New to D/s and have lost of questions

[oOberdike]

I, to, am new to this.

I am new to the D/s world also, I thought I had a very awesome Dom, until she dropped me like a bag of rocks and just made excuses. I want someone who well help me learn lessons, as well let me please them. I am 100% lesbian, so a woman Dom is what I am looking for. I am obedient, no matter how far my Dom and I are away from each other, and it does take me time to get to trust someone, but like i said, i am obedient and will give 110% if ever given a chance to please the right mistress.
oOberdike

 

[gem525]

I think because I have only been involved in vanilla relationships all of my life, and then running into a crazy bunch of "submit me to me now" Doms, I really had no idea what type of relationship progression would happen in D/s.

From what I gather, if I apply the common sense I have used in pursuing other relationships, i.e., getting to know someone and feeling comfortable over time, building trust, listening to those warning bells when something doesn't feel quite right, then this relationship will develop safely.

I understand what everyone has been saying about settling, that when you are in a hurry to experience something, you may make snap decisions and pick people who will not put your best interests first. It's the need for immediate gratification that can get you into a situation that can be harmful physically and emotionally.

 

[Adakgirl]

Adakgirl, this is useful info. You might want to link to the site it came off of (if it came from a website), both to give the person the ability to read the original info, and to give credit to the compilers.

Solid info regardless.

Understood. This was written by the FBI and then apparently adjusted to fit a Dom predator profile by a group of submissives. That is all I know. It was sent to me by a friend in a chat room. Not on a site that I know of.

 

[Homburg]

Understood. This was written by the FBI and then apparently adjusted to fit a Dom predator profile by a group of submissives. That is all I know. It was sent to me by a friend in a chat room. Not on a site that I know of.

Ah, figured it might have been something like that. Thanks for the background. Hopefully it didn't sound like I was being too nitpicky.

 

[Adakgirl]

Absolutely not, perfectly reasonable and understandable.

 

[Homburg]

A lovely and wonderful friend of mine saw this thread and took it upon herself to do some looking. she came up with this:

http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/Lifestyle/online_predators.htm

It does not have the whole text that you presented, Adakgirl, but it does list a good portion of it. The site has other useful info as well.

My thanks to the lady that sent me this link