Ladies question about cocks

[katbound]

For me, size does not matter, Length and girth do not matter. If I am with a man whom I love and who turns me on, as long as he has an erection and we can make love, this is all that matters. Really!

 

[SiSmithy]

A guy here...

My wife is one who says size doesn't bother her. I'm 5.5" long/5.5" around and never felt it was inadequate (and still don't). A few years ago we involved another guy who was probably around 7.5"/6-6.5" maybe.

She did seem to really enjoy herself, but it might just be because it was someone new!

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

For me, size does not matter, Length and girth do not matter. If I am with a man whom I love and who turns me on, as long as he has an erection and we can make love, this is all that matters. Really!

you are a rare one.

 

[darkangel86]

For me, size does not matter, Length and girth do not matter. If I am with a man whom I love and who turns me on, as long as he has an erection and we can make love, this is all that matters. Really!

I am with you. It is how you use it fellas , don't worry about your size

 

[CurlyWurly]

It doesn't matter, there are far more important things than the size of your todger.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

I am with you. It is how you use it fellas , don't worry about your size

and if a guy doesn't know how to use it?

 

[suckonsimon]

and if a guy doesn't know how to use it?

MM, a guy can learn how to use it. The fact is, every guy has to learn how to use it. Some take the trouble to do that; sadly, some of us don't and just settle for their own pleasure rather than finding the full pleasure of pleasuring their woman.

But, like anything else which has all sorts of subtleties about it, good love-making is an art-form, a skill, which needs to be learned and then fine-tuned. No?

A crucial aspect of the learning is the communicating!

Si.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

MM, a guy can learn how to use it. The fact is, every guy has to learn how to use it. Some take the trouble to do that; sadly, some of us don't and just settle for their own pleasure rather than finding the full pleasure of pleasuring their woman.

But, like anything else which has all sorts of subtleties about it, good love-making is an art-form, a skill, which needs to be learned and then fine-tuned. No?

A crucial aspect of the learning is the communicating!

Si.

I just mean how does a guy learn how to use it if there is much criteria and expectations that need to be met.

 

[MAF84]

I just mean how does a guy learn how to use it if there is much criteria and expectations that need to be met.

Sometimes the best thing to do is to try to let go of expectations. Stay in the moment and be open and honest. Follow her body language. Most of us women will, either bluntly or subtly , make it known what is working and what isn't.

 

[katbound]

you are a rare one.

Well, I love a man who is not what one would call well-endowed. It makes no matter to me. He is brilliant. He makes me laugh. He makes me feel good inside. He's good-looking. He wants me. That is all I require.

I am with you. It is how you use it fellas , don't worry about your size

 

[suckonsimon]

I just mean how does a guy learn how to use it if there is much criteria and expectations that need to be met.

Sometimes the best thing to do is to try to let go of expectations. Stay in the moment and be open and honest. Follow her body language. Most of us women will, either bluntly or subtly , make it known what is working and what isn't.

I only know about sex within the context of a loving and caring relationship. When two people have even just the beginnings of that, 'criteria' are not in the frame, and 'expectations' are overtaken by the delight of the experience of connection and warmth and and the chemistry of attraction which is almost totally subjective for each individual. So, you meet someone and there is this mutual attraction thing going and then as some stage, whether sooner or later, there a first bodily union which is almost bound to be a fumbling affair and then the only way is up there-on-in.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

Sometimes the best thing to do is to try to let go of expectations. Stay in the moment and be open and honest. Follow her body language. Most of us women will, either bluntly or subtly , make it known what is working and what isn't.

easier said then done i suppose.

 

[SiSmithy]

I think the problem is when a guy gets pushed back on size, it's happened to me several times despite being a reasonable average.

It does dent your confidence, but you need to try and see beyond it.

 

[MAF84]

easier said then done i suppose.

Most great things are

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

Most great things are

if you couldn't tell I haven't exactly had many experiences, and none of them great.

 

[MrTaboo_seeks_MrsTaboo]

It's all relative. Cock size, Vagina size. A slim cock can be just as satisfying to a female who isn't as slack as a flatpack, self assembly wardrobe.

 

[smallgirl]

Just wondering what other girls like when it comes to a man's cock. I've seen stuff on here about what guys like when it comes to our little kitty's, so I thought I would see what all us girls like!

For me it's girth over length, like perfect would be about 7 inches and thick. I like the balls to be shaved and a nice mushroom head.

So ladies what are your thoughts? Length? Girth? Shaved? Hairy? big balls? Whatever it is that turns you on when it comes to your man's cock please share.

Hmm...girth is really important. 7-8 inches is good but I want it thick. I want to feel FULL.

 

[SiSmithy]

Seeing as 7" is owned by a small percentage of men I do wonder how some of these women get through life having no satisfaction.

Sheesh.

 

[suckonsimon]

Seeing as 7" is owned by a small percentage of men I do wonder how some of these women get through life having no satisfaction.

Sheesh.

Si, what I do wonder, is quite when the tape measure comes out ... or is it what the guy says about himself while his trousers are still on, which some of the girls are reporting.

With all due respect to the women posting nonetheless! I've quite enjoyed reading the thread, and, unlike some of the younger men reading, have sufficient experience to know exactly what six inches of delighted erection on a passionate man can give a woman over and over no problem. So, guys, be cool about what you've got and give attention to what counts: your manner, your charm, your grooming, your dependability and all that stuff. That's where your woman's pleasure comes from. Simon

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

Si, what I do wonder, is quite when the tape measure comes out ... or is it what the guy says about himself while his trousers are still on, which some of the girls are reporting.

With all due respect to the women posting nonetheless! I've quite enjoyed reading the thread, and, unlike some of the younger men reading, have sufficient experience to know exactly what six inches of delighted erection on a passionate man can give a woman over and over no problem. So, guys, be cool about what you've got and give attention to what counts: your manner, your charm, your grooming, your dependability and all that stuff. That's where your woman's pleasure comes from. Simon

thats all well and great.

but the damage has already been done, and I think my chances have dwindled to none.

Being almost 30 years old I doubt I'll ever get laid again.

 

[SiSmithy]

thats all well and great.

but the damage has already been done, and I think my chances have dwindled to none.

Being almost 30 years old I doubt I'll ever get laid again.

Why so melancholic?

How can a woman know how big you are anyway before you have sex? Don't rush into bed, make her like you a lot...the rest will happen naturally.

 

[darkangel86]

and if a guy doesn't know how to use it?

Like my high school teacher used to say "Practice, Practice, Practice" lol. First, being confident is the key. If you already down on yourself, how do you expect someone to open up to you? No disrespect of course

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

Like my high school teacher used to say "Practice, Practice, Practice" lol. First, confident is key. If you already down on yourself, how do you expect someone to open up to you? No disrespect of course

hard to practice when no one wants to help

 

[suckonsimon]

hard to practice when no one wants to help

Come on mate! Forget what's been, put a spring in your step, a smile on your face, and when the time is right a bunch of roses in her hand. You'll find a gal who wants you, to help her. She's out there! Avoiding the guys who are moaning about how miserable life is!

 

[Que]

thats all well and great.

but the damage has already been done, and I think my chances have dwindled to none.

Being almost 30 years old I doubt I'll ever get laid again.

If you let yourself believe that, it will become a self-defeating, self fullfilling expectation....Don't do that to yourself.

I lost my wife in my mid forties...I felt weird in ways I can't even explain. There is a country song at the time a line, "What hurts the most is that we were SO close..." I thought we had the worst of our problems behind us, and that it was a temporary 2 steps back after a recent 4 steps forward...

I always said I didn't believe in "the one and only" - it makes no logical sense and would leave the VAST majority of people alone or with the "wrong" person. When we got brutally honest in about our 15th year of marriage, suddenly we connected on a very real level, and we were connected in ways that made at the time BELEIVE there was one and only one for me, and she was IT. (~chagrined~ Might have helped to have told her that at the time. -hindsight.) We were on what I thought was a hic-cup. I felt her midlife crisis would pass. Be supportive, she'd find herself. Be that person I connected so well to. For about a year, year and a half slow insidious slide apart...

So there I was, stunned. she asked for a divorce, a week later admitted an affair. Once the affair was in the open she moved in, small town, could not be more potentially humiliating. She had shared intimate details, the boyfriend thought he could shame me into submission. He was wrong, but I felt EVERYONE would question my value, even as I struggled to keep my chin up.

It was a YEAR before i even tried to get out there. I was FIFTEEN years older than are now. I was, like you, SURE, that my "time had passed" My brother went through a divorce at 35, he has a beautiful wife (typical cop/nurse pairing, ha!) three more beautiful children, but it was TOO late for me I felt.

I was FLABBERGASTED when at 46 I pulled a beauty 1/2 my age. I didn't believe it was real, I messed that up through indecision, trepidation, and frankly less than studly performance. I was SCARED. I was man enough to admit it, but still...

I give my ex credit she built my sexual confidence to the point that even that sort of thing didn't shatter it, but it was a HUGE dent. I STILL sometimes get the jitters and am not NEAR the performer I was. But when a girl is into YOU she will convince herself, her friends and her ego that you ARE what you eventually WILL be with her. Don't short yourself.

Don't be goal oriented in bed. It is devastating. If I tell you not to visualize pink elephants what do you think about? Exactly.

You get a chance to play- and you will- just play, roll cuddle be playful...be a tease. Do what you do on your time when it FEELS right and it will be right.

I left Wisconsin in early 1967 or I would totally wing for you. I don't know your personal style well enough to give constructive advice...obviously be yourself, thats trite...but be the better stronger, funnier, grandiose version of you. Easy on the alcohol, play some loud music, mug the mirror tell yourself a joke...smile your ass off at what a clown you are before you go out.

Girls are WAY more approachable than you think the are. Be brave, be ruthless...approach them ALL. One of them can't wait for some part of you. You don't know who that is or what it is she sees in you and YOU DON'T NEED TO. Approach them all... let God and their fickle libido's sort it out.

I feel I know your inner self a bit from you are posts I've seen you around a lot in threads we both seem to read, you are better than I at expressing appreciation, paying a sincere compliment...do that...but think of it this way...pretend the girl you are talking to is a sort of off-limit girl...buddy's kid sister or some such. flirt, and tease her like you would one that you SHOULDN'T bed. It will leave a little edgy distance that THEY will want to close. The love the chase. SO much so they will chase dirty old men.

and 30 aint old. If it takes you 18 years to get where I got in 3...you will love being me. -and im rocking an oreo gut recently. smirk