If I were you i'd be pissed. It sounds like she's putting his needs, before yours, and she's taking more comfort in him just because he has more money then you? I could understand if she was just experimenting, and she wanted to explore her fantasies. Thats fine, thats what BDSM is about, it's about exploring. But if you only get a kiss once in a blue moon, you never make love, she never opens up to you, but she does with him. What's that say about this relationship? It means she no longer has ANY feelings for you, at all.
That whole bullshit about her entering this lifestyle so she wouldn't be so controlling anymore is bullshit. This little adventure she's on is about her own selfish needs. So if you think it got rid of her demanding ways, think agian.
She knows she can get away with stuff because your letting it happen. Do you think her master would let this happen? Fuck no! he'd probably, dump her and find a new sub, that was worth his time.
Let me get this straight, as long as she has a rich man to take care of her she will be happy? As long as you can provide better for her, she will be happy? Even though you have a better job now and can take care of her better she still wants the rich dom on the side? She is very shallow and your relationship is doomed if it is based on money only. You sound a little bit like another guy who posted here recently named "Victorious". He had a long thread dealing with a wife that needed to be taken care of better, financially. Money was everything to her. You can only buy love for a while. He found out in the end that it didn't work out and you will too. Get out now while you can and find someone who is not so shallow.
Exactly the point subwannabe is making. He has been through the exact same thing. All the money he gave, things he purchased for her still wasn't enough. All she wanted was a guy with a cock bigger than 3 inches. Sometimes it not the money but the loving they need. Take subwannabe's first hand advice from his personal experience. RUN!!!!!
Hmmmmmmmmm. You've got a lot of problems here. I don't really think her coming out is as much a positive as you think, even though keeping it secret was definetly the wrong way to go. The only thing that is really going to save your relationship is if she dumps this dom and allows you to take more of a role of what he was providing. I think you are having wishful thinking if you think this dom of hers is going to somehow make her less dominant towards you. In fact, it could even have the opposite effect. Many subs are not subs 24/7. Many subs can be important and dominant people like managers, corporate officers, etc and then get their opposite needs met away from their "normal" lives. She could very well get her submissive needs met by this dom and then turn around and be even more dominant toward you. This all reeks of disaster in my opinion unless she is willing to let all of her needs be provided by you. Maybe counseling would be in order if both of you were still willing to work on the relationship but this will only work if she is willing to get rid of him. You are in fantasy land if you think it's going to work out staying together and allowing her to have a dom on the side. I'm not saying that other people can't do this but in my opinion your relationship will not be able to withstand the extra strain.
Glad your willing to help others with the same problems you have been through subwannabe. I really respect the fact that your able to talk about the dom your SO had and how you went to counseling to help with your nightmares about her leaving you. I think you need to PM him and let him know about the butt raping scene's.
