Nervous.

[FurryFury]

It's a good idea to take some time and write down everything that has happened thus far as completely as you can remember it, with dates and times right now before you forget more.

Continue to document as each event happens, copying and keeping IM convos, e-mails, tapes from phone convos and so on.

Good luck with this. Hopefully nothing else will happen.

Fury

 

[Etoile]

Slavery is not legal in any country. Period. There is no place in the world where one human can legally own another human being. BDSM contracts are not enforceable in any court of law, period. All "Master/slave" relationships are negotiated between the two people in them.

You're not in a relationship with him, therefore you do not belong to him. Period!

(By the way, if he is from Lit, make sure you tell that to the police. They will contact Lit, and Lit lawyers are very familiar with stalking and similar situations.)

 

[babiesmiles]

Great advice Etoile

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I was seeing someone for awhile who was teaching me about the lifestyle and he eventually collared me. But with his busy schedule, I rarely saw him so it was hard to keep the training going and one day we just stopped speaking. (We didn't speak on a daily basis, anyway. Which wasbad enough.) I decided I couldn't deal with the lack of communication and we decided it was best to stop.

Months later, I met someone new and now have a boyfriend (he isn't in the lifestyle) and I'm scared.

The Master I had at one point says he still owns me and demanded that I or my boyfriend "pay" ($$, or let him have me for another year) for my freedom from him. I'm afraid because he knows where I go to school and live- should I be worried that he could take violent action?

I'm sorry if this post didn't make sense

That supposed dominant is the kind that gives the rest of us a bad name. He didn't have time for you. It didn't work out. You can move on.

 

[sweetmelissa087]

That supposed dominant is the kind that gives the rest of us a bad name. He didn't have time for you. It didn't work out. You can move on.

I am trying to move on But it's quite hard when this is going on..

 

[subwannabe]

Liberated slave had some good points too. The bigger they are, the harder they fall. If he is as an important person as you say, then he has more than enough money and doesn't really need any from you. I bet when push comes to shove he probably doesn't need the publicity of this going down bad for him. You do need to get some actual evidence and make a complaint. You need to nip this in the bud and let him know it is over.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

I am seriously struggling with aspects of authenticity in this thread .

-The Master I had at one point says he still owns me and demanded that I or my boyfriend "pay" ($$, or let him have me for another year) for my freedom from him.

-He helped me twice $$-wise, would this be an issue? He said a Master helps his slave with every aspect in her life if she's struggling, so that wouldn't come back to bite me in the ass, would it?

Does the "$$" of the initial demand for money equate with the "$$" he 'helped ' her twice with ?

-I'm afraid because he knows where I go to school and live- should I be worried that he could take violent action?

-I've lied and told him I'm not at school - he doesn't know where my house is at home - and that may backfire on me because he sometimes says he drives by my dorm for 'memories'.

I may be just being pedantic but didn't the OP's initial quote imply that he knows where she lives as well as studies ? Her second post appears to back track that premise with specifics. Yes I appreciate the living at home versus living in a Dorm dynamics . I still find considering the nature of this thread the choice of information conveyed 'interesting'. There is also no statement that this dominant was abusive in the previous relationship in any manner that would equate violence. As far as I can see by her comments this 'dominant/control freak/psycho' was guilty of 'not speaking on a daily basis' . The crime also of potential reminicense "he sometimes says he drives by my dorm for 'memories'"

The comments by the OP to potential violence once again hinge off the comments regarding money . More specifically money she obviously has no intention paying including her personal validation for not paying once again being...........

"It sucks he ruined it for me and I'm still confused as to why he thinks I still owe him something, when really- I feel like HE owes ME for the time I had persistently wasted on trying to get in touch."

At the OP's age the fact that she is unaware from downloading Yahoo Messenger ( in each version I have installed ) it auto saves conversations until the settings are changed not to, again interesting.

As for records of him demanding money, etc - I don't have them. They were usually conversations on Yahoo and I never thought of saving them, only because I usually thought he would stop being ridiculous.

He could very easily become violent and he also has a pretty high position and is well known in some aspects which is why it kind of frightens me even more. If things DO increase, I suppose I have no other option but police notifcation.

Still no direct note of him being previously violent . She has documented his other failings ie:lack of communication & reminiscing to date. I also would have thought if the man was in a 'pretty high position' it would make him less of a threat . Surely the revelation of all the above would have the potential to disrupt his status.

Speaking of high position/profile it may serve the OP well to consider removing photos she has place in Lit identifying herself clearly.

Picture Thread

Also removing her Yahoo contact details may be prudent under the current 'circumstances' including ..........

swallowmyload07's searching for a fuck buddy thread

 

[FurryFury]

Excellent points Miss Rebecca.

Food for thought.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I am seriously struggling with aspects of authenticity in this thread .

You get my vote just for putting in the research....from the first post I had serious reservations, hence I didn't bother posting any thoughts etc...actually thought at best it may have been an online only relationship, but even seriously doubted that....think I may be getting too cynical.

Catalina

 

[lil_slave_rose]

i'm not sure if those points raise any suspicions for me, but it's definantly food for thought. the thing that gets me if we've given advice and said go to the police, and the OP says they'll go to the police IF it continues. seems to me if you're scared of someone starting violence against you that's the first thing you'd do....*shrugs* i could be wrong i guess

 

[Marquis]

If this is a real question, I'd think you are right to be nervous about entering a D/s relationship.

Until you develop some personal standards and realistic ideas on how relationships should run, you're going to continue to be a target to losers like this guy.

 

[liberatedslave]

Well, just goes to show how much attention I pay to detail. I never noticed any inconsistencies. Feelin a bit stoopid now.

 

[Etoile]

Well, just goes to show how much attention I pay to detail. I never noticed any inconsistencies. Feelin a bit stoopid now.

There's no need to at all. For all we know, the OP is indeed still telling the truth. She may just be confused about how to relate her feelings. Giving thoughtful advice is always a good thing - even if the OP is not in this situation, perhaps someone else will come along later who is, and will find this information helpful. Never feel bad about giving advice to someone who asks for it but doesn't need it - only feel bad about NOT giving advice to someone who asks and really does need it.

 

[Little_Kitten]

i'm not sure if those points raise any suspicions for me, but it's definantly food for thought. the thing that gets me if we've given advice and said go to the police, and the OP says they'll go to the police IF it continues. seems to me if you're scared of someone starting violence against you that's the first thing you'd do....*shrugs* i could be wrong i guess

Hmm thi really doesn't raise suspicions for me, cos in my mind, this sounds very likely that it could happen. I mean, there are weirdos out there, right? Plus, I'd wait too to contact anyone regarding this. Mostly because I always get irrational fears of people who are gonna judge me n stuff.

 

[Leatherargento]

HELP means HELP -- not JUDGMENT

There's no need to at all. For all we know, the OP is indeed still telling the truth. She may just be confused about how to relate her feelings. Giving thoughtful advice is always a good thing - even if the OP is not in this situation, perhaps someone else will come along later who is, and will find this information helpful. Never feel bad about giving advice to someone who asks for it but doesn't need it - only feel bad about NOT giving advice to someone who asks and really does need it.

Look, when a person's being stalked and extorted, he/she feels confused and may not make what people outside his/her emotional situation consider a "coherent, flawlessly logical statement".

It is not up to CRIME WITNESSES to make JUDGMENTS regarding fact.

It is not even up to the POLICE to do that. Even the POLICE are just supposed to collect EVIDENCE required by their training and the law, and, if the case goes to trial, to the DA's case.

Even the DISTRICT ATTORNEY and JUDGE are not supposed to JUDGE. So who are we to sweep this under the rug, simply because of our untrained, gut, reactions to a desperate person's cry for help?

sweetmelissa came here for HELP. Anyone who says she didn't better have PROOF she's faking. Otherwise, kindly take your obviously arbitrarily, thoughtlessly, and whimsically-applied whips and think of some imaginary infraction committed by your sub. Take it out on someone who asked to be your personal doormat, not on someone whose express purpose in coming to you was to get advice and support.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Look, when a person's being stalked and extorted, he/she feels confused and may not make what people outside his/her emotional situation consider a "coherent, flawlessly logical statement".

It is not up to CRIME WITNESSES to make JUDGMENTS regarding fact.

It is not even up to the POLICE to do that. Even the POLICE are just supposed to collect EVIDENCE required by their training and the law, and, if the case goes to trial, to the DA's case.

Even the DISTRICT ATTORNEY and JUDGE are not supposed to JUDGE. So who are we to sweep this under the rug, simply because of our untrained, gut, reactions to a desperate person's cry for help?

sweetmelissa came here for HELP. Anyone who says she didn't better have PROOF she's faking. Otherwise, kindly take your obviously arbitrarily, thoughtlessly, and whimsically-applied whips and think of some imaginary infraction committed by your sub. Take it out on someone who asked to be your personal doormat, not on someone whose express purpose in coming to you was to get advice and support.

sheesh, did you READ the thread??? she got ALL kinds of advice..good lord chill the hell out..she got VERY good advice throughout this WHOLE thread. when told to go to the police, she says 'ok if it keeps happening i will', that to me doesnt' sound like she is SO scared that she can't type something out coherently. no one said she was fake, they just pointed out inconsistencies in the story.....and again if you read through the thread you'll see there was PLENTY of advice given..so get off your high horse.

and if she truly is being stalked and extorted then she needs to go to the police, not a BDSM message board......

 

[Etoile]

Look, when a person's being stalked and extorted, he/she feels confused and may not make what people outside his/her emotional situation consider a "coherent, flawlessly logical statement".

It is not up to CRIME WITNESSES to make JUDGMENTS regarding fact.

It is not even up to the POLICE to do that. Even the POLICE are just supposed to collect EVIDENCE required by their training and the law, and, if the case goes to trial, to the DA's case.

Even the DISTRICT ATTORNEY and JUDGE are not supposed to JUDGE. So who are we to sweep this under the rug, simply because of our untrained, gut, reactions to a desperate person's cry for help?

sweetmelissa came here for HELP. Anyone who says she didn't better have PROOF she's faking. Otherwise, kindly take your obviously arbitrarily, thoughtlessly, and whimsically-applied whips and think of some imaginary infraction committed by your sub. Take it out on someone who asked to be your personal doormat, not on someone whose express purpose in coming to you was to get advice and support.

Uh, wow. First of all, I have no clue why you quoted me, given that I wasn't judging anybody. Second, we have free speech here, and just like you can bitch at people for saying things you don't agree with...they can say whatever they want, judge however they want, etc. And third, I don't think you're going to make too many friends on this board by suggesting that subs are just doormats.

Or, in other words: You seem to have a bug up your ass. I suggest a strategically-applied can of Raid.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Uh, wow. First of all, I have no clue why you quoted me, given that I wasn't judging anybody. Second, we have free speech here, and just like you can bitch at people for saying things you don't agree with...they can say whatever they want, judge however they want, etc. And third, I don't think you're going to make too many friends on this board by suggesting that subs are just doormats.

Or, in other words: You seem to have a bug up your ass. I suggest a strategically-applied can of Raid.

LMAO! well said!

 

[liberatedslave]

Nobody is categorically saying that sweetmelissa has made up this story. It may very well be that she has a perfectly reasonable explanation for any slight inconsistency. If she still wants to talk about the problems she's having she will continue to get kind hearted, considered advice on this board. I think you're blowing this up out of all proportion leatherargento, something you have an uncanny habit of doing on every thread you wander into.

If all you want to do on this forum is pick fights with people and make rude and abusive posts you'll be warmly welcomed on the General Board. If you have nothing positive to contribute I suggest sit on your fucking hands until you do.

 

[Marquis]

Even the DISTRICT ATTORNEY and JUDGE are not supposed to JUDGE.

Ah, the crack is good this time of year, isn't it?

 

[ken0000001]

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I am trying to move on But it's quite hard when this is going on..

Tried to write you back but your message box is full.