Letting friends get involved

[WildFireTN]

I have people who have become friends because of swinging, but only once (with 1st wife and before I found the lifestyle) was a friend involved.

We were both early 20s and I'd persuaded her to think about 3somes, adding anothet guy into the mix.

At this point I should say I was working for her father, and one of my colleagues was one of his best friends.

Geoff - the guy in question - was late 40s. I got on well with him and after a few months we shared some sexual banter, he was curious about my wife and finally told me he'd walked in on her changing when she was living at home before she went off to uni and got a flash of (large) boob.

I told her about this and she remembered the event and had often thought about it as she'd had a bit of a crush on him. I suggested she allow me to show him some polaroids of her (yes, a long time ago) and she agreed, selecting a few topless and semi naked ones. Little did she know I'd already shown him the full set!

When I got home she was curious to know his reaction, I passed that on and also embellished, saying that he'd made some really sexual comments and offered to come round and fuck her.

Long story short, 3 days later I got to watch her dad's best friend, a guy twice her age, fuck her good and hard, the first of many times over the course of a few months.

Tell us more…!

 

[Tom_Brown]

He stuck his penis inside her a few times. No orgasm or thrusting. At least that's the way I understand it.

Ok. Hey, I got a bridge that I’m trying to sell.

If the cock goes in a few times, there may not be orgasm, but there was definitely fucking going on there.

That’s fucking hot!

My wife has no brothers, but if she did, I would hope that they fucked as youngster.

 

[gtnlynn]

Ok. Hey, I got bridge I’m trying to sell.

If the cock goes in a few times, there may not be orgasm, but there was definitely fucking going on there.

That’s fucking hot!

My wife has no brothers, but if she did, I would hope that they fucked as youngster.

I agree. I count it as fucking. I was hoping he would do it as an adult, but she would not let him.

 

[JamieDuly]

I said this in another context in another thread but we have a no connection/no emotion policy. Some people get off by their SO being with someone close but we agreed early on that it would make things messy. My own opinion is let sex be sex and the less prior engagement the better

 

[Scotchlander]

All my swinger friends started off as strangers. They soon became good friends who I keep in touch with.

 

[Kenrychard]

Well my story is this: In my early 30's and single, I twice had married couple friends seduce me into their sex play. The first, the wife was my ex GF, we did not break up on bad terms at all, and her husband had become a really good friend. He had a past experience being invited to join a couple with the intentions completely on pleasuring the woman and enjoying HER and how much pleasure she could endure when two men are completely focused on her. He thought it would be exciting to do for his wife, and he knew she missed being with me and that I hadn't dated for awhile. It was great. And I really felt like it was a "privilege" to be asked. The second time was one of my oldest and best friends and his wife. Same goal. and history.. years before he lost his job, needed immediate work, joined the army. His wife went to live with his Mom, and he called and asked me to keep her company, she was a passionate woman and it would be at least 6 months before he could even apply for base housing and didn't think she could go that long.. I went to his Moms and met her...she made it the 6 months without having to fuck, but there was a lot of holding and kissing and I tried not to but fell a little in love with her..not little at all. So years later being asked to play with them, she had two men that LOVED her pleasuring her. Wow. And I was gratefull for the invitation.

When my wife "confessed" she was aroused by the very rare scenes in porn where 2 men with a woman are treating her well, or even better, a scene she pointed out where the woman was more in the lead, and enjoying pleasuring two men..I told her about my experiences and I would love to do that with her. We couldn't really "make" it happen, but just being aware we did have it happen with a couple of older men who really liked her. And it wasn't amazing, both guys were over 65 and just not 100%. But it was fun and the guys were appreciative of being asked as we were that they played with us.
From there it all went to shit..what the hell is wrong with guys? We had friends who instead of just saying no thanks, not really comfortable with 3, try to weasel into fucking her without me there. Or seem to automatically assume I wasn't pleasing her and get condescending. I think maybe most of them have never grown up and realized that the best orgasm they will ever experience is the woman's they are pleasing..the couple of times we did try with one of these guys, he just fucked her until he came and left...she wasn't even close!! So we went to the internet and hook up apps. That was kind of tedious, sorting out the flakes and phonies from the real and then chatting. We had ONE good stranger hook up, or could have been good. The guy had a really good attitude. But when you are looking for anonymous and in the first few minutes discover that in a city of over half a million our new friend shared an office with my brother for 12 years? LOL. Just a little unnerving.I got over it, my wife just couldn't relax.

If you have a friend that's a decent guy, maybe hasn't dated for awhile, and would really appreciate the offer? I'd start there. Or call me. LOL.

 

[Sweepup50]

A friend of ours would also flirt with my wife even in front of his wife and I knew it turned my wife on because when we went to bed she would be so wet. Over time we role played that he was fucking her and the orgasms for both of us were out of this world. One time my friends wife was away at a conference and we went out boozing and when we got back to his place we had a game of strip cards and we both ended up fucking my wife. It never affected the friendship if anything it made it stronger.

 

[dkak001]

It was great. And I really felt like it was a "privilege" to be asked.

That's exactly how I would feel. Being invited into something so intimate, with another couple would amazing. I'd be acting on extra special behavior.

 

[R34D]

Lately this has been my biggest fantasy:

I have fantasized about my best friend fucking my wife on accident. He can get pretty black out drunk. I think it would be so erotic if he stumbled into the room my wife was staying in thinking he was crawling into bed with his wife. Instead he was crawling into bed with mine. He would cuddle behind her, rubbing against her. Then he would start to try and push into her from behind. She would be in a haze and half asleep, not understanding if it was real or just a dream. Eventually his dick would find its way into her pussy. She would lay there and fade in and out of her dream-state, until he cums inside her, passes out, and his softening cock would slip out. She would wake up in the morning not knowing if it was a dream. Then she would notice the mess he left between her legs, confirming what really happened.

 

[BiGuy999]

I guess if any of our friends approached us we would have no issues. On the other hand approaching our friends without knowing they were into it is not something we would ever do. I'm guessing our friends all feel the same way so even if any of them are into the idea it will never happen since nobody will ever make the first move. It was different at college there were no rules back then, before jobs and responsibilities became a part of life.

Having said that the people we do meet in the lifestyle have to become friends before anything will happen. Neither of us can ever imagine having fun with people we could not be friends with first.

Random hookups can happen but only if one of us is away from home, I guess because 'What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas'.

 

[BgDaddy33]

When my wife and I first got into the lifestyle, we both agreed that we would keep friends out of it. At some point though, the idea of sharing my wife with someone close to me became extremely enticing. I began talking to my wife about the fantasy, and after a series of events, she made it into a reality. They only had a handful of encounters and it hasn't happened in a couple of years, but just knowing that my friend has enjoyed my wife continues to be a huge turn on. Luckily, friendships remained intact and there's no awkwardness or anything like that. We have no plans to expand to other friends either.

I'm just curious, for those of you in non-monogamous relationships, what's your stands on including friends. Do you find it as exciting and alluring as I did or is that something completely off the table for you? Any of you out there with bad experiences as a result of getting friends involved?

I have two friends who have shared their wives with me. One was several years ago and it lasted a few years, the other is current and I've been fucking this friend's wife for about eight years now. In both cases the friendships grew stronger and we grew to consider each other both as brothers. To echo your sentiment from the other side of the fence, it IS incredibly hot to have that intimacy with the same woman in common. Sometimes we get caught up in the little details (such as the way she sighs, or the way she licks the tip of a beer bottle before taking a swig) and we'll share a knowing look...

 

[dkak001]

We've been thinking over the concept of other people getting involved. The truth is, I think anyone else we bring in would have to be a friend, at least on some level. Having a stranger join us would be awkward. Having someone we know and care about would only make it that much more special. In theory anyway...

 

[Islander55]

We've been thinking over the concept of other people getting involved. The truth is, I think anyone else we bring in would have to be a friend, at least on some level. Having a stranger join us would be awkward. Having someone we know and care about would only make it that much more special. In theory anyway...

For us it has worked best to let me find a guy that could be a good fit and then we get to know him before dropping some hints. So we are not best buddies when we start but the friendships tend to grow and become very good friends.

 

[R34D]

I agree. I count it as fucking. I was hoping he would do it as an adult, but she would not let him.

I would love hearing her re-tell her experiences. I would want to hear them over and over!

 

[gtnlynn]

I would love hearing her re-tell her experiences. I would want to hear them over and over!

I enjoy them every time she tells me. Sometimes she actually remembers another detail to make it better.

 

[Sgts19]

I answered this early but didn't mention one thing. Our first swinging experience we happened to meet up with a couple who live 3 miles away. I can't say I really enjoyed his wife that much, nice person not bad looking but not my type. Anyways he was a world champion fuck, I was more into my wife fucking another guy than me fucking with their wife. We probably hooked up with them 10-12 times as a guess. The problem started when he thought he was going to be best friends with me. We had been with our best friends for 10-12 years?? He and I are totally different and have nothing in common except we fucked each other's wife. He stops over about every week for a beer and to shoot the shit. For the first several years all he would talk about is why did we stop swinging and that my wife always seemed to have a great time. Was it something he did or said that made us quit. Every time!! It got old really quick. He still stops over and tells me about the couples he and his wife meet how they are sexually blah blah blah. It's got to the point that as soon as he shows up my wife suddenly has to do her nails hair or has to see one of her friends. She tells me she very uncomfortable because he's so obsessed with her. Something to think about if you're just getting into it

 

[Up4fun&69]

I'm a life-long nudist and ended up marrying a nudist. Just before we married, we met a couple through a personals ad in the AANR newsletter (yup, many years back), who were just starting in the nudist life. Our friendship spanned 10 years and in the later years we shared heavy flirting and once had same room oral on our own partners. After my divorce, they asked me to join them in 3some fun. At that point, I worried about the "don't play with friends" saying. But we talked about it. As long-time friends, we were close. And like in a one-on-one relationship, when you spend lots of time with another couple—overnight trips, overnights in each others homes, vacations, etc.—issues are bound to pop up. But we always dealt with them honestly and remained friends through thick and thin. And as friends, they knew I wasn't going to do anything to disrupt their marriage or feel bad if they stopped the fun because it was causing a rift. So we gave it go, and it was a great decision. We had lots of fun and shared just about everything. As a long-time friend, their kids never thought about anything if I was over and stayed late. Most of the time, we played as a 3some, but also having some one-on-one MF fun wasn't threatening...and actually turned out to be a real turn on for both of them. So, I come down on the side that there can be so much more when playing with trusted friends but only if you're all on the same page, you're all honest, and the goal is nothing more than exploring ways to please each other, without leaving out one of the 3some.