Luna_Wolf72
CinnaWolf circa 2023
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Thoughts on Wisdom~on self knowledge.
To gain in wisdom, one must understand two things. One~that no one will ever be your be all and end all. Not your lovers, not your friends, not you family, not your enemies. And two~that those who do not enrich your life should be cast away~like chaff from wheat. If they do not bring joy to you, however small, then they are not worthy of your acknowledgement.
Selfishness is an innate human condition. We all want what we want, when we want it. It is up to us, each of us, to decide who is worth our time and who is not. It is up to us, each of us, to decide who is worth fighting for and who is worth ignoring. It is up to us, each of us, to admit that our own selfish natures, might make us a ragged fit for most people.
Once these things have been admitted, seen as truth, acknowledged? Then we gain in wisdom and understanding. The human condition means that we never really see the other side. The human condition means that if we forgive, we are doing so for ourselves, not the other person. If we say we are sorry, we are doing it for ourselves, not the other person. At the bottom of every interaction, there is selfish intent.
I want to move beyond selfishness...but am I not human? Am I not judgmental, arrogant, selfish? Am I not a woman? I want what I want. I obey the rules that I choose, the ones I wrote. The ones that make sense to me.
In the RW? I would not step to someone else's S/o. I would not tell someone how to raise their children. I would not tell someone else how to clean their house or how to take care of their bodies. I would not tell a secret. I would not steal nor want something that I can not have. These things carry over into my online interactions. Selfishly, I expect others to have the same rules and am always shocked and appalled when I find out that they don't.
Obviously then, the fault is mine. Mine for expecting that people are like me, that they worship the way I do. That they believe in MY right and wrong. That my moral code is also their moral code. Those things are my beliefs and at the core of them is one simple statement~
And it harm none...
My morality means that I carry my truth with me. That I give what I expect in return. And that, if I am denigrated, I remove the offending party. My morality says that I should ask forgiveness if I have overstepped, not so others think that they are better than me, but so that I do not look bad to myself.
It is selfish, purely selfish, but it leaves me with a clean conscience. And that is more than enough for me. I have nothing to be ashamed of. Not here, not in the RW. I have nothing to hide, not here, not in the RW. I am as I appear, in pictures, in words, on the phone. I am always the same. It is a selfish conceit but I am proud of it. I should be. I struggled to make it so.
Thoughts on Wisdom~on self knowledge.
To gain in wisdom, one must understand two things. One~that no one will ever be your be all and end all. Not your lovers, not your friends, not you family, not your enemies. And two~that those who do not enrich your life should be cast away~like chaff from wheat. If they do not bring joy to you, however small, then they are not worthy of your acknowledgement.
Selfishness is an innate human condition. We all want what we want, when we want it. It is up to us, each of us, to decide who is worth our time and who is not. It is up to us, each of us, to decide who is worth fighting for and who is worth ignoring. It is up to us, each of us, to admit that our own selfish natures, might make us a ragged fit for most people.
Once these things have been admitted, seen as truth, acknowledged? Then we gain in wisdom and understanding. The human condition means that we never really see the other side. The human condition means that if we forgive, we are doing so for ourselves, not the other person. If we say we are sorry, we are doing it for ourselves, not the other person. At the bottom of every interaction, there is selfish intent.
I want to move beyond selfishness...but am I not human? Am I not judgmental, arrogant, selfish? Am I not a woman? I want what I want. I obey the rules that I choose, the ones I wrote. The ones that make sense to me.
In the RW? I would not step to someone else's S/o. I would not tell someone how to raise their children. I would not tell someone else how to clean their house or how to take care of their bodies. I would not tell a secret. I would not steal nor want something that I can not have. These things carry over into my online interactions. Selfishly, I expect others to have the same rules and am always shocked and appalled when I find out that they don't.
Obviously then, the fault is mine. Mine for expecting that people are like me, that they worship the way I do. That they believe in MY right and wrong. That my moral code is also their moral code. Those things are my beliefs and at the core of them is one simple statement~
And it harm none...
My morality means that I carry my truth with me. That I give what I expect in return. And that, if I am denigrated, I remove the offending party. My morality says that I should ask forgiveness if I have overstepped, not so others think that they are better than me, but so that I do not look bad to myself.
It is selfish, purely selfish, but it leaves me with a clean conscience. And that is more than enough for me. I have nothing to be ashamed of. Not here, not in the RW. I have nothing to hide, not here, not in the RW. I am as I appear, in pictures, in words, on the phone. I am always the same. It is a selfish conceit but I am proud of it. I should be. I struggled to make it so.
