Non-verbal safe "words"

[Etoile]

Keys. Dropping them.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

might i suggest something along these lines?

they're usually quite loud and distinct enough sound to be noticed.

Handy while she's conscious and/or not in subspace, but if they're engaged in any kind of breath play or she tends to "go under" while playing, dropping it wouldn't make much of an audible impact, especially if they're playing in a carpeted space.

 

[DiscusDave]

Handy while she's conscious and/or not in subspace, but if they're engaged in any kind of breath play or she tends to "go under" while playing, dropping it wouldn't make much of an audible impact, especially if they're playing in a carpeted space.

But it could add a whole other aspect to wordless commands. If in the hands of a Dom/me that is/has training(ed) their sub, the clicker could make for some nice ways to communicate without using words. Set up sort of like a code.

 

[ms_sub_liminal]

Handy while she's conscious and/or not in subspace, but if they're engaged in any kind of breath play or she tends to "go under" while playing, dropping it wouldn't make much of an audible impact, especially if they're playing in a carpeted space.

well naturally. depends on your level and type of play of course.

But it could add a whole other aspect to wordless commands. If in the hands of a Dom/me that is/has training(ed) their sub, the clicker could make for some nice ways to communicate without using words. Set up sort of like a code.

there's some thinking

 

[DiscusDave]

there's some thinking

I've been known to do that on rare occasions. But when I do.... epic.

 

[shy slave]

The more I think about it the more I am sure Serijules had a host of ideas for when there was some level of sensory deprivation.

Not seen her here for a while, anyoneknow where she is hiding?

I feel sure she could give some great advice

 

[KokopelliRises]

Handy while she's conscious and/or not in subspace, but if they're engaged in any kind of breath play or she tends to "go under" while playing, dropping it wouldn't make much of an audible impact, especially if they're playing in a carpeted space.

After reading this a few times, I think the key, if a clicker was used (I do like this idea) would be to attach something that makes noise when dropped (like keys?).

This kind of sensory deprivation is on the newer side of things for me, so I'd like to have all the bases covered, just in case.

 

[Etoile]

The more I think about it the more I am sure Serijules had a host of ideas for when there was some level of sensory deprivation.

Not seen her here for a while, anyoneknow where she is hiding?

I feel sure she could give some great advice

I talk to her every few days; dropped her a note with a link to the thread.

 

[serijules]

Honestly, my opinion is that if you need all these gadgets and whatnot to figure out your bottom is in trouble, you shouldn't be putting them into these situations until you are versed enough in their body language to see trouble coming.

The best safe-action out there is for the dom to pay attention. If my owner is choking me with something, she's also LOOKING at me and paying attention to me. She can tell when I'm about to pass out. She can tell where the line between "this is fucking hot" and "I'm about to kill her" is. If she didn't, she would have no business doing what she does to me and we didn't GET to that point of play overnight.

If I'm bound, gagged and she is beating me and my breathing becomes fast, short gasping breaths, she knows something is off. So she stops and checks on me. She knows the difference between my "damn it that hurts like hell!" breathing which is completely acceptable in our play and no reason for her to stop...and "I'm heading for a freak-out here" breathing, which is not acceptable and she will stop and adjust as necessary so I am not harmed. She may keep HURTING me, but she won't do anything that will bring me harm.

If you are not well versed enough in someone you are playing with to read this kind of physical language...then don't play with gags, binds and toys that have higher risk of something going wrong or verbal safewords being unusable.

If you really need some sort of non-verbal cue to figure things out...I have to say the cat ball thing would likely work, although I'm obviously not a fan of such things. If I DO use non-verbal cues, they are clear as to what is bothering me if possible; groaning and arching my back and shaking my head is going to tell my owner that my back is bothering me past a safe level...something she knows I have trouble with and watches for.

The one time I DID use a non-verbal safeaction, years ago with a dominant in a club, he was so enamored with the audience to our scene he didn't even notice it and kept going anyhow. Since then I've lost faith in safe words/actions and I put my faith in being with people who are capable of communicating and paying attention. In other words, people with the skill to actually be called dominants in my mind.

Sorry I wasn't much help, at least not the kind asked for, but thats my opinion!

 

[VelvetDarkness]

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Good to see you about.

 

[serijules]

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Good to see you about.

Why thank you, was I missed??

Etoile so kindly led me back. I tend to wander.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Why thank you, was I missed??

Etoile so kindly led me back. I tend to wander.

Yes, you *were* missed. I've a number a times wondered what your take on some issue would be...

Glad to see you're still around once in a while, even if you *do* get lost in the big wide world sometimes.

 

[graceanne]

Why thank you, was I missed??

That is a silly question. Of course you were missed. *hugs*

 

[WriterDom]

It would depend on if and where you were bound. But there are so many options it's not a problem. And it's really up to the PYL to know if the pyl is in trouble. You can get someone to the point where they forget they even have a safe word. Happened with me once and it's not cool.

 

[gigi1968]

I just found this thread....I have made two elastic bracelets. One is Yellow and had bells attached (multiple so that it can be heard). It is used when things need to move to another spot, or ropes too tight, shift position etc. I use a red elastic bracelet in the right hand and it has weights attached to it. It is kept in my right hand and when it drops then all play is to stop. This has worked for me and now used at my munch group. I got the idea from my military days instead of leaf and rock (left and right) it became yellow and red....