(Maybe) turning poly, from a dominant point of view?

[SimonBrooke]

Well there you go! Sure sounds like it's worth giving a try.

H'mmm... Yes. Those who say 'don't' are probably right, but I think I'm going to interpret the signals as 'Proceed With Caution'.

Thanks all.

 

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[PrimoTat]

H'mmm... Yes. Those who say 'don't' are probably right, but I think I'm going to interpret the signals as 'Proceed With Caution'.

I'd advise proceeding with sensitivity and care for all involved.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I don't know. Not initially, and not without her knowledge.

Having an intensely sexual lover who is only available at intervals seems to me to have benefits - you get good sex when you get it, sex never gets to be routine and dull, and in between times you have the house to yourself .

If it turned out that she did satisfy my need for sexual expression and we developed some level of real emotional bond, then I can see myself not needing another lover. I'm really quite a solitary person. I like to spend a lot of time alone, and I like silence.

If you aren't look for a lifetime partner-a special someone to grow old with-but more of a sexual partner who may end up being a good friend, then yeah, I see where it could work.

Good luck.

 

[SimonBrooke]

I'd advise proceeding with sensitivity and care for all involved.

Indeed. 'All those involved' including not only her and her lover, but also her children.

If you aren't look for a lifetime partner-a special someone to grow old with-but more of a sexual partner who may end up being a good friend, then yeah, I see where it could work.

Someone to grow old with isn't on offer, and isn't necessarily something I want anyway.

Obviously this woman is special and unusual in ways I'm not going to describe but which are particularly appealing to me. My choice is to take what I'm offered, or to seek someone else who is unlikely to punch so many of my buttons. But, in any case, I'm not certain I want to share my house again. I'm a bit burned from doing that.

Good luck.

Thanks, appreciated.

 

[Stella_Omega]

"all those involved" also includes yourself, Simon.

 

[SpiritRider]

I tend to be both possessive and protective of my lovers.

Out of your entire initial post this is what caught my attention. It may be fun for awhile but I can see your general nature stepping up and wanting more.
Even with that...hope it works the way you want.

 

[Cattypuss]

Out of your entire initial post this is what caught my attention. It may be fun for awhile but I can see your general nature stepping up and wanting more.
Even with that...hope it works the way you want.

What he said. On both counts.

 

[SimonBrooke]

Sorry to be following up to my own thread late...

"all those involved" also includes yourself, Simon.

Thanks Stella. Appreciated. And it is of course true.

Out of your entire initial post this is what caught my attention. It may be fun for awhile but I can see your general nature stepping up and wanting more.
Even with that...hope it works the way you want.

Aye, there's the rub. I've never tried anything like polyamory before. It doesn't obviously fit with my personality.

Still, I'm committed now: I'm going ahead, and so far it feels good.

 

[00Syd]

Still, I'm committed now: I'm going ahead, and so far it feels good.

Glad to hear

 

[Commedia]

Still, I'm committed now: I'm going ahead, and so far it feels good.

I'm glad to hear it's going well so far. I know I'm a little late, but I thought I would share my thoughts. As some others have said, I would be very cautious.

It really depends on your personality more than anything else, though. Personally, I'm not very good at sharing My D/s relationships are usually more than just sexual, and I feel that mixing emotions between a third person can become quite complicated, and someone usually ends up hurt (From my experience and observations)
However, in situations where I am only sexually dominant and not very emotionally involved in the relationship, it can work out fine. I once took in a submissive who already had a boyfriend, though he was vanilla, so she wasn't sexually satisfied in the relationship. I gave her the sexual satisfaction she needed, while he was her primary partner. Since I, the third, was not emotionally invested, it worked out just fine, and we all enjoyed the relationship as it was.

I guess it is a complicated matter, but I fear that getting your heart too invested in it may end up badly for you. Either way, I wish you the best, and I hope that everything works out of you