Loving Wives should really love thier husbands

[Sensualdreamer]

I got quite the few "flamers" for my mini-series (a fictional series that is written in the 1st person about a cheating wife), yet ironically a lot of praise on a non-consent story (also written in the 1st person).

I had to delete many comments as they were personal attacks against me, but really if people are on Lit, they really can't claim to be a poster child for morality or at the pinacle of morality...so I don't really care if I get a few who go crazy and make an ass of themselves...simply b/c all the positive comments outweigh the negative.

 

[Velia]

Perhaps I should qualify my statement.

I think there are principally three categories of LW stories (and frankly I think they should all have separate categories).

Loving wives: These are stories of husband and wife having non-adulterous sex with one another. I think this was the original intention of the LW category (though I may be wrong). I personally don't find this so exciting because I can have sex like this myself any time I want it (within reason).

Cheating wives: These are wives who have sex outside their marriage without the knowledge or consent of their spouse. For some reason this really turns me on. I think it is the idea of sex being so pleasurable that the wife is willing to perform an "evil" act (cheating) in order to get it. It is implicit that it must be awfully good sex to risk their marriage, especially if she continues to do it and escalates the sex to more and more taboo or risky situations. So to turn me on, I need to have the sex be risky - she has to have a chance of being caught by her husband (and a higher chance the better). And the marriage has to be something that is worth having - it has to be something that she doesn't want to lose, so the husband should be a good, strong and loving man.

Cuckolds: These are stories about women who have sex outside marriage with the consent of their husbands. This isn't my thing at all. I think, for me, if the husband approves of the extra-martial sex, then the vow of fidelity isn't really there, so there is not taboo in breaking it. The marriage is safe, so the sex is without risk, and uninteresting.

Of course, this is just my own personal preference.

I think:

Loving Wives are wives who have sex outside of the marriage with their husband's permission. As a category, it might be better defined as "Husbands Who Share." In my experience, it means the husband does not view sex and love as the same thing and is not threatened by the wife's extramarital activities. The husband would have to be a man with strong self-esteem.

Cheating wives are cheating wives.

Cuckold means the the wife has sex outside the marriage and her husband is "of lower status" than the wife or the man with whom she is having sex. The husband my be humiliated or not, but the bottom line is: the wife does as she pleases.

I'm not sure I see a need to create additional categories. At some point, it seems to be splitting hairs. On the other hand, I suppose if you ONLY like cuckold, you would be disappointed to read a "Husband Who Shares" story.

I wish I knew. I just submitted Chapter 2 of a story that seems to blur the lines between all of them.

 

[tony090909]

Hi

Still no reply to my request for a couple of new categories to be added. A copy of what I sent is detailed below, so hopefully people can see it is phrased reasonably:-

"Back on the 15th May I sent a PM requesting that because of the problems with the Loving Wives category, two new categories should be added, called Wife Sharing and Adultery (or something similar).

Have you had chance to look at this yet?

Many thanks

Tony"

 

[sr71plt]

Hi

Still no reply to my request for a couple of new categories to be added. A copy of what I sent is detailed below, so hopefully people can see it is phrased reasonably:-

"Back on the 15th May I sent a PM requesting that because of the problems with the Loving Wives category, two new categories should be added, called Wife Sharing and Adultery (or something similar).

Have you had chance to look at this yet?

Many thanks

Tony"

I'm pretty sure you were told off the top that others have been making suggestions for changes in that category for years and haven't received any responses either.

 

[elfin_odalisque]

What sr didn't say, but I think believes, is that the site quite likes the ruccus over Loving Wives and would see it as commercial hari-kari to dampen down the malstrom. In their position, so would I.

 

[elfin_odalisque]

(duplicate post)

 

[tony090909]

Yes I guess you're right; it's pretty clear I'm not going to get a reply.

 

[jomar]

I agree that the owners like the LW hullabaloo. Some authors play with the category and have learned the formula to either get high votes or really piss readers off. My little LW experiment got decent overall votes, but also enough outrage to keep them below 4.5. Hell, the first vote on the first chapter was a 1 because I forgot to note it was a chapter, not a full story. Posting in LW was fun because people over there take the stories waaay too seriously and let you know what they think.

 

[JoyceMarieL]

My Favorite Story for the "Sharing Wives" Category

Agreed that Mr Boston put it perfectly in #11. There should be a category for "sharing wives", but I think this has been suggested before and nothing happened. Anyone know the best way to contact the owners and request this?

A story I found very erotic and arousing that would fall into that category is "A Loving Husband" by goldeniangel.

A severely disabled man asks his young friend to provide his young wife the sexual gratification he can no longer give her. The descriptions of the young wife being sexually aroused after an extremely long period of forced celibacy are exquisite.

The reviews were very mixed and diverse. I am ashamed to admit that I have replaced the young wife on occasion in my masturbation fantasies.

 

[Jake Marlow]

As a frequent writer in the Loving Wives catagory here I have been on the receiving end of the hatred and vitriol more times than I can count. It's just people who like to be angry and there's not much you can do about it. I do delete the especially ugly comments on my stories, though.

I agree with everyone that "Loving Wives" is a misnomer for the catagory. I would submit that if the husband is willingly sharing his wife then it belongs in the Swinging catagory. Because it is a form of swinging, but then Mind Control is a form on domination and that has it's own catagory. If it were up to me, the Loving Wives catagory would be abolished and split into these:

Sharing Wives - Self explainitory, I think. Husbands willingly sharing their wives.

Adultery or Cheating Wives - A general Adultery catagory would probably catch some cheating husbands and that's probably not what MOST readers are looking for, so maybe it's better to be more specific.

Cuckold - Because really, this is sort of a specific thing. Not every cheating wife story is a cuckold story. To me cuckold invovles specific humiliation.

it seems that a story about a husband and wife having hot sex with each other doesn't even belong in the "Loving Wifes" catagory as it's defined now.

 

[tony090909]

If it were up to me, the Loving Wives catagory would be abolished and split into these:

Sharing Wives - Self explainitory, I think. Husbands willingly sharing their wives.

Adultery or Cheating Wives - A general Adultery catagory would probably catch some cheating husbands and that's probably not what MOST readers are looking for, so maybe it's better to be more specific.

Cuckold - Because really, this is sort of a specific thing. Not every cheating wife story is a cuckold story. To me cuckold invovles specific humiliation.

it seems that a story about a husband and wife having hot sex with each other doesn't even belong in the "Loving Wifes" catagory as it's defined now.

I think quite a few contributors feel that having new categories similar to the ones you list would be a good idea. However it's been proposed several times and nothing has happened so (as suggested earlier in this thread) it seems the owners aren't interested in changing it.

Tony

 

[myschyfnmayhem]

I think:

[Loving Wives are wives who have sex outside of the marriage with their husband's permission. As a category, it might be better defined as "Husbands Who Share." In my experience, it means the husband does not view sex and love as the same thing and is not threatened by the wife's extramarital activities. The husband would have to be a man with strong self-esteem.

Cheating wives are cheating wives.

Cuckold means the the wife has sex outside the marriage and her husband is "of lower status" than the wife or the man with whom she is having sex. The husband my be humiliated or not, but the bottom line is: the wife does as she pleases.]

Best description I've seen on this forum!! Loving Wives are also called Hotwives on some forums. I've 'shared' her but she prefers MFM to playing alone. We are definitely not Cuckold. Any domination that takes place is only to HER Submissive side.

 

[Sweat_pea]

I've never posted a LW story, nor have I read many. That said, why do you prefer the cheaing wife stories?

If shes anything like me she doesn't want to go to prison for murder.

 

[Sweat_pea]

I think quite a few contributors feel that having new categories similar to the ones you list would be a good idea. However it's been proposed several times and nothing has happened so (as suggested earlier in this thread) it seems the owners aren't interested in changing it.

Tony

That would be nice. I would like to write some stories about things I've done for the hubby, but not if I'm gonna have my ass handed to me. lol

 

[Sweat_pea]

Just a question to people who think loving wives are women who cheat on their wives with their permission, is it not a turn on to read about a woman who wants to please her soul mate? Her King? I mean c'mon, lets face it. There really really is no limit to the games we play for the right men. >

 

[sr71plt]

Just a question to people who think loving wives are women who cheat on their wives with their permission, is it not a turn on to read about a woman who wants to please her soul mate? Her King? I mean c'mon, lets face it. There really really is no limit to the games we play for the right men. >

Yeah, I think that's a better fit for the "Loving Wives" category. But I think such a story would do better sent to one of the other categories. Loving Wives has pretty well been taken over by the crazies.

 

[Sweat_pea]

LoL sr71plt that's how it's sounding. So how do you read some of these responses to people's comments? Just scroll down past the story?

 

[sr71plt]

LoL sr71plt that's how it's sounding. So how do you read some of these responses to people's comments? Just scroll down past the story?

I don't read them. I don't read in the "Loving Wives" category. I wrote two stories similiar to what you suggest for that category--and the comments weren't too bad--mostly quite favorable and supportive, actually. (So there are some readers there who are looking for what you suggest.)