Loving too much....

[Richard49]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Doms can love to much also

I totally agree with you. I have found that many people take the cowards way out in a relationship to avoid facing the person they want to leave. It takes courage to face a person and tell them you are leaving.

Ebony

I'm scared...someone agrees with me

If both people were honorable...the relationship would proabnly workout.

Well I am taking my sick body back to couch....someone send me chicken soup and a new sub

 

[RisiaSkye]

*sending Richard some chicken soup* Feel better, kiddo. Better days always come around again, as silly and trite as it sounds.

No, you can't die from loving too much. In fact, you can't love too much. Love isn't the dangerous thing, it's romance that gets you. Love doesn't ask us to deny a person's weaknesses, to make promises we have no hope of being able to keep, or any of the other emotionally devastating things that come from romance. When we romanticize our partners or relationships, we choose to see them as they are *not*, rather than love and accept them for who (and what) they *are.* And those are the relationships that seem to cause the most heartache in the longrun.

Then again, I probably shouldn't say anything in this thread anyway, as I'm unfuckingbelievably lucky enough to be in a longterm and happy relationship. I know how rare and precious that is among "our kind."

 

[Tatewaki]

Then again, I probably shouldn't say anything in this thread anyway, as I'm unfuckingbelievably lucky enough to be in a longterm and happy relationship. I know how rare and precious that is among "our kind."

That's a gift that's uncommon for anyone to find, Risia, Vanilla or otherwise. I'm glad you've found it. Richard, I hope you find it again.

-T

 

[SierraMoon]

*sending Richard some chicken soup* Feel better, kiddo. Better days always come around again, as silly and trite as it sounds.

No, you can't die from loving too much. In fact, you can't love too much. Love isn't the dangerous thing, it's romance that gets you. Love doesn't ask us to deny a person's weaknesses, to make promises we have no hope of being able to keep, or any of the other emotionally devastating things that come from romance. When we romanticize our partners or relationships, we choose to see them as they are *not*, rather than love and accept them for who (and what) they *are.* And those are the relationships that seem to cause the most heartache in the longrun.

Then again, I probably shouldn't say anything in this thread anyway, as I'm unfuckingbelievably lucky enough to be in a longterm and happy relationship. I know how rare and precious that is among "our kind."

Risia, it is people like you who are so blessed and happy in your relationship that helps the rest of us believe it is obtainable. Please continue to share your happiness with us.. it is refreshing to hear from someone that has truly found that 1 special someone to share their lives, and beliefs with!! sierra

 

[RisiaSkye]

Tatewaki, thank you.

Risia, it is people like you who are so blessed and happy in your relationship that helps the rest of us believe it is obtainable. Please continue to share your happiness with us.. it is refreshing to hear from someone that has truly found that 1 special someone to share their lives, and beliefs with!! sierra

That's an incredibly warm and generous way of looking at it, Sierra; thank you.

Sadly, I find that I often feel almost guilty for being in such a relationship, when I know that so many are looking for one. I feel for everyone who's searching, and I don't wish for my happiness to inadvertently cause another pain by seeming somehow... judgemental. I know very well that hubby & I are lucky, that we are no more deserving of love and stability than so many others who are without it, and I fear that spending too much time celebrating what we've built together might lead others to believe that I think or mean to imply otherwise.

Does that make any sense, or should I just go back to bed? Sometimes, I really can't tell if what's in my head translates into a language anyone else can understand.

 

[Tatewaki]

Does that make any sense, or should I just go back to bed? Sometimes, I really can't tell if what's in my head translates into a language anyone else can understand.

Perfect sense. The only people who will have sour grapes over your happiness are those that are undeserving of ever having their own. Indeed, their callousness and/or callow natures are probably major factors in their being alone.

You've neither flaunted your happiness nor held it up as the pinnacle of bliss that only you've been blessed to reach. Instead, I see you as someone who realizes that what you have has great value, appreciates it as such, and is grateful to have it in their lives. Sure I want what you have, but I in no way begrudge you your happiness. I’ll leave you yours while I search to acquire my own.

Beam on, smiling one!

Warmest,

-T

 

[SierraMoon]

Perfect sense. The only people who will have sour grapes over your happiness are those that are undeserving of ever having their own. Indeed, their callousness and/or callow natures are probably major factors in their being alone.

You've neither flaunted your happiness nor held it up as the pinnacle of bliss that only you've been blessed to reach. Instead, I see you as someone who realizes that what you have has great value, appreciates it as such, and is grateful to have it in their lives. Sure I want what you have, but I in no way begrudge you your happiness. I’ll leave you yours while I search to acquire my own.

Beam on, smiling one!

Warmest,

-T

T, I couldn't have said it any better.. you have I think pinned down exactly what I was thinking.. incredible insight!!! sierra

 

[Tatewaki]

T, I couldn't have said it any better.. you have I think pinned down exactly what I was thinking.. incredible insight!!! sierra

Thank you, Sierra. All compliments cheerfully accepted!

-T

 

[Richard49]

exactly

T, I couldn't have said it any better.. you have I think pinned down exactly what I was thinking.. incredible insight!!! sierra

I ditto this

Back to the couch for me

 

[Tatewaki]

Re: exactly

I ditto this

Back to the couch for me

Take it easy, Richard. Hope you're up and around soon.

-T

 

[pierced_boy]

For Richard and B

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[petrel]

I read somewhere that in every relationship there is one who loves and one who allows themselves to be loved. I don't know if this is true, afterall how can we ever get inside someones head enought to truly say you don't love me as much as I love you?

To reply to the original quesiton, you can die from just about anything if you put your mind to it, but its not love, its grief, misery and despair that bring you to that point.

I have been hurting so badly I thought I could never stop crying, so much I couldn't move, couldn't think; but was i truly in love - I think so but it was a very different feeling to my current relationship when I woudl say I love just as deeply.
Maybe the kind of love you feel you can die from is when you loved and lived so intensly that you grieve intensly, a firefly not an elephant!
Maybe part of my grief was due to pride.

I don't really know, the only thing I am certian of is that like Risia I feel I should thank the gods every day for letting me meet my current partner. Its true what they say when you stop looking the stranger that will become your heartmate suddenly turns up on your doorstep (and in my case they don't go home for 2 days!!!!!!)

 

[willfulbrat]

I'm not sure if you can die from loving too much, but it's absolutely true that you can die of a broken heart when that love is taken away. Case in point: My friend's father died 3 months after her mother. Cause of death? Unknown. I think if we all shared our stories we'd find out that it is not at all uncommon.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Interesting topic which gets the brain cells working, not to mention the heart....

Catalina