losing your slut

[graceanne]

Hurm. Setting aside the casual insinuations that beucase I'm younger than most of you I'm somehow not entitled to be pissed, that is all that was. Like I said to Z, I've just been semi-backstabbed by a former good friend and I had some excess bile to vent. Booze and the stress of revision helps on that front.

To quote you:

Quit bitching,

Or, are you the only one allowed to bitch?

 

[MisterSir]

To quote you:

Or, are you the only one allowed to bitch?

The leitmotif of the original post was that people shouldn't be bitching about what they had and lost when there are people like me who've never had it to begin with, so going off that...pretty much, yeah. It's not the fairest opinion to take in retrospect, but like I give a shit, you saw "20" and seem to have jumped to this conclusion that I don't know the first thing about anything.

 

[satindesire]

The leitmotif of the original post was that people shouldn't be bitching about what they had and lost when there are people like me who've never had it to begin with, so going off that...pretty much, yeah. It's not the fairest opinion to take in retrospect, but like I give a shit, you saw "20" and seem to have jumped to this conclusion that I don't know the first thing about anything.

Sweetie, that's the breaks about this place. Young people such as ourselves often get the short end of the stick when it comes to respect, okay? I came here when I was 20, too.

It's best to just nod and smile in situations like this. No changing it. Prove your worth in other ways.

 

[graceanne]

The leitmotif of the original post was that people shouldn't be bitching about what they had and lost when there are people like me who've never had it to begin with, so going off that...pretty much, yeah. It's not the fairest opinion to take in retrospect, but like I give a shit, you saw "20" and seem to have jumped to this conclusion that I don't know the first thing about anything.

Um, no. I didn't notice you were twenty until last night

I already decided you don't know the first thing about anything LONG before last night. You being twenty means that you have an excuse.

 

[graceanne]

Sweetie, that's the breaks about this place. Young people such as ourselves often get the short end of the stick when it comes to respect, okay? I came here when I was 20, too.

It's best to just nod and smile in situations like this. No changing it. Prove your worth in other ways.

You've proved your worth in other ways. I honestly didn't know you were young until this post. I don't go around checking out those things. MisterSir just manages to piss people off routinely.

 

[Netzach]

Hurm. Setting aside the casual insinuations that beucase I'm younger than most of you I'm somehow not entitled to be pissed, that is all that was. Like I said to Z, I've just been semi-backstabbed by a former good friend and I had some excess bile to vent. Booze and the stress of revision helps on that front.

NB: It does not help that people keep poking useyou. I wouldn't mind it so much if they weren't doing it in my fucking thread.

Hey, all I'm saying is that because you haven't walked in the other pair of shoes it means you haven't. You saw that I pointed out your age and assumed I was doing the irritating old fart thing - I'm simply saying you have plenty of time to face down the suckassness of relationships, and you don't know of what you speak when you've decided you have it worse than the recently divorced guy who started the thread, ahem. Not that you don't know anything about anything.

Being young is likely the explanation for that - you don't seem like the kind of social maladjust who will never know relationship angst as well as lack of relationship angst. Which I know quite well for myself.

Both suck.

I think even at 18 and frustrated to no end I didn't think that unhappy couples had it better than me.

 

[Netzach]

Sweetie, that's the breaks about this place. Young people such as ourselves often get the short end of the stick when it comes to respect, okay? I came here when I was 20, too.

It's best to just nod and smile in situations like this. No changing it. Prove your worth in other ways.

I'm still trying to figure out how the flying eff my post could be construed as disrespectful when I'm putting myself in the shoes of someone who just got a friggin divorce being told he has it better than someone who is 20 and gf-less ( a state I don't deny sucks too.) I would think you'd be able to envision, satindesire, as someone seriously partnered, why I think this sucks as a bit of human interaction.

Sorry. If people want my respect they can try consideration. Thought. Crazy shit.

I get along fine with younger posters who figure this out. Older ones too. I have a strong sense of internet fair and as far as I'm concerned walking into a room full of people talking about something personal and sensitive and going "well you think YOU have it bad, I'm not even in a relationship, wah" is jerky.

But that's cool, if you want to cross me over into ageism, I'm getting my first grays, it works for me.

 

[ZRT]

Shall we get a "Mistersir and EVERYFUCKINGBODY public affection thread" and let the OP continue drowning his sorrows?

 

[satindesire]

I'm still trying to figure out how the flying eff my post could be construed as disrespectful when I'm putting myself in the shoes of someone who just got a friggin divorce being told he has it better than someone who is 20 and gf-less ( a state I don't deny sucks too.) I would think you'd be able to envision, satindesire, as someone seriously partnered, why I think this sucks as a bit of human interaction.

Sorry. If people want my respect they can try consideration. Thought. Crazy shit.

I get along fine with younger posters who figure this out. Older ones too. I have a strong sense of internet fair and as far as I'm concerned walking into a room full of people talking about something personal and sensitive and going "well you think YOU have it bad, I'm not even in a relationship, wah" is jerky.

But that's cool, if you want to cross me over into ageism, I'm getting my first grays, it works for me.

I wasn't targeting you. It was a generalized statement. I got my fair share of crap from people, not saying YOU, when I came here four-some-odd years ago when I was just 20.

I'm sorry if you felt attacked but I in NO WAY meant that you did something wrong towards me or him. So, I apologize for hurting your feelings, I truly didn't mean to.

 

[ivantheterrible]

what sucks is getting out of a relationship where the sex was absolutely amazing to zero. and you end up thinking about her all the time. tought to get that out ogf your head. i have to remind myself about the reasons why i left her in the first place.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I'm not saying I'm a chickenhawk or nuffin', but I still think satin is a hottie...

Ivan is going through a rough spot...

Mister will eventually find someone to break the relationship barrier...

Gracie has great cookies...

And if Netz wasn't stuck so deep in my personal geography "RED" zone (anyplace that gets an average of 2" or more of snow annually) I'd ask her to marry me. Well, okay, move in with me...

 

[graceanne]

Gracie has great cookies...

And how would you know that?

YOU STOLE MY COOKIES, DIDN'T YOU!?!

And if Netz wasn't stuck so deep in my personal geography "RED" zone (anyplace that gets an average of 2" or more of snow annually) I'd ask her to marry me. Well, okay, move in with me...

Yeah, that and she's already married. I'm pretty sure it's not legal anywhere in the US to have more than one husband.

 

[satindesire]

I'm not saying I'm a chickenhawk or nuffin', but I still think satin is a hottie...

What can I say? Dudes dig the pregnant belly.

I love ya Eggie.

 

[kimbernee]

I hear you, Ivan. That's why I'm currently having sex with the ex even though I know, know, know I don't want that relationship back. But the sex was awesome and it's so tempting to think I can have just that part of it.

 

[lilylicious]

what sucks is getting out of a relationship where the sex was absolutely amazing to zero. and you end up thinking about her all the time. tought to get that out ogf your head. i have to remind myself about the reasons why i left her in the first place.

I hear you, Ivan. That's why I'm currently having sex with the ex even though I know, know, know I don't want that relationship back. But the sex was awesome and it's so tempting to think I can have just that part of it.

You guys will find amazing sex with someone else eventually and it will make it easier to forget about the amazing sex with the ex.

Just keep thinking you could possibly have amazing sex without the bullshit.

It was easy for me, I must admit, because I discovered I was bi. Nothing like a delicious woman to make you forget about a man.

 

[quietwoman187]

what sucks is getting out of a relationship where the sex was absolutely amazing to zero. and you end up thinking about her all the time. tought to get that out ogf your head. i have to remind myself about the reasons why i left her in the first place.

Actually, Ivan, I do understand where you’re coming from. I only interact with a few people o/l outside of lit, but one is not on as much and another faded away when I indicated I might not be on lit as much. While they were very nice interactions when they occurred, I’m not quite interested in cultivating others. So, I wish you well in eventually finding what you desire to meet your needs.

 

[ivantheterrible]

last night i finally resolved this issue. i realized i was still remembering and loving "dragonfly" the woman who stopped existing not long ago. the woman who lives with my kids in that house is not her. i have to remember dragonfly, and realize she no longer exists. but still love , her. not that woman in that house.

 

[blunt_trauma]

i know this is the bdsm board, but you don't think this is weird?

you're getting a divorce.
leaving your home.
living apart from your kids.
big, adult stuff.

and 'losing your slut' is the biggest loss in all of this?

 

[ivantheterrible]

well, it is a bdsm site. it's about sex and the issues involved in that.

the kids are a different issue.

 

[Marquis]

Losing your slut is no joke.

Women don't get this.

 

[Netzach]

Losing your slut is no joke.

Women don't get this.

Bullshit. Losing the Magic Penis is the reason for 99 percent of the heartfelt posts of Lit.

 

[blunt_trauma]

Bullshit. Losing the Magic Penis is the reason for 99 percent of the heartfelt posts of Lit.

maybe he doesn't have the magic

had he said 'dolfs don't get this' he'd be bang on.
sex is just sex.

 

[Marquis]

maybe he doesn't have the magic

had he said 'dolfs don't get this' he'd be bang on.
sex is just sex.

Dolf, you have a new name now?

 

[blunt_trauma]

Dolf, you have a new name now?

this one is much more me, no?

 

[Primalex]

I hear you, Ivan. That's why I'm currently having sex with the ex even though I know, know, know I don't want that relationship back. But the sex was awesome and it's so tempting to think I can have just that part of it.

Bleh.