MFM...help finding a third...

You may also want to try a profile on a swingers site like swing lifestyle. You will get plenty of messages and can sort through who you are interested . Chat with them to weed some out, if you find someone you like meet and chat and see if there is a chemistry and take it from there.

Good luck to the two of you and your third.
 
Great ad. We can really identify and empathize with you two and wish you the best. We`re still in the fantasy stage and will likely stay there forever, but if we wrote an ad, we`d like to think it is very much like yours.

Good luck and have a great time!
 
You may also want to try a profile on a swingers site like swing lifestyle. You will get plenty of messages and can sort through who you are interested . Chat with them to weed some out, if you find someone you like meet and chat and see if there is a chemistry and take it from there.

Good luck to the two of you and your third.

Thank you! We did post over there. Unfortunately, we felt out IQ and self respect diminishing from the very first response... *sigh*

We had soooo many response from people who didn't even read our profile! It was like, "look a slot! Dear owner of slot, may I put my really huge cock in you? I have lots of experience!"

Everyone just cut and pasted responses with little or no editing. It was also funny to read the responses from people trying to fake a personality on the off chance we wouldn't notice and give them some free pussy. Sophomoric. *sigh*
 
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Great ad. We can really identify and empathize with you two and wish you the best. We`re still in the fantasy stage and will likely stay there forever, but if we wrote an ad, we`d like to think it is very much like yours.

Good luck and have a great time!

Thank you!!! We'll keep you up to date and welcome you to live vicariously through us. :kiss::D
 
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Search up fetish clubs in your area - they will be there and easily found via Google.

You won't be in quite the same environment as the hungry and prowling swingers. Some are likely to be there but they also should be respectful for the environment where most will not be swingers. This may provide a softer approach into meeting people who have a more open and adventurous approach to life.

Don't be shy - strike up your hellos and at least you may just make some new long lasting friends.

If you have no direct connections, contact the club and just ask "We are interested in exploring the life style can we come and check it out?" As a couple you will be made welcome and find the dress code will likely also include smart-casual (black) - meaning you don't have to race off and buy leathers for a look in.

I have found the predatory nature of some swingers just plain creepy but a fetish club offers introduction to kink friendly people who may well be open to all sorts of adventures but don't identify themselves as swingers. This also gives you the opportunity of getting to know the people first - you can have kinky friends who you are happy to invite into your home and maybe if the occasion is right the partying develops into play time.

Basically, make friends with kinky people rather than trying to find the kinky ones hidden within your friendship circle to date (though they are likely to be there). Kinky people are not going to judge you negatively for your desires.
 
Haa haa you guys DO sound fun, remember like a bicycle & sex the first time is always the hardest! ;)

You should really give FetLife a shot, not everybody there is a "hardcore experienced swinger" looking for sex club orgies every weekend, there's lot's of "normal" horny people too.

I hope you guys find somebody that fits...until then I'm subbed and living vicariously through the hunt!

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That picture is so compelling! Mmmmmmm...

Thank you for checking in on us. It means a lot!

I think the main thing we've learned so far is that we have a certain expectation and desire. We will not waiver from that, because it wouldn't be interesting or fun...

At first we thought we could just sub in most anything, but we quickly lost interest and the idea sounded annoying and not fun. Soooo...we had some long nights and even longer days talking and thinking and fucking our way through all of this and made some decisions. The result is our ad. I guess the TL;DR version would be:

If you're a crazy person who just happens to be a human, we're not interested. If your a human, who happens to be crazy, you're probably closer to interesting...

To be crass, if you're a swinger looking for a hole, you're not interesting. If you're a human who shares our tastes and interests, you may be closer to who we're looking for...

Thanks everybody!


Haa haa you guys DO sound fun, remember like a bicycle & sex the first time is always the hardest! ;)

You should really give FetLife a shot, not everybody there is a "hardcore experienced swinger" looking for sex club orgies every weekend, there's lot's of "normal" horny people too.

I hope you guys find somebody that fits...until then I'm subbed and living vicariously through the hunt!

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Half of me is thinking that you'd be better off sticking to your guns and even if you never find that right fit, there'd still be plenty of fun monkey sex imagining it together. Instead of caving and having the wrong dud utterly ruin it forever.


The other half is wondering if you've ever been accused of overthinking things?

:D

Stay awesome you guys.
Now pass the popcorn, it'll be fun to watch either way.


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Oh, LOL! We've been overthinking everything for an embarrassing number of years. That is how we do EVERYTHING! We even overthink the grocery store, but that makes us really happy and keeps us safe. You know?

We are too aware that this won't make any sense to most people, but we're used to a life we're no one 'gets it.' We usually compromise for the serenity of those around us, but in this situation, a compromise can't be an option. Not to mention, it wouldn't be fair to is. Though, we do understand that you mean we'll!!!

Yes, we know the risk is that we may never find someone who's capable of helping us and being respectful of our love and craziness, but as you say, we need to stick to our guns.

Just for the record, the fun monkey sex is truly surreal and would easily inspire envy in most!!

:cattail::kiss:

Half of me is thinking that you'd be better off sticking to your guns and even if you never find that right fit, there'd still be plenty of fun monkey sex imagining it together. Instead of caving and having the wrong dud utterly ruin it forever.


The other half is wondering if you've ever been accused of overthinking things?

:D

Stay awesome you guys.
Now pass the popcorn, it'll be fun to watch either way.


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:rose:
 
Just for the record, the fun monkey sex is truly surreal and would easily inspire envy in most!!

:cattail::kiss:

Hee hee oh feel free to share anytime you get the mood.

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:rose:

You guys rock!
P.S. I'm so stealing "Compromise for the serentiy of others" line, made me lol.
 
Weekend is almost here - google a club - make it happen and come tell all of the events on Monday.

Simple as that really...
 
Weekend is almost here - google a club - make it happen and come tell all of the events on Monday.

Simple as that really...

In one sense, yes. In another, no. We responded to your PM...

The saga continues!!! As soon as we have an update, we'll post! Until then, we'll continue to add musings for other's entertainment.

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In one sense, yes. In another, no. We responded to your PM...

The saga continues!!! As soon as we have an update, we'll post! Until then, we'll continue to add musings for other's entertainment.

:kiss:

Nobody's asked the key question yet...beer/wine/liquor/cocktail/teetotaler's ?
After all a brilliantly phrased & well thought out personal with no grammatical errors says a lot about what you're looking for, but your choice of drinks on a frisky Friday night says more about compatibility than 1000 words on an internet forum. :D

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Nobody's asked the key question yet...beer/wine/liquor/cocktail/teetotaler's ?
After all a brilliantly phrased & well thought out personal with no grammatical errors says a lot about what you're looking for, but your choice of drinks on a frisky Friday night says more about compatibility than 1000 words on an internet forum. :D

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In our defense, there is a reason that reverie is in our personal plea and not squirreled away in the story section. This is Lit...ostensibly...we're all here because words work for us. To that end, the story was thrown together (read: without editing) to act as a filter for the stuff arriving in our box...and to describe what we like in a way other than a boring list. We'll edit it, time permitting, but please don't judge us on our grammar! :D:kiss:

Also, for perspective, you're seeing all this in real time!

To answer your question:
MrReadingTime drinks black coffee in the AM and red wine (anything aged in whiskey barrel) in the PM. MrsReadingTime drinks coffe with sweet cream in the AM and beer (Shocktop'ish) in the PM.

We both fight with tequila and lose. Tequila tranquilizes Mr's funfriend like tagging a wild animal on the veldt and Mrs turns into MrsHyde...but not the fun kind. :rolleyes:

FWIW: beer and cum go really well together... :kiss:
 
In our defense, there is a reason that reverie is in our personal plea and not squirreled away in the story section. This is Lit...ostensibly...we're all here because words work for us. To that end, the story was thrown together (read: without editing) to act as a filter for the stuff arriving in our box...and to describe what we like in a way other than a boring list. We'll edit it, time permitting, but please don't judge us on our grammar! :D:kiss:

Also, for perspective, you're seeing all this in real time!

To answer your question:
MrReadingTime drinks black coffee in the AM and red wine (anything aged in whiskey barrel) in the PM. MrsReadingTime drinks coffe with sweet cream in the AM and beer (Shocktop'ish) in the PM.

We both fight with tequila and lose. Tequila tranquilizes Mr's funfriend like tagging a wild animal on the veldt and Mrs turns into MrsHyde...but not the fun kind. :rolleyes:

FWIW: beer and cum go really well together... :kiss:

Haa haa 1st off, your grammar is in the 99 percentile, no need to apologize to someone that never finished high school.
I've never tasted a red aged in USED whiskey barrels, only virgin oak. Scotch in bourbon/TN whisky/beer aged in USED barrels...but a young full bodied red aged in something other than white virgin oak...okay now I hate you guys, lol.

Spanish or S.American yineyard...a red in aged whiskey barrels I'll pay my own money to try.

I'm passin on the beer & cum for now, too many bad high school memories.

The scent of clean men...alcohol...and pussy...
*sigh*

The scent of cleaned up men, the sound of more than one awkwardly horny person, and yhe sound of three people groaning at once and knowing they are all going to cum...but just a few heartbeats longer because this feels too fucking good and nobody say anything for a bit...
 
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Threesomes are fun, but almost every relationship is a ticking time bomb once another person penetrates your significant other.

I don't deny that this is probably true...however, look at most relationships where there has never been a 3-sum. They're doomed anyway. So this begs the question: Is there any correlation between inviting a 3rd party into your relationship and divorce or break-up? Seems that you are damned if you do and damned if you don't...Maybe they should have a good time anyway?
 
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I want a threesome! Thankfully, my man is excited about it too. However, we have no idea what we're doing. We tried to invite a friend, but he chickened-out. It felt really crappy to get turned down and left that relationship in an awkward state... :(

In fantasy land, there are now worries, but IRL the risks scare us.

Anyone have advice?
Anyone happy with their successes?
Any failures you can share to prepare us?

Thank you!
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Same issue here. We have always lightly fantasized about it but my lover is talking more and more about it lately, her primary motivation is to experience a DP which thrills me as well. I am supportive and interested but once "IRL" comes into focus it just doesn't seem possible. We are looking for a NSA but with the perfect guy (interesting, chemistry for her, connection etc.) and there is the paradox how do you have an NSA yet with a connection? Meeting a stranger has risks (STD, psycho etc.), doing this with someone we both know also has risks.

We are contemplating a couple possibly (safer, good ice breaker etc.) but we are not interested in the other F (present lover is not bi at all and I get the strong sense she would not be comfortable seeing me with another woman) so that isn't fair for her to sit and watch her SO with us and, if you will pardon the irony, it would be weird.

For now we have to be content with objects (dildos, vibrators, plugs) doing the one half of the DP but we would like a real person there for sure.
 
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