New sub seeking a little help

well, he's a Sergeant, but I don't really want him associating me with the dumbasses he works with.

BTW, what exactly does PYL/pyl stand for? I've been seeing it all over the place and haven't found an answer to that.

Shorthand.

PYL - Pick Your Label [Dominant/Top/Master/Grand Poobah of the Universe]

pyl - pick your label [submissive/bottom/slave/grand poohbah of the universe]
 
Oh, so that's what it means. I assumed it meant Person You Love.
 
*shrugs* I thought it was funny. Some of the girls here do call their PYL Mister also. Satin calls her's Mister, and itw calls her's Mister Man.

Ha ha - that's just what I call him on Lit instead of his name. I just call him by his name irl. He doesn't like honorifics.
 
Mine's pretty simple, it's "love" pure and simple. It fits us, he's an easy going kind of guy so Master really doesn't fit.

Now for super serious business I call him "sir", but it's kinda rare. Lately it's even been "baby" for the most part, but it's always "yes love, no love"
 
Mine is Sir most of the time and Master during play or if we're having a serious, state-of-the-nation type conversation. I'm also more likely to call him Master if he's disappointed in me and I feel the need to be super-submissive by way of atonement. I've found that it's useful to have developed this habit because it's a good indicator of how submissive I'm feeling. On a stressful, PMT fuelled day the respectful titles fall by the way somewhat and though it's not ideal, it gives him a fairly accurate indication of my mood. He won't tolerate disrespect on my part but he doesn't need to hear the titles if I omit them occasionally without being aware of it.

Sometimes I tease him with other names like Your Domliness but that's just banter. I have slipped and called him Sir in front of others or when talking with him on the phone when others are around. Most people assume it's a tongue in cheek thing or sarcasm.
 
Decider?
Dictator?
Godfather?
Chancellor? (I like the sound of that word)
Mr. Bigshot?
Your Holiness?
Your Eminence?
Your Excellency?
Your Manliness?
Mr. Man?
Son of Adam?
Possessor?
Owner?
Teacher?
Chief?
Boss?

I don't know. I can understand why he doesn't want Sir. He probably calls a bunch of assholes for whom he has no personal respect whatsoever Sir all day.


Personally, I'd recommend Godfather. I think every man sees himself as either Brando, DeNiro or Pacino to some extent.
 
You know, the one thing no-one has suggested is... nothing at all. I find that really sexy. In a story I'm working on just now (and which you might see on Lit in a month or two) about an on-going relationship which may become permanent, there's this interaction while they're first getting to know one another:

tentativelycurious: Alasdair, could we just go for a meal somewhere?
Alasdair.Napier: Did I give you permission to use my name?
tentativelycurious: Oh.
tentativelycurious: No.
tentativelycurious: What should I call you?
Alasdair.Napier: I see no need for you to call me anything.

and later, when he takes her to a club:

The hand was on my arse, now. Not - not - the professor's hand. "Nice toy you have here. Do we get to play with her?"

"No, not tonight."

"What's her name?"

"I honestly haven't any idea."

I find I really like the idea that she is not permitted to address him at all, and that he is simply not concerned about what her name is. The drive to forge a relationship is all from her; she's entered into it because she's curious about BDSM. He's initially not particularly interested. He sets a ground rule about safewords which, in the context of their developing relationship, is interesting:

"So we'll set the ground rules," he said, suddenly businesslike. Somehow I'd passed the first test. It wasn't my appearance - you know when a man is looking at you that way, and so far he hadn't. "You need a safe word."

"That's what I have to say when I want to stop?"

"That's what you say when you want to stop. You will say it only once. I shall stop whatever I am doing. I will make sure you're safe. And after that we will not meet again. Do you understand?"

Again, I like the tension introduced by the idea that she genuinely believes that using the safeword will terminate their relationship, and that as she bonds to him, because she wants the relationship to continue she's strongly inhibited from using it. At the end of the story she deliberately uses the safeword when not under any immediate threat, and the sense is that she now believes that he is sufficiently committed to the relationship that he won't actually leave.
 
Titles that titillate

Originally written by Cutie Pie:

Dear, Sweetheart, Honey, Love...

An interesting thing is that I'll pick an endearment for a Lover, and [at least for the length of the relationship] only use that endearment for that person; sometimes that particular term of endearment [permanently] leaves my vocabulary when the relationship ends.

This made me giggle - off-topic but I can't resist sharing: On a family vacation in Paris, my husband's girlfriend (long story and not at all kinky) and I were deep into some girl talk when hubby called out, "Hey, sweetheart?" In tandem, we both turned around and replied, "What, hon?"

Then he got disgusted because we both found it so hilariously funny that we paid absolutely no attention to him... :D Thanks for letting me share.

Back on topic: I like "My Liege" but only used sparingly.

Primalex: Honestly, You can be such a sadistic, domineering... oh, stop grinning. :):rose:
 
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