Nightly bedtime routines for subs

[graceanne]

Well this isn't a bedtime ritual, but we have a morning ritual that involves meds.

As background, my parents (and step parents) are all recovering alcoholic/addicts. So I have . . . issues with taking pills of any kind. It's almost a phobia. My head knows that I need to take them, but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. (K knows I'm in a lot of pain when I'm willing to take take pain meds of any kind - and that includes tylenol.) When I first got sick K brought my meds to me cause I didn't have the strength to walk to the kitchen. Then when I started to get better, I sometimes just couldn't force myself to take the whole handful of pills that I need to take. There were several reasons other than my pill issue . . . namely they make me nauseus. I told K about the problems I was having, and so now, in the morning, K brings me my meds and some water, then watches me take them and takes the water back to the kitchen. This works for us for several reason. 1. It gives me some accountability, and 2. I can lay down for a half an hour or so after I take them, so the nausea isn't so bad.

 

[TaintedB]

I hope I've been reading your posts wrongly, but I always get the feeling that you really believe that your often quoted intensity is the only way in this lifestyle. Sometimes you come across as smug & self satisfied, the only one who has ever achieved true enlightenment & that those of us who choose to follow a different path are just dabblers ignorant of the vast & deeper truths.

That's odd. You strike me in exactly the same way! Couldn't have said it better, in fact. Perhaps it takes one to know one?

Since you brought this ugly topic up, and not for the first time either, I'll also share my opinion of you and my decision about what to do about it all, so that I can be done with this annoyance and go on having fun.

I find you pretty hypersensitive and intolerant toward people who do things or see things very differently than you, as I clearly do. While that is clearly your perrogative, I really don't like it when you project your intolerance onto other people...such as accusing me of what you yourself do pretty consistently. I don't go out of my way to criticize you or anybody else here (unless, obviously, they're doing something terribly dangerous--and that is rare to see here, think I've done this only once and then it was in a chours of other people saying the same thing, so I don't see why you'd single me out for that, lol). I have a very strong live and let live attitude and I think I am not only quite tolerant of other people's differences but enjoy them enough to play with them or participate mentally (have you bothered to read at all my participation in the malesub threads? ). Perhap if you could read my messages to others without simply seeing seeing them through your own biases and filters, you might have noticed that. Of course, I like what I do or did and am not shy about talk about it. It works perfectly for me. I also strongly appreciate what others do especially when it seems to work well for them and make them happy and I do not hesitate to say so. What I think really gets your goat is the fact that I'm experienced enough to know what works for me and I stick to it. I am not madly adopting others (yours?) lifestyles or attitudes or ideas as my own right and left. Or that's how you seem to respond, anyway. (shrug) I'm sorry you have the personal need to to turn my confidence about what works for me and my self-knowledge into some sort of "one true way" attitude. I really think that your need to do so stems from a pretty high level of insecurity, because that's the standard reaspn for this type of response to another person.

At any rate, whatever the truth may be, we clearly rub each other the wrong way. I'm here to enjoy myself, share a few laughs and photos, cultivate friends, and keep the abyss away, not put up with frequent tiresome and patently false accusations, or suffer the annoyance and stress caused by a little ego worrying away at me. So I hope you don't mind if I put you on ignore and enjoy the silence. Even if you were to mind, it's now a bit too late for regrets.

 

[TaintedB]

...there really is scope for creativity and fun and variety within ritual. It's in the little nuances, the way the ritual changes day after day and evolves with you as people and becomes part of your relationship. Certainly in the little ritual I talked about earlier, doing it has been something me and O have laughed about and found fun in, "O the big bad tablet monster is here again" etc as well as intensly bringing us closer and being a source of joy.

You got it. (thumbs up) There were other personal emotions and thoughts in that post as well, but, oh god, smugness was the farthest thing thing from them.

I love your "big bad table monster." We used to have monsters too. In particular I remember a "Mr. Mean Guy," who for some strange reason always said in a voice that left no question that the person he was talking to was in BIG trouble, "Eebeedeebee eebeedeebee UH OH!"

 

[amasterfound]

My Master and I don't have a rigid schedule per se, but we do have a basic routine. It varies somewhat, depending on the situation, but we usually make love and sometimes he brings me off by fisting me while I use a vibrator on my clit. In any case, we then go to the bathroom and wash each other off in the shower. We dry each other as well. He has forbidden me to wash myself, as he prefers to do that himself. I am not permitted to wear clothes to bed at night, except for certain times of the month, when I can wear panties ONLY. Also, whenever he is naked, I am supposed to be naked.

There is no set bedtime, but we generally go to bed together, frequently around midnight to 1 o'clock. We keep the TV on all night, so if one of us can't sleep, the other has something to watch.