Making amends to Mistress

[DVS]

I will read them but most likely won't be posting much anymore! People make mistakes and mine was apparently so huge that it has taken up the majority of everyone's time to bash! I will read them and will never post again unless it's needed in my opinion. At least here.

I really enjoyed Lit till today. Yes it was my mistake but It could have been handled differently.

I think I need to think about it for awhile!

Looking at it from your point of view, I understand how you feel. But being a regular here for years, many have seen so many threads started that were considered inappropriate for the forum, people get a bit testy. That's why the cafe was created. People were getting so pissed with looking past the fluff that it was decided to create a smaller sub forum for everything that wasn't considered BDSM Talk relevant.

And while I understand that someone new might not know this and start a thread in the forum by mistake, after a while it gets to the regulars who are trying to help people who have questions about their BDSM experiences. To some people, just opening another thread that has no business in the BDSM forum can start a rant. So, while this one thread might seem trivial to you or to other people, look at it from the other side, where people have been constantly seeing more and more threads started by people who just decide to.

There are some people who will start a thread like this in every damn forum on the site. All of them. What's the need of that, other than to piss people off? This isn't what happened here, but at the time, people didn't care. We have seen an influx of posts in this forum recently, and this one has just hit a nerve, I guess.

Leave if you must. That's up to you. But stick around a while and you'll see how often people start a thread in here without looking at the sticky at the top of the first page. Granted, it doesn't say "These Are The Rules Of The Forum...Read Them Or Else". It does say "Welcome To The BDSM Forum". We try to be nice, when we can. But that nice goes just so far before don't give a shit takes over. Sorry, no offense intended, once again.

 

[dreamykitten2]

Dvs

Looking at it from your point of view, I understand how you feel. But being a regular here for years, many have seen so many threads started that were considered inappropriate for the forum, people get a bit testy. That's why the cafe was created. People were getting so pissed with looking past the fluff that it was decided to create a smaller sub forum for everything that wasn't considered BDSM Talk relevant.

And while I understand that someone new might not know this and start a thread in the forum by mistake, after a while it gets to the regulars who are trying to help people who have questions about their BDSM experiences. To some people, just opening another thread that has no business in the BDSM forum can start a rant. So, while this one thread might seem trivial to you or to other people, look at it from the other side, where people have been constantly seeing more and more threads started by people who just decide to.

There are some people who will start a thread like this in every damn forum on the site. All of them. What's the need of that, other than to piss people off? This isn't what happened here, but at the time, people didn't care. We have seen an influx of posts in this forum recently, and this one has just hit a nerve, I guess.

Leave if you must. That's up to you. But stick around a while and you'll see how often people start a thread in here without looking at the sticky at the top of the first page. Granted, it doesn't say "These Are The Rules Of The Forum...Read Them Or Else". It does say "Welcome To The BDSM Forum". We try to be nice, when we can. But that nice goes just so far before don't give a shit takes over. Sorry, no offense intended, once again.

I feel you reaching out to me and I appreciate it! I can understand in fact that it gets irritating. I believe I reAd that sticky back in October when I first got here. I must have forgot what it said and will reread it so this kind of thing won't happen again! And thanks for your comments!

 

[DVS]

I feel you reaching out to me and I appreciate it! I can understand in fact that it gets irritating. I believe I reAd that sticky back in October when I first got here. I must have forgot what it said and will reread it so this kind of thing won't happen again! And thanks for your comments!

I'm just a reaching out kind of guy, I guess. Just don't tell anybody. It could soil my devious reputation.

 

[dreamykitten2]

Lol

I'm just a reaching out kind of guy, I guess. Just don't tell anybody. It could soil my devious reputation.

Ok I won't tell anyone but now u have!!

 

[DVS]

Ok I won't tell anyone but now u have!!

That's OK. Nobody reads my posts anyway. Well, nobody that's been around a while, that is.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

That's OK. Nobody reads my posts anyway. Well, nobody that's been around a while, that is.

Someone should put it in their sig that way everyone will know

 

[DVS]

Someone should put it in their sig that way everyone will know

I have too much in my signature already. Nobody would notice it.

 

[the captians wench]

I have too much in my signature already. Nobody would notice it.

I just noticed when I looked at this post, your post count was 9,666

 

[Stella_Omega]

I just noticed when I looked at this post, your post count was 9,666

When he gets another 333 posts, we'll take a screenshot for proof

 

[wicked woman]

To be honest, some of us would not like the OP even if it was in the BDSM Cafe, which I agree would be more appropriate than BDSM Talk. I didn't consent to be part of your relationship with your Mistress and my guess is most, if not all, of the other people on the BDSM Forum didn't consent either. Would you walk into a coffee shop and broadcast your OP? And if your Mistress told you to do that, what would your thoughts about the request, and her for making the request be. Have a little consideration for others who didn't consent to participate, please...both of you.

 

[DVS]

I just noticed when I looked at this post, your post count was 9,666

Are you talking about the 666? So, what would the 9 mean, then? Ninth generation ?

 

[DVS]

When he gets another 333 posts, we'll take a screenshot for proof

On April 17th I'll have been here 10 years. Do you think I can post enough to get 10,000 posts by then? I think either I'd get sick of it, or the rest of you would get sick of me long before 331 posts in 18 days.

 

[Stella_Omega]

To be honest, some of us would not like the OP even if it was in the BDSM Cafe, which I agree would be more appropriate than BDSM Talk. I didn't consent to be part of your relationship with your Mistress and my guess is most, if not all, of the other people on the BDSM Forum didn't consent either. Would you walk into a coffee shop and broadcast your OP? And if your Mistress told you to do that, what would your thoughts about the request, and her for making the request be. Have a little consideration for others who didn't consent to participate, please...both of you.

oh well, the internet is INCREDIBLY IMPORTANT when it's them cybering, but meaningless and unimportant when it's other peoples territories.

 

[FurryFury]

Mall cops are NOT allowed to start threads here. Read the rules!

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Isn't breaking the rules half the fun? I think, and it's just me, that she has control of him. This is one of the ways she is controlling him. I believe one should not judge a dom/sub relationship.

Oh, this has such powerful appeal to me. So seductive.

Still, this dance of taskposting happens so often, that my Mistress has instructed me to post a thread in the Cafe where subs can taskpost 'til they're red in the fonts.

Let the ignoring of said thread commence.

 

[the captians wench]

Oh, this has such powerful appeal to me. So seductive.

Still, this dance of taskposting happens so often, that my Mistress has instructed me to post a thread in the Cafe where subs can taskpost 'til they're red in the fonts.

Let the ignoring of said thread commence.

*eyes DGE*

I don't remember this conversation when last I had you 'round the back of the barn.

*eyes DGE meaningfully*

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

*eyes DGE*

I don't remember this conversation when last I had you 'round the back of the barn.

*eyes DGE meaningfully*

Noo... Not the barn!!!! And please, no taskposting on the modernbarn.com message boards!

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I will read them but most likely won't be posting much anymore! People make mistakes and mine was apparently so huge that it has taken up the majority of everyone's time to bash! I will read them and will never post again unless it's needed in my opinion. At least here.

I really enjoyed Lit till today. Yes it was my mistake but It could have been handled differently.

I think I need to think about it for awhile!

As DVS (and I believe a couple of others) said, we have had a plethora of this type of "mea culpa" task threads and other threads having absolutely no relation to the intended purpose of the forum (e.g., see the thread "My New Slut") appearing here and in the Café, seemingly moreso lately than previously. The problem lies primarily in it being posted in *this* forum, which is intended for the discussion of BDSM-related topics and issues that people (both new to the culture and experienced) run into in their lives. Had the thread been posted to the Café, it might have gotten a similar response, but likely not as vehement and not as many responses, because the Café is intended for threads and posts in a lighter vein, and not always related to the culture.

Don't give up on Lit, or even the BDSM Talk and Café fora. Join in any of the conversations that are of interest to you, "meet" some of the folks here, and soon you, too, can be a crochety old curmudgeon lambasting the noobs for impeding the progress of discussions and wasting valuable pixels!

 

[waaitg]

Don't give up on Lit, or even the BDSM Talk and Café fora. Join in any of the conversations that are of interest to you, "meet" some of the folks here, and soon you, too, can be a crochety old curmudgeon lambasting the noobs for impeding the progress of discussions and wasting valuable pixels!

How long do I have to wait until I get my crochety needles and what type of yarn do you recommend I use when I get them?

W~

 

[Loverskitten]

Let the ignoring of said thread commence.

See, I thought we should start ignoring these BUT the OP's "mistress" is the same one who has "too many subs" I think it was "a stable full" and, although I believe she and the OP KNOW BETTER. She still thought it'd be fun to annoy the rest of us, chances are she'd keep sending more of her online subs to do the same...

This has become an interesting thread to read, almost had a flounce! Love it!

 

[dreamykitten2]

As a kitten

See, I thought we should start ignoring these BUT the OP's "mistress" is the same one who has "too many subs" I think it was "a stable full" and, although I believe she and the OP KNOW BETTER. She still thought it'd be fun to annoy the rest of us, chances are she'd keep sending more of her online subs to do the same...

This has become an interesting thread to read, almost had a flounce! Love it!

You'd think you would be able to tell when one has sincerely made a mistake and had apologized! I am not and I repeat not going to bother anymore of U with my trivial nonsense. I never intended to anger you intentionally. It was because of ignorance strictly! Anyway no subs will be bothering you anymore and even though that was a sincere question apparently u thought it was unworthy of a real response!

 

[seela]

Anyway no subs will be bothering you anymore and even though that was a sincere question apparently u thought it was unworthy of a real response!

I'm not sure what question you're referring to.

If it's about this thread, I haven't noticed any question. If it's about the thread about how many subs is too many, I think I remember it receiving many very real answers.

I encourage you to stay on BDSM Talk and Cafe and not leave the place because of this thread! The people here are thoughtful and, really, a great bunch of people who can offer you a wealth of advice. Besides, should you leave, getting to know the rules of this forum would have been all in vain.

 

[Etoile]

Isn't breaking the rules half the fun? I think, and it's just me, that she has control of him. This is one of the ways she is controlling him. I believe one should not judge a dom/sub relationship.

Indeed, but I don't like having it put in my face like this. Private things should be private. IMO, a letter of apology should have been written to the Domme, not the public.

DVS and Sir Winston remain, as ever, the wisest on this issue. I could not possibly hope to post anything better than what they have said, so this is all I will say.

 

[FurryFury]

For me, breaking the rules is so NOT half the fun or any fun in a D/s relationship or any relationship. If I break the rules I don't do it on purpose but then I'm not into play punishment either.