top."

<cue Bob Dylan's "You Gotta Serve Somebody">

That's a good way to put it

Aha moment.

I need to think on this a bit..

My ex definatlely acted out a sexually submissive role..i would have said a "service bottom"..but she never really served me ever unless it was in her interest to do so.

The notion can really flip your world over, huh?

I have a little crusade going on, a mission to Spread The Word, my brothers and sisters, because yeah verily-- D/s ain't all that all the time.

And a woman who just can't do that submission thing right-- is still a damn fine woman, and still deserves to get what she wants in bed. And my children, when we realise that Bottom and submission are two separate paths-- which might go the same direction in a person but don't have to-- we lose some of that projection shit that can go along with playing the wrong role.

And our orgasms shall flourish thereby, amen.

*cough* sorry.

 

[stareingharder]

Not going to lie, I've definitely provoked guys into grudge fucking. Not the healthiest or wisest habit, but so addicting.

There's nothing quite like a good hatefuck or grudgefuck.

I want someone to provoke me.

 

[blu_caprice]

I didn't know this was a common kink, or even that it had a name.

I've been taunting men into "grudge fucking" me pretty much since I started having sex, I find the threat of danger so thrilling. I just thought I was crazy.

Stella_Omega's essay is quite insightful. I've always thought of myself as sexually submissive because I like to be "done unto" as Stella puts it. However, I really have no interest in pleasing anyone unless it's on my terms.

It's something to think about - thanks Stella.