Masturbation comfort level around spouse?

[screwher]

my wife

Depends on the situation. I'm not gonna whip my cock and start jerking it while we're watching Tv or anything. But we have mutually masturbated in bed together. We'll get naked and stroke ourselves as part of our foreplay. Sometimes we'll forsake penetration and just lay beside each other and bring ourselves to orgasm.

Masturbating will never be as pleasurable as cumming in her cunt or ass but doing it together makes it twice as good.

 

[awired50]

This thread has shown me that it is about 50 /50 and I am part of the lucky 50 % It's a shame for those who don't or can't, it teaches you so much about your partner and their desires...

 

[DriftWood75]

My wife was very apprehensive the first time she masturbated in front of me, she had seen me do it a few times for her viewing pleasure but had not taken the plunge herself.

It is now something we do on a regular basis, usually as part of our foreplay, other times for going the actual penetrative sex and just watching one another masturbate. Wife has a couple of viberators so her show is infinitely more entertaing than mine.



I have masturbated in front of people (not strangers folks, ex-g/fs and best friend) so I am quite comfortable with the concept, it does surprise me how much of a taboo subject it is for people.

And the shame alot of people carry because they masturbate (usually because their church etc. Tells them it is wrong) really needs to be addressed, I just don't know how.

 

[azco15]

It turns me on to do it in front of my wife. She just doesn't care to see it most of the time.

 

[suckonsimon]

I do believe that my woman wants all her pleasure from my attentions to her, and that she doesn't masturbate at all. She's always known that I do, but that's been something I do when she's not around. In these later years it's rare for me to go all the way solo, as my refraction time is now much longer and I hate not to be up for it with her when the opportunity arises.

But there's another new thing for us, with age: Quite often I don't cum, even when we've been totally wild and she is spent with her joy and getting a little tender. That situation totally satisfies me, with the added bonus that I stay rock solid as we lay un-joined and caressing. Then I might play with myself some, for her and my entertainment; deliciously slowly, with no intention of pushing through to the big spurt - just enjoyment of the erection which has sent her to the stars, glistening still with her honey.

So, that's a kind of post-coital part-masturbation that's a shared thing. Perhaps one day I'll go the distance with her watching and splatter my belly ...

 

[Biker_Type]

we're both comfortable with this. we like to watch each other, but that usually doesn't end with solo orgasms. if one of us starts the other can watch or join in. if I'm doing it and she 'catches' me I just keep going to see if she wants to help or watch or start doing it too. a regular occurrence is for me to watch her around the house, nude, and start stroking myself. there are many mornings I watch here get ready for work and work on me, who laughs and often offers to finish me or puts on a good show for me. if she starts first its often from being over on the story side and kind of casually teasing herself, if I 'catch' her I'll just watch and stroke slowly until she notices and we usually finish together. note, keeping towels on the couch/recliners is a good idea!

 

[calibij]

Totally comfortable with it ...we put on a show for each other as forplay all the time...

 

[InspiringDreams]

Exactly 50% comfortable.
He's not my spouse but it's a long term relationship... I love watching him cum so he often masturbates in front of me, but thus far I've still been to embarrassed to do my own thing in front of him. Don't get me wrong I don't think he'd mind but somehow it just feels really personal .

Ah, well, someday. I do think mutual masturbation is wonderful.

 

[skin2win]

Exactly 50% comfortable.
He's not my spouse but it's a long term relationship... I love watching him cum so he often masturbates in front of me, but thus far I've still been to embarrassed to do my own thing in front of him. Don't get me wrong I don't think he'd mind but somehow it just feels really personal .

Ah, well, someday. I do think mutual masturbation is wonderful.

Do you masturbate differently than you might think other women do it? As much as you might think us men would find that weird...it makes it MUCH hotter..ie masturbating while lying on your stomach or humping to get off...believe me ..he will LOVE it

 

[luckyseven]

I'm curious how open you guys are with your spouses about masturbating.

My wife knows that I often 'take care of myself' as she puts it and have done so in front of her. She is very comfortable with it. We have masturbated mutually laying next to each other. On a few occasions I've seen her fingers wondering down to her pussy whilst she's in bed beside me and brought her herself to orgasm not realising I knew it.

 

[hilton1958]

I don't understand why this is so taboo with so many couples, I wish it wasn't, but it is. My wife will give me a handjob at the drop of a hat, but yet I can't take care of myself in front of her, and neither will she do herself in front of me. It's strange, and I think we miss out on so much because of it.

 

[AskMeVic]

She won't in front of me. She doesn't do it at all that I'm aware of. I can think of a handful of times she's admitted to in the 11 years we've been together. She's just not comfortable.

Me, I've done it plenty. In bed while she's asleep (I'm sure she's woken up, turned and ignored). I've done it while she's kissed me when she's not in the mood.

But, for the most part, I'll take advantage of alone time, mostly to spare the awkwardness of "getting caught." Wish she were the type to catch me and say "oh boy, let me take care of that" but she's not. I'm sure she's also granted me alone time in the knowledge of what I'm up to.

 

[suckonsimon]

I don't understand why this is so taboo with so many couples, I wish it wasn't, but it is. My wife will give me a handjob at the drop of a hat, but yet I can't take care of myself in front of her, and neither will she do herself in front of me. It's strange, and I think we miss out on so much because of it.

Hilton pal, me and my woman are at exactly the same place. Strange isn't it that you two and us two have tremendous sex and yet there is this!

A window of opportunity has opened for us that we have discussed but not done yet: There are times, now that I'm getting on a bit, that she will be all orgasmed out and I'm still no-where near cumming [and I love that!] and generally we leave off and if possible fuck again a few hours later. But a couple of times when she has come off me [from a cowgirl blast of joy] we'll lie there a while admiring my glistening hard-on and I'll play with it some to keep it at max. Couple of times she has said to me, "Would you like to take it all the way?" I just haven't done it yet. But in that context, some day, I would like to.

 

[HornyVikingMN]

She won't in front of me. She doesn't do it at all that I'm aware of. I can think of a handful of times she's admitted to in the 11 years we've been together. She's just not comfortable.

Me, I've done it plenty. In bed while she's asleep (I'm sure she's woken up, turned and ignored). I've done it while she's kissed me when she's not in the mood.

But, for the most part, I'll take advantage of alone time, mostly to spare the awkwardness of "getting caught." Wish she were the type to catch me and say "oh boy, let me take care of that" but she's not. I'm sure she's also granted me alone time in the knowledge of what I'm up to.

I had to look twice to make sure I hadn't written that response myself! Except in my case, we're going on 24 years.

Being married to a woman who won't touch herself and doesn't seem to have any inclination to have an orgasm, ever, is the most frustrating experience I have ever had. I keep hoping for an awakening, but I don't see it happening.

 

[SCcouple1990]

We have never had a problem masturbating in front of each other, or telling the other about any solo session we had.

We rarely masturbate in front of each other now, unless it is foreplay. If we are taking care of ourselves in front of the other, it will usually lead to sex.

 

[ElijaRDC]

Haha, not spouse, but boyfriend of 2 years and we've been living together for a year and a half...

Comfortable AF.

 

[Boredthickvoyeur]

I do, alot. Few times in front of my wife, once in a great while I'll whip him out while she's on the phone (that's always fun, lol) She does not have near the sex drive I do, so most times I finish myself. But on rare occasions, she will help. She starts by grabbing my arm or feeling my shoulder, then she will start playing with my nipples and eventually holding/rubbing my balls. By this time I let her stroke my cock and I will reach behind and start playing with her pussy. Sometimes we just play with eachother, other times we use eachothers bodies to get off. Not necessarily sex, but tit fucking, or rubbing cock to pussy. She likes when I masturbate with my cockhead pressed up against her clit, so when I cum it's all over her, and she pretty much cums at that point too. It's pretty hot, I have to admit.

 

[MissCautious]

I tend to self service a lot, but always feel like I do it in secret. My husband has no idea how much I do it, and unfortunately he'd be mortified if he knew. I wish he were more open in this regard but alas he's not, so on the sly I shall continue!

 

[fullservice65]

I tend to self service a lot, but always feel like I do it in secret. My husband has no idea how much I do it, and unfortunately he'd be mortified if he knew. I wish he were more open in this regard but alas he's not, so on the sly I shall continue!

Same here, just switch the genders.
I kind of wish she knew; she has no idea how much I like to perform.

 

[Koa_Tree]

We both have no problem masturbating in front of each other. I definitely do it more frequent then her. I like to read Lit stories. If she's home alone she has to call or text me that she's need to masturbate. I know it is a big turn on when she does it in front of me.