Ladies, what names fo you like being called when your man is talking dirty??

[Bellatrixie]

Don't call me a slut! NEVER
In the throes of orgasm, 'let me fuck your hot cunt hard' is a favourite expression. At times like this, 'my hot little bitch' is okay too.

See whereas "bitch" is one of my don't call me that ever words but slut is just fine LOL.

 

[StrongMaster7]

I have total respect for the ladies on Lit and what their personal tastes are just that. I am thankful they are here, one and all.

It is a minefield to "feel out" a lady on this subject. Again, not meaning any disrespect, I have carefully asked certain ladies what words were "out of bounds" and been told "I have no limits". Then, in play, I have used ONE WORD and been permanently blocked.

I consider myself a gentleman and would never want to demean or insult ANYONE. I try very hard to respect all boundaries, but some people do not really know themselves, it seems.

(This is not a message to any individual on this thread. Just an expression of my experience. No offense is meant to ANYONE.)

Peace and love. Let's all play nicely.

 

[NaturistLouise]

See whereas "bitch" is one of my don't call me that ever words but slut is just fine LOL.

Yes, very interesting how different people react to different words. When hubby calls me his hot little bitch, he does it in such a loving way. LOL

 

[amofiga]

OK ladies. I can see why you might not want to be called a "slut" or a "cunt" but how about how you feel sometimes feel about your sexuality? Do you ever like thinking that you are the hottest cocksucker east of the Mississippi or could you have a super cunt that could fuck a guy's cock down to a nub like a pencil sharpener? I get the feeling that "a slut" is no good but "my slut" is ok. Calling you a "cunt" is off limits but saying that you have the "worlds wettest cunt" is within limits? Is it all about feeling sexy versus feeling used?

I ask this because I'm assuming that you are in a situation where you're having sex with a guy you know reasonably well, in a relationship, married to, etc and that the "dirty talk" is part of an erotic game. In this case, what's wrong with a guy saying "I love getting you so horny that you turn into one hell of a cocksucking slut that needs cock as much as I need cunt"? This isn't lack of respect in my book. In many ways it's just the opposite and an expression of how fucking sexy and animal you can be.

Do women ever like looking in the mirror and admitting to themselves that they actually want to be worshipped as a queen cocksucker or a super fuck? Do they ever sit in church and think ,"If they all only knew what a fucking secret slut I really am?" Do they ever sit in a conference room at work in the middle of a meeting, look around and think, "I wonder if they like having two guys at once like I do?"

I ask because I think men tend to want to regard themselves as "swardsmen" and I wonder if women like thinking about how they love sex.

 

[Boundlife]

It is a minefield to "feel out" a lady on this subject. Again, not meaning any disrespect, I have carefully asked certain ladies what words were "out of bounds" and been told "I have no limits". Then, in play, I have used ONE WORD and been permanently blocked.

I think Asking is respectful. If she doesn't tell you she can't justifiably get upset with you. So don't feel too bad.

I get the feeling that "a slut" is no good but "my slut" is ok. Calling you a "cunt" is off limits but saying that you have the "worlds wettest cunt" is within limits? Is it all about feeling sexy versus feeling used?

Pretty much, for me it's about being seen as a whole person, that I'm who they want not just a cunt{which is a harsh word just from the hard c and t}

In this case, what's wrong with a guy saying "I love getting you so horny that you turn into one hell of a cocksucking slut that needs cock as much as I need cunt"? This isn't lack of respect in my book. In many ways it's just the opposite and an expression of how fucking sexy and animal you can be.

Neither do I but that fits with it being me that is lusted after

Do women ever like looking in the mirror and admitting to themselves that they actually want to be worshipped as a queen cocksucker or a super fuck? Do they ever sit in church and think ,"If they all only knew what a fucking secret slut I really am?" Do they ever sit in a conference room at work in the middle of a meeting, look around and think, "I wonder if they like having two guys at once like I do?"

Not in church, and depends how boring the meeting is But during down time...

I ask because I think men tend to want to regard themselves as "swardsmen" and I wonder if women like thinking about how they love sex.

I do, that's why I'm here

 

[Joe6pack]

Good thread. I have a gift in this area - it's the gift of getting it wrong pretty much every time. I used to have a girlfriend who referred to her "pussy". It was a huge turn-on since I just a kid at the time and she was much older. For my wife, however, "pussy" is a derogatory term when used in reference to her vagina. I'm pretty sure slut, bitch, cunt or the like is likely to get me a knee to the nuts as well. I have never thought of using my or mine before, but I think I will give it a try. I really like a lot of the suggestions. She has never told me, but I do think she likes it when I use her name.

Keep 'em coming.

 

[SultryKitten75]

OK ladies. I can see why you might not want to be called a "slut" or a "cunt" but how about how you feel sometimes feel about your sexuality? Do you ever like thinking that you are the hottest cocksucker east of the Mississippi or could you have a super cunt that could fuck a guy's cock down to a nub like a pencil sharpener? I get the feeling that "a slut" is no good but "my slut" is ok. Calling you a "cunt" is off limits but saying that you have the "worlds wettest cunt" is within limits? Is it all about feeling sexy versus feeling used?

I ask this because I'm assuming that you are in a situation where you're having sex with a guy you know reasonably well, in a relationship, married to, etc and that the "dirty talk" is part of an erotic game. In this case, what's wrong with a guy saying "I love getting you so horny that you turn into one hell of a cocksucking slut that needs cock as much as I need cunt"? This isn't lack of respect in my book. In many ways it's just the opposite and an expression of how fucking sexy and animal you can be.

Do women ever like looking in the mirror and admitting to themselves that they actually want to be worshipped as a queen cocksucker or a super fuck? Do they ever sit in church and think ,"If they all only knew what a fucking secret slut I really am?" Do they ever sit in a conference room at work in the middle of a meeting, look around and think, "I wonder if they like having two guys at once like I do?"

I ask because I think men tend to want to regard themselves as "swardsmen" and I wonder if women like thinking about how they love sex.

I agree, to some of your post. I enjoy being told how sexy of a cum slut I am, by my SO. It's all in a sexual manner, and he means it as a form of truest appreciation. I gets me off, knowing I have him feeling this way about me....knowing most of the women in his past, were true prudes....and would have slapped the shit out of him, if he ever spoken to them, in this manner.

I think most Women's hang-ups on being called slut, whore, or other derogatory names...is due to what we learned in school. Remember how we would all talk about the school slut, in such a vile manner. We don't want that same stigma upon us. Now looking back on it....was she really a slut...or just ahead of the game. She may have known more at 17, than we did, and was just more sexually outgoing. Do we still pity her, or secretly admire her, looking back at all of it?

Yes, I do tend to study Women at clubs/bars/and in public. Since I'm Bi, I love looking at a very attractive Woman, and wondering to myself...is she a starfish, or a sexual goddess?! Is she a kinky cum slut...or would she bitch, if the first drop of cum, falls upon her.

I know, I'm not the norm though.

 

[mistletoe1963]

please don`t call me a slut or a whore...

 

[NaturistLouise]

Slut

Sultrykitten,
You are right on with why I hate the term slut, even though I didn't realize it until now. Both the boys and girls in our school used the word in a negative way ..... But yes, the girl was ahead of the time and enjoying her sexualty - that's all!

 

[SweetGasps]

Majority of the words such as cunt, bitch, and tramp do not do much for me.

Although kitten, princess, baby girl, mami, chiquita, Daddy's girl...these get my blood boiling. Especially in the heat of the moment, with my hair being yanked backwards by a firm hand...oh my stars.

On a sidenote in regards to "bitch" I think the only time I have ever found that as a turn on is using it on a male. There's something about slapping a guy's mouth lightly and calling him bitch while grabbing him by the hair that seems so...right.

 

[Boundlife]

Good thread. I have a gift in this area - it's the gift of getting it wrong pretty much every time. I used to have a girlfriend who referred to her "pussy". It was a huge turn-on since I just a kid at the time and she was much older. For my wife, however, "pussy" is a derogatory term when used in reference to her vagina. I'm pretty sure slut, bitch, cunt or the like is likely to get me a knee to the nuts as well. I have never thought of using my or mine before, but I think I will give it a try. I really like a lot of the suggestions. She has never told me, but I do think she likes it when I use her name.

Keep 'em coming.

Your nut's sent me a psychic message "Please ask first *not the knee *"

 

[CJ/ont]

please don`t call me a slut or a whore...

As you wish my Lady

CJ

 

[buzios]

Love this thread, love to hear how women feel about sex.

my wife loves it when I call her "minha cadelinha", which is "my little female dog" in portuguese. Of course that only happens when I am mounting her doggy style, and the heat is very high. It kinda liberates the animals...

 

[shesnotcheating]

I love the word slut. To me, it simply means a completely sexual woman, a woman who not only enjoys sex, but who craves it. I fantasize constantly about my wife becoming a slut.

That said, the vast majority of women I have discussed this with, both on these boards and elsewhere, dislike or even hate the term. So, for you men hoping to experiment with dirty talk, I'd be real careful with that one.

 

[RomanSteel]

Totally agree ... dirty names take on a kind of tenderness when it's "My slut" or "my wet little pussy" ... like he owns it - which is a HUGE turn on.

And YES! How could I forget the sound of my own name ... for most people there is no sweeter sound in the universe.

I also had a lover who would just look at me when I was on my knees in front of him and just say, "Oh my god (my name) you are fucking amazing" just before he lost the ability to form complete, coherent sentences - compliments never hurt either!!!

Agreed.

 

[DeathAndTaxes]

Oh god I love when my husband calls me names. Dirty Little Slut, Filthy Whore, Dirty Bitch, etc. I like to hear from him that I am fulfilling his fantasies and somehow this language tells me that in a way that other words don't. I like when it's delivered as an order: "You take it, you dirty whore!" Or as a question while he's fucking me: "You're a filthy slut, aren't you?" Gawd, so hot! Sometimes I wish he would be more verbal than he is, but he says he often is so wrapped up in how great everything feels that he can't remember to say anything.

To be fair, I talk back to him with pretty much the same type language (just male versions, like man-whore, filthy pig, etc.), which he seems to like. I have asked him (in moments when we aren't in the throes of passion) if he thinks I am saying the same stuff to him too much. I worry that I don't have that wide of a variety of things to say and he is getting annoyed, but he assures me that he likes it all and it doesn't matter.

A few times recently he has graduated to saying "Good Girl", like when I'm flailing about when he's using the hitachi on me or something, and the jury's still out on whether I'm creeped out by this phrase or if I'm ok with it. It kind of sounds like how you would talk to a dog, maybe. I dunno. One line we don't cross is the mommy/daddy talk. None of that. Nothing that reminds me of my parents needs to be happening during sex. Ever.

I have no real opinion on the "cunt" issue. It gets used by both of us in reference to pussy, but he has never called me a cunt that I can remember. But I don't think it would bother me if he did; if we are in the middle of a ball-slapping-thrust-a-thon, I think it would just be another dirty word and part of the moment, so it would be ok for me.

 

[DeathAndTaxes]

I agree, to some of your post. I enjoy being told how sexy of a cum slut I am, by my SO. It's all in a sexual manner, and he means it as a form of truest appreciation. I gets me off, knowing I have him feeling this way about me....knowing most of the women in his past, were true prudes....and would have slapped the shit out of him, if he ever spoken to them, in this manner.

totally agree

I think most Women's hang-ups on being called slut, whore, or other derogatory names...is due to what we learned in school. Remember how we would all talk about the school slut, in such a vile manner. We don't want that same stigma upon us. Now looking back on it....was she really a slut...or just ahead of the game. She may have known more at 17, than we did, and was just more sexually outgoing. Do we still pity her, or secretly admire her, looking back at all of it?

I got called slut in school, which was hilarious because I only had 1 boyfriend the whole time. I thought, how can I be a slut if I'm only with one dude? But really, it was because I dressed like one. The attention whoring is strong with this one.

 

[Jules2372]

Have to say it entirely depends on the nature of the sex, hard rough NSA sex, love to be called cunt, bitch, whore slut etc, slow tender sex, different ball game! That's when I want tender expressions.

 

[sereneone4u]

I like princess, good girl, baby, baby girl, pet, hearing my name I like lots...

Daddy it the only one that can call me slut or whore and I like it, I find it hawt...but no one else better call me it.

 

[yuna1981]

I love the word slut. To me, it simply means a completely sexual woman, a woman who not only enjoys sex, but who craves it. I fantasize constantly about my wife becoming a slut.

That said, the vast majority of women I have discussed this with, both on these boards and elsewhere, dislike or even hate the term. So, for you men hoping to experiment with dirty talk, I'd be real careful with that one.

This is what it means to me too, at least in the context of dirty talk during sex. Obviously as has been said tone matters a lot, but for me this is why I like hearing the term slut, because I like being appreciated as a woman who loves to be thoroughly fucked. Echoing other things that have been said, "my slut" is better, so is "hot little slut." I happen to dislike "dirty," "filthy," or "nasty" as modifiers, it doesn't offend me but I don't find it sexy.

 

[lilshortcake]

I like being called dirty girl...slut...cock sucker...pretty much anything related to sucking dick. I hate cunt...bitch is okay from time to time..like "dirty bitch"...

 

[shesnotcheating]

This is what it means to me too, at least in the context of dirty talk during sex. Obviously as has been said tone matters a lot, but for me this is why I like hearing the term slut, because I like being appreciated as a woman who loves to be thoroughly fucked. Echoing other things that have been said, "my slut" is better, so is "hot little slut." I happen to dislike "dirty," "filthy," or "nasty" as modifiers, it doesn't offend me but I don't find it sexy.

Your point on how both tone and modifiers can impact the effect of the word is well taken. And, I would add that those who do seem to enjoy the word, interpret it in the manner you and I agree on - a highly sexual woman. I actually did have an SRP partner who did a completely 180 degree change on the word when I explained "my definition". She went from hating it, to actually referring to herself that way in the roleplay.

 

[Tarapatt]

I don't mind being called a slut so much, but 'bitch' isn't a favorite of mine. I love when my guy will say a word that he emphasizes with a thrust, as in, "you...are...my...little...slut." I date older guys a lot, so the Daddy's little girl, or Daddy's slut comes into play a lot, which at first was weird, but now I sometimes get into it.

 

[TheLM]

All this thread does is make me sad at how verbal expression of sexual desire has been squashed by societal norms.

*rolls eyes*

 

[yuna1981]

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