Madame Manga
Really Really Experienced
- Joined
- Aug 28, 2002
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As for the 'nonconsent' thing
It's considered a sign of psychological health to be able to get satisfaction from fantasy rather than having to act on the 'darker' urges that every human experiences. Please do not try to stigmatize this normal process, especially out of ignorance.
As a nonconsent aficionado, I had to draw the distinction for myself some years ago. I couldn't help being aroused by certain situations in fantasy, and discovering that it's common and not a sign of disturbance was immensely reassuring. Let's not get back to the Dark Ages here, OK?
A great many perfectly ordinary people, male and female, fantasize about sexual encounters in which they are 'made' to do things by some compelling and attractive person or persons. This is not the same thing as perpetrating the real crime of rape or of enjoying being genuinely raped. The object of the encounter always retains complete control of the fantasy, and is absolved of responsibility for any acts that occur.
This is a significant sexual releaser for a lot of people, especially intellectual types who don't always indulge the physical animal within. For modern American women, the conflicting signals they are given about their sexuality and their uncertainty about how proactive they should be with men creates an uncomfortable situation fraught with social/religious sanction, peer pressure, gender relations, feminist theory, you name it.
Who the hell wants to fantasize about going to bed with all that baggage attached? When the dark, handsome stranger cuts through all the crap, seizes you in his arms and tells you he wants you so much he will even use force, well, there you go. ;-)
Everyone's lines are drawn in different areas. This site actually doesn't accept 'rapist fantasy' as opposed to 'victim's fantasy', but the acceptable stories can be pretty nasty. Some of the stuff on Lit goes way over MY line. But although I might not go on a date with a man who wrote a violent rape story, if writing it blew off something that might otherwise have gone into planning a real rape, more power to him.
As for the underage thing: Lit is just that way, that's all. They set the bar high here largely because of a gentleman named Ashcroft. American ideas about children and sex are even more screwed up than they are about women and sex, and the court system is far from immune to idiocy. Submit stories that even hint anyone under 18 ever thinks about sex somewhere else.
MM
It's considered a sign of psychological health to be able to get satisfaction from fantasy rather than having to act on the 'darker' urges that every human experiences. Please do not try to stigmatize this normal process, especially out of ignorance.
As a nonconsent aficionado, I had to draw the distinction for myself some years ago. I couldn't help being aroused by certain situations in fantasy, and discovering that it's common and not a sign of disturbance was immensely reassuring. Let's not get back to the Dark Ages here, OK?
A great many perfectly ordinary people, male and female, fantasize about sexual encounters in which they are 'made' to do things by some compelling and attractive person or persons. This is not the same thing as perpetrating the real crime of rape or of enjoying being genuinely raped. The object of the encounter always retains complete control of the fantasy, and is absolved of responsibility for any acts that occur.
This is a significant sexual releaser for a lot of people, especially intellectual types who don't always indulge the physical animal within. For modern American women, the conflicting signals they are given about their sexuality and their uncertainty about how proactive they should be with men creates an uncomfortable situation fraught with social/religious sanction, peer pressure, gender relations, feminist theory, you name it.
Who the hell wants to fantasize about going to bed with all that baggage attached? When the dark, handsome stranger cuts through all the crap, seizes you in his arms and tells you he wants you so much he will even use force, well, there you go. ;-)
Everyone's lines are drawn in different areas. This site actually doesn't accept 'rapist fantasy' as opposed to 'victim's fantasy', but the acceptable stories can be pretty nasty. Some of the stuff on Lit goes way over MY line. But although I might not go on a date with a man who wrote a violent rape story, if writing it blew off something that might otherwise have gone into planning a real rape, more power to him.
As for the underage thing: Lit is just that way, that's all. They set the bar high here largely because of a gentleman named Ashcroft. American ideas about children and sex are even more screwed up than they are about women and sex, and the court system is far from immune to idiocy. Submit stories that even hint anyone under 18 ever thinks about sex somewhere else.
MM
