Meeting your kid's best friend at a meet...

[Miss_Lucie]

I once had a similar situation.

I met a guy off of a nudist site, turns out he is the father of a close friend of mine. Long story short, the father and I continued to meet up for around five years, until I moved to Australia. It was never mentioned to his son, my friend, and I still talk to both of them.

We had fun, key is to not over think it!

 

[Prince Albert]

Let me be crystal clear; if I met the girl, and she was my daughter's best friend, and then realized that she was the person I was supposed to meet, my first words would be "ok... so... wanna still go ahead with it?" I really don't think there's anything wrong with it, since we're both adults. The only issue would be that of confidence and respect, so yeah... perhaps I would think twice before taking the next step with her. God, I'm all confused and conflicted now

Ok, what is missing here is presumedly you both are adults, over 18. Then I'd probably would still follow through with the meeting, but not end up in a "scene". would want to go someplace, for coffee, or something, sit & talk to get to know the person more. Maybe some other time do a scene, or offer to mentor her. Yes ackward, but why run away, that makes things even more ackward.

 

[jonnysimple]

Ok, what is missing here is presumedly you both are adults, over 18. Then I'd probably would still follow through with the meeting, but not end up in a "scene". would want to go someplace, for coffee, or something, sit & talk to get to know the person more. Maybe some other time do a scene, or offer to mentor her. Yes ackward, but why run away, that makes things even more ackward.

Oh thank GOD someone has understood the original intent of this post!!! Thank you!

And yes... we are definitely both 18+. I tend to agree though, there's no point in backing out right away, but things should proceed with a huge amount of caution, since this IS your kid's best friend, and the relationship you will have with this person could cause that to derail, especially if you are caught. So yeah... this is a high risk game at best.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Botx]

No, but I'll fantasize about it now!

 

[Etoile]

What if you go to a BDSM play party or the like, and run across a friend of one of your kids.

At those play parties, there is an agreement (sometimes written) that discretion is upheld, so, theoretically, that friend shouldn't talk to your kid about what he/she saw or where they saw you. But the event might become awkward (or more exciting, depending). And seeing them afterward would definitely make for some interesting moments of awkward silence.

My current play partner has had this happen at a play space. That's exactly what his experience was. "Okay, you saw me here, I saw you here, we're both cool with that, and we shall not speak of it. If you need an adult to talk about this stuff with, I've known you since you were a baby, and I'll help if I can."

Although when another friend of his kid found him on FL and added him as a friend, he declined, because that's where he keeps pictures and writing and stuff. That would be exposing too much of him personally, vs just being there as a helpful experienced adult.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Etoile]

And this seems Right.

This is the person I would also find desirable.

He does a lot of stuff in the way I consider Right, which is why he's a great play partner.

 

[Blue]

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[jonnysimple]

I'd probably leave because doing anything with them other than banter and socializing, though probably oozing that irresistible taboo high, would probably end with destroyed social confidence but I would make sure to make a metric ton of subtle esoteric wordplay jokes when me, they and my offspring are in the same room.

I'll admit, that's probably the best thing to do, since as others have noted, the risk of destroying your kid's relationship with their best friend is just too high for a kink fling to be worth it. But... having the possibility of joking around with it in your back pocket is deliciously sly!

 

[Lord_Steve]

My current play partner has had this happen at a play space. That's exactly what his experience was. "Okay, you saw me here, I saw you here, we're both cool with that, and we shall not speak of it. If you need an adult to talk about this stuff with, I've known you since you were a baby, and I'll help if I can."

Although when another friend of his kid found him on FL and added him as a friend, he declined, because that's where he keeps pictures and writing and stuff. That would be exposing too much of him personally, vs just being there as a helpful experienced adult.

etoile have i mentioned in that last ten minutes that you are a beacon of reason in this benighted world

your partner did exactly the right thing and i'm glad that yall found each other

 

[Etoile]

etoile have i mentioned in that last ten minutes that you are a beacon of reason in this benighted world

your partner did exactly the right thing and i'm glad that yall found each other

Aw, thank you, darling. And yes, he is pretty goddamn awesome when it comes to ethics in this community. Does shit RIGHT, man. (Funny thing though - we ran in the same circles for 10+ years before we finally met. Had a million mutual friends!)

 

[Ninwalker]

Similarly but not the same happened to me irl. My 12 year younger little sisters best friend showed up at an party. I was at first apprehensive but since we where both consenting adults I went for it. Great party, we got really close (she was a sub with no experience and I'm a Dom so it was great). Fast forward a couple of weeks and my little sister is all up in arms about what her childhood friend is up to with me. No details thank lord. I ended up cutting all ties and she was well into the lifestyle being my sub. This is twenty years ago, my sister is still friends with her, I met her sometimes with my sis but none of us ever mention anything about it.

... Well maybe not so true, she did reach out once a few years ago and tried to get back into the lifestyle with me but I already was in a monogamous relationship so I turned her down.

Quite an emotional journey though.