Mississippi Is A Completely Boring State...I've Lost All Hope...

[sirhugs]

A nine month dry spell, while frustrating, is still a short one. My dry spell has been over 6 years so far and no signs of that changing any time soon if ever.

oh, sweetie, don't be like that. At the risk of seeming sexist, let me relate being a nerdy teen reading " How to Pick up Girls". It posits in chapter 1 that even the least attractive woman in a room has the knowledge that she can find sex in that room if she really wants it , that night, as contrasted with the guys, thinking they'll never have sex again. The book then explains that this distinction is what prevents the guys having sex- it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. the solution? Get sex by not caring about sex. ( See the movie " The Tao of Steve"). Never worked for me, but I've seen it work for lots of guys and gals. Unless there is some medical or penetentiary reason you can, JUST DO IT! You'll feel soooo good after....

 

[kikmosa]

oh, sweetie, don't be like that. At the risk of seeming sexist, let me relate being a nerdy teen reading " How to Pick up Girls". It posits in chapter 1 that even the least attractive woman in a room has the knowledge that she can find sex in that room if she really wants it , that night, as contrasted with the guys, thinking they'll never have sex again. The book then explains that this distinction is what prevents the guys having sex- it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. the solution? Get sex by not caring about sex. ( See the movie " The Tao of Steve"). Never worked for me, but I've seen it work for lots of guys and gals. Unless there is some medical or penetentiary reason you can, JUST DO IT! You'll feel soooo good after....

It's not that I can't, it's that
1: I'm very shy in real life
2: There's no where to go around here to meet people
and 3: no shows the least bit of interest in even wanting to try with me.

 

[sirhugs]

It's not that I can't, it's that
1: I'm very shy in real life
2: There's no where to go around here to meet people
and 3: no shows the least bit of interest in even wanting to try with me.

1. FORCE yourself to be less shy. I do it every day. I am not only a brainy geek, I'm a homely brainy geek with a limp, who stutters. The library has books to help. Start with Dale Carnegie " How to make Friends...."

2. There's always somewhere- statistically, we meet spouses mainly at school, church, work. No stats I've seen on dating. But join anything- a sport? a cooking class ( newly divorced guys take them)? dance lessons ( most teachers will pair you up)? a course at the college?Buy a dog. Go for obedience lessons, walk in the park. Sit reading an interesting book in the park/mall/on the beach. Join the nearest Film Society. If religious, join a Bible Study.Ask gf's to fix you up. But remember, you may have to kiss a thousand frogs to meet your prince, so start soon!

3. Is this true, or are you just ignoring them? If true, its cause you give off, " I'm unhappy, boring, not interested or interesting " signals. Dress a bit livelier. Do you wear perfume? If not, start. If so, change scents. For fall, I like "Poison", or "Opium". "White Shoulders" is also classic. Hold your chin high. Meet people in the eye. SMILE. If you see a guy, you start the chat. Almost any line will do. " Hi, I'm jane." works well.If your name is jane.
Don't be afraid to ask a guy to a movie, or to a wedding ( when I was single, that always worked on me).

Let me know how you do.

 

[kikmosa]

Thank you for the advice. I am trying to get over the shy part. As for the places, this is such a small town that there really is no where to meet here. I'm hoping to move soon to a place that's bigger with more to offer. There are churches but that's about all. No college within driving distance. No place offering dance lessons, nothing. biggest places here are the wal-mart and the lumber company. I work at wal-mart and we're not encourged to flirt with the customers.

 

[sirhugs]

Thank you for the advice. I am trying to get over the shy part. As for the places, this is such a small town that there really is no where to meet here. I'm hoping to move soon to a place that's bigger with more to offer. There are churches but that's about all. No college within driving distance. No place offering dance lessons, nothing. biggest places here are the wal-mart and the lumber company. I work at wal-mart and we're not encourged to flirt with the customers.

how about flirting with coworkers?
need any lumber?

 

[kikmosa]

Most of my so-workers are married or teens. And ove 3/5 are young girls.
As for lumber, tried that. Even tried asking some of the guys for help picking it out. Didn't work.

 

[sirhugs]

Most of my so-workers are married or teens. And ove 3/5 are young girls.
As for lumber, tried that. Even tried asking some of the guys for help picking it out. Didn't work.

is there a library or bookstore ? a coffeeshop?

 

[kikmosa]

is there a library or bookstore ? a coffeeshop?

Small library, never find men there. No coffeeshops or bookstores. This is a tiny town. It shuts down at dark and rools up the sidewalks on the weekends. Hoping to move in the spring. Going north.

 

[sirhugs]

Small library, never find men there. No coffeeshops or bookstores. This is a tiny town. It shuts down at dark and rools up the sidewalks on the weekends. Hoping to move in the spring. Going north.

spring is a ways off. anywhere within driving range?

 

[kikmosa]

God I wish. 45 minutes to the nearest big town and that ones not that big. And yes spring is a long way off but after 6 years it's not that long. Moving to New York state. Lot more oppertunities there.

 

[sirhugs]

God I wish. 45 minutes to the nearest big town and that ones not that big. And yes spring is a long way off but after 6 years it's not that long. Moving to New York state. Lot more oppertunities there.

meanwhile, try a Lit Personal

and btw, whats wrong with a horny teen boy from Wallymart? When I was 18, I'dda loved a mature woman to teach me the ropes ( or what to do with the ropes).

 

[kikmosa]

meanwhile, try a Lit Personal

and btw, whats wrong with a horny teen boy from Wallymart? When I was 18, I'dda loved a mature woman to teach me the ropes ( or what to do with the ropes).

Nothing wrong with them. They don't seem to be interested in learning.

Believe me, if even one showed the slightest interest, I'd be more then willing to teach.

 

[sirhugs]

Nothing wrong with them. They don't seem to be interested in learning.

Believe me, if even one showed the slightest interest, I'd be more then willing to teach.

maybe they just are waiting for the nudge....

 

[Silent_Quill]

Hey kikmosa

Just wanted you to know that I'm interested, anytime you're in Biloxi let me know, be glad to meet you anywhere! I'd nudge you to the point of exhaustion!

 

[sirhugs]

Re: Hey kikmosa

Just wanted you to know that I'm interested, anytime you're in Biloxi let me know, be glad to meet you anywhere! I'd nudge you to the point of exhaustion!

see, kikmososa, Lit truly is a great community!

 

[Silent_Quill]

Re: Re: Hey kikmosa

see, kikmososa, Lit truly is a great community!

Now, Sirhugs, let's just pray she's instered in me.....I think shes very pretty and worthy of several hours worth of pleasure in bed....just hope she thinks the same.......

 

[sirhugs]

Re: Re: Re: Hey kikmosa

Now, Sirhugs, let's just pray she's instered in me.....I think shes very pretty and worthy of several hours worth of pleasure in bed....just hope she thinks the same.......

in bed? how boring? whats wriong with the kitchen table, the shower, outdoors under a tree?

remember if she does reply , to follow safe internet rules ( this is to allay her anxiety as well as yours). First meeting in a public place. Since she will be the more nervous, you let her know what you look like , and arrive first. If she wants to "flee", she can.
Don't expect sex on the first meeting, but evenif that happens, don't go to either one's home- motel rooms are nice.

 

[Silent_Quill]

Don't worry, I'm from the south, I was born a gentleman!

in bed? how boring? whats wriong with the kitchen table, the shower, outdoors under a tree?

remember if she does reply , to follow safe internet rules ( this is to allay her anxiety as well as yours). First meeting in a public place. Since she will be the more nervous, you let her know what you look like , and arrive first. If she wants to "flee", she can.
Don't expect sex on the first meeting, but evenif that happens, don't go to either one's home- motel rooms are nice.

I remember how it was my first online meeting that led to a sexual encounter. I damn near threw up all over my truck I was so nervous. So no worries, I will let her make the decisions on where to meet, what to do from there. If she enjoys just going to get some coffee, I will do that as well! And if she just says flat out: "Look, your not my type!" I can handle that as well, it's just nice to meet people in general and make new friends.

As for the sexual part, that's always fun to make up as you go along. Anyways, if she decides to flee, if that's her course of action, I won't be offended, I've been afraid before too. So no worries, I do understand!

 

[kikmosa]

Of course I'm interested. The problem is I live in north Alabama. I do have releatives in Pensacola though. I might can get down there. Let me see what I can do.

 

[Silent_Quill]

I emailed you.......

Of course I'm interested. The problem is I live in north Alabama. I do have releatives in Pensacola though. I might can get down there. Let me see what I can do.

Just thought I'd let you know I sent you an email......hope to chat soon!


Quill