my husband is going share me,What should i expector do

[FurryFury]

Geez! That sounds like a very interesting new thread. Anyone interested?

Absolutely!

We are now safely treading in an area I adore in fantasy at least.

Chain me to a cross, make me confess and then beat me, fuck me, yeah baybee!

*starts search of crucifix dildos*

Fury

 

[Life_Noir]

We have done it, and it didn't destroy our relationship. We talked a lot before it, he was patient in explaining why he felt this was something he wanted to do, he was open about his own insecurities about it, he listened to my thoughts on safety (all aspects of safety, not just physical), he listened to the reasons why I didn't think it a great idea, we talked openly about the reasons it turned both of us on and the reasoins it turned us off, but in the end I obeyed and found it an interesting experience. One of the rules about it we have had to date is that he is there also, and that also applies in reverse if he is ever going to be with someone else. Saves the risk of untamed and dangerous suspicions creeping in when you least expect them.

Catalina

Ahhh..Sorry.. I should have been more clear I think. It sounded like I was giving out some blanket condemnation...My own experience is both anecdotal and emperical..and like all such..It's a case of YMMV... I DO know of couples that have made it work ...With varying levels of success... Much like any endeavor that involves human emotions..

 

[catalina_francisco]

Ahhh..Sorry.. I should have been more clear I think. It sounded like I was giving out some blanket condemnation...My own experience is both anecdotal and emperical..and like all such..It's a case of YMMV... I DO know of couples that have made it work ...With varying levels of success... Much like any endeavor that involves human emotions..

LOL, don't feel bad, it was actually one of my reasons for being reluctant to see this fantasy turned into reality as a good idea. Fortunately, we did do a LOT of talking, much to his despair at times, but in the end it paid off.

Catalina

 

[lne_iii]

Absolutely!

We are now safely treading in an area I adore in fantasy at least.

Chain me to a cross, make me confess and then beat me, fuck me, yeah baybee!

*starts search of crucifix dildos*

Fury

Dear God Furry! I'm going to have to excuse myself to the confessional for a minute. :evil:

 

[FurryFury]

Dear God Furry! I'm going to have to excuse myself to the confessional for a minute. :evil:

Ah! Good! My work here is done.

*smiles*

Fury

 

[serijules]

Ma'am shares me with others and i have zero say in it. It has no affect on our relationship at all, just goes with being her property. No talking about it was ever done, it was just done and will continue to be just done at her discretion.

Not everyone needs to talk things out to death in order to just accept them and have them be positive parts of the relationship.

Just another view on it. *shrugs*

 

[catalina_francisco]

Ma'am shares me with others and i have zero say in it. It has no affect on our relationship at all, just goes with being her property. No talking about it was ever done, it was just done and will continue to be just done at her discretion.

Not everyone needs to talk things out to death in order to just accept them and have them be positive parts of the relationship.

Just another view on it. *shrugs*

I doubt I would have had a need to discuss it either if I had not been in a relationship where we are married, and live under the one roof 24/7 serijules, but that factor for me involves a lot more need to think of 'what ifs' and deal with them before they take their toll on a relationship which in every way is our life. I have no other life outside this one we share, no income, no other house, no moments where we are not together, and it is the same for him in terms of not having anyone else and our lives being intertwined not just on an emotional and sexual level, but also on legal, financial and family levels, so such a step does require more for us regardless of how much we would like to sometimes just jump in and forget about what might go wrong. Because of the nature of our relationship, it also was a concern for him, and did raise issues he did not expect, but we have not regretted it, nor is it out of the question in future interactions.

Catalina

 

[serijules]

I doubt I would have had a need to discuss it either if I had not been in a relationship where we are married, and live under the one roof 24/7 serijules, but that factor for me involves a lot more need to think of 'what ifs' and deal with them before they take their toll on a relationship which in every way is our life. I have no other life outside this one we share, no income, no other house, no moments where we are not together, and it is the same for him in terms of not having anyone else and our lives being intertwined not just on an emotional and sexual level, but also on legal, financial and family levels, so such a step does require more for us regardless of how much we would like to sometimes just jump in and forget about what might go wrong. Because of the nature of our relationship, it also was a concern for him, and did raise issues he did not expect, but we have not regretted it, nor is it out of the question in future interactions.

Catalina

cat...why do you take EVERYTHING as a personal direct comment at you and your situation? Sometimes I get really tired of you defending and explaining your relationship over and over to anyone that posts a different view on similar slave type topics. We know, we KNOW! lol

I'm posting on the topic in general. Your replies did not impact or influence what I posted in any way other than to make me think "hrm, it's different for me, I should post another view."

If I WERE with her 24/7 and had no life outside of her, her way of sharing me would be absolutely no different at all. It would not impact us any differently because of how we are wired. If I were with her 24/7, it would be as her slave, just as I am now. Family, finances, etc have nothing to do with my position as her sexual property. So I was sharing a separate different view that sometimes, the discussion and negotiation and consideration really is not needed and doesn't harm as so many people were posting how harmful it would be to not discuss it to death.

Unless I quote you, I am not referring to you and really don't need an in depth explanation of why you are so very unique. Just seems that every time someone posts something of this nature, you jump in sounding defensive as if the reply was somehow directed at you. I don't know if you mean it that way but you come across that way. You already explained your view, a few times, so it really does sound defensive when you start beating around the bush to any reply that differs from yours.

Just saying. Been wanting to say it for a damn long time!

 

[catalina_francisco]

cat...why do you take EVERYTHING as a personal direct comment at you and your situation? Sometimes I get really tired of you defending and explaining your relationship over and over to anyone that posts a different view on similar slave type topics. We know, we KNOW! lol

I'm posting on the topic in general. Your replies did not impact or influence what I posted in any way other than to make me think "hrm, it's different for me, I should post another view."

If I WERE with her 24/7 and had no life outside of her, her way of sharing me would be absolutely no different at all. It would not impact us any differently because of how we are wired. If I were with her 24/7, it would be as her slave, just as I am now. Family, finances, etc have nothing to do with my position as her sexual property. So I was sharing a separate different view that sometimes, the discussion and negotiation and consideration really is not needed and doesn't harm as so many people were posting how harmful it would be to not discuss it to death.

Unless I quote you, I am not referring to you and really don't need an in depth explanation of why you are so very unique. Just seems that every time someone posts something of this nature, you jump in sounding defensive as if the reply was somehow directed at you. I don't know if you mean it that way but you come across that way. You already explained your view, a few times, so it really does sound defensive when you start beating around the bush to any reply that differs from yours.

Just saying. Been wanting to say it for a damn long time!

Sorry you feel so put out seri. BTW, I was also posting my viewpoint and why the situation of people who need to discuss it, such as myself and perhaps the OP as she is also married to her PYL, may differ from your situation where you say 'Not everyone needs to talk things out to death in order to just accept them and have them be positive parts of the relationship'. Also, I thought I read you said somewhere you and D are not sexual with each other (I could be mistaken but I thought you had said it was the way things were with you), which IMO would also likely alter a lot the way a person responded to being placed in the position of being sexually shared with others...being sexually involved with the one who is sharing or being shared can alter the emotional and psychological impact a lot. Quoting your post meant nothing more than addressing the differences which apply in opposing situations and why given your statement which I expect would be the same others would also make. Any decisions F & I make can impact seriously on others, not least of all on my son who is dependent on both of us, so yes, though we are also wired to want to do these things without discussion and thought, we have more than ourselves to consider, so sometimes we do need to 'talk it to death' as you put it to make sure we are not being selfish about our own desires at the expense of others.

I also tend to be of a mind it is usually difficult to predict 100% how it would be in a particular situation if you are not and have not been in that position as yet, but then, if you and D were living together, I expect it would not effect anyone but both of you so yes, you might be lucky enough to just accept and not have to concern yourself with any negatives arising from the situation such as STD's or unexpected emotions creating difficulties for others. I have been in the position of being in a relationship where I was not living with the other person, and any of these actions were not likely to affect anyone but us, and so yes, in that situation we did not talk it to death, didn't discuss it at all actually, and I did just accept and obey.

Catalina

 

[AvaAdore]

2). Human self degradation is the road to poverty. People who degrade themselves intentionally are called sloths. Sloth is accompanied by a genetic mutation on the DRD gene series in human DNA. The genetic mutations of the DRD gene series are seen with all self degradation, masturbation, sodomy, fornication, drug addiction, mood disorders, attention deficit disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, pornography, lust, indecent exposure, excessive risk taking, satanism, use of card decks to gamble or predict the future, compulsive gambling, homosexual thoughts, bestiality, homicide, rape, abortion, genocide, terrorism, greed, cannibalism, child molestation, robbery, soelancia, galrax, folshiry, hindery, flaclec, bisexuality, feminism, fantasies of violence or fascination with the morbid, thoughts that curse God, thoughts of killing other people, incarceration, suicide, atheism, Islam, Hinduism, and Buddhism. In the USA it has been found that sexually dysfunctional people listen to rock music frequently. It was also found they have low self esteem, are underachievers, have dysfunctional relationships across the board, especially with parents, viewed pornography at an early age, frequently had been sexually molested, did not confess their sins in Roman Catholic Confession, frequently developed adult onset diabetes, were chronically victimized, failed to achieve middle class status, were atheists, relied on secular humanism to help them, were failed by countless mental health professionals throughout life, had abortions, used artificial birth control, were criminals or alcoholics, or dated criminals or alcoholics, or both.

Are you on crack?

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Are you on crack?

The short answer is... "Yes" *LOL*

 

[graceanne]

The short answer is... "Yes" *LOL*

The question is . . . who's crack?

 

[ownedsubgal]

Ma'am shares me with others and i have zero say in it. It has no affect on our relationship at all, just goes with being her property. No talking about it was ever done, it was just done and will continue to be just done at her discretion.

Not everyone needs to talk things out to death in order to just accept them and have them be positive parts of the relationship.

Just another view on it. *shrugs*

like you seri, my Master shares me with others and i have no say in the matter. before i became his property he made it crystal clear that any slave of his would be used by others, many and frequently, and that's just the way it was going to be. i didn't forget that once he actually claimed me as his. that's about as far as the "discussion" went in that department.

and although i will admit it certainly has been difficult at times....dealing with certain sadistic people, or having to serve others when i'm very depressed or otherwise not feeling well...it hasn't had a detrimental effect on our relationship, to the contrary, it's taught me some valuable lessons and tools, and will continue to do so in the future.