Ok, so I've tied her up... what now?

[Homburg]

Maybe Oz has better quality cotton rope then as it was the first one I was introduced to there and is sold through major hardware outlets in various thicknesses. I bought it to Europe with me and also stock up on more when I go home for a visit, though F says we have more than enough now. To date none have stretched or broken and also are dye free and wash like a wonder. Some of them are marine grade, just not the price paid through marine outlets.

The rope whose consistency and quality I find questionable is the craft rope. Cotton rope sold for marine and tool use is going to be more consistent.

 

[unfoundiamond]

I say....

You said "rock" and I thought, classic rock, the cheap hairband rock...

If we are talking NIN, then I say yes, a lot of NIN and definately, think some Pink Floyd is good, and also definately trance music...

I am really turned on by fear, but not everyone is so, I can't give advice really,

Just choose wisely, like SweetGigi said sometimes music can ruin the mood.

I HATE television on during sex, It is the Biggest turn off, I will zone out and let my mind wander...

I think silence with just breatheing in my ear, is far to uncommon, but pair that with some good music, maybe even Chris Issac, or something kinda emo and sexy...

Just stay away from the top 40 and are you joking with the "lady in red"? That's funny... that guy who sings it is hilarious in the video... I think laugh if I thought about it,

I guess I like my bondage... more sinister... maybe Marilyn Manson... But you do what works for you...

 

[Homburg]

I HATE television on during sex, It is the Biggest turn off, I will zone out and let my mind wander...

I think silence with just breatheing in my ear, is far to uncommon, but pair that with some good music, maybe even Chris Issac, or something kinda emo and sexy...

Just stay away from the top 40 and are you joking with the "lady in red"? That's funny... that guy who sings it is hilarious in the video... I think laugh if I thought about it,

I guess I like my bondage... more sinister... maybe Marilyn Manson... But you do what works for you...

I hate TV period, and for those reasons basically. I don't feel like having my brain absorbed, thanks. Even though it rarely happens, I dislike passively sitting there and just watching someone canned entertainment. Live stuff? Different story. I like watching live performances of all sorts.

As to music, I've used classical and opera a fair amount, but more as very quiet background stuff, and that's it. It might be cool to play koto drum or samisen music during a shibari scene though.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I find earplugs a more effective sensory deprivation. They get me going because just enough sound/vibration permeates my senses for me to be acutely aware of how controlled I am. I also like that the guessing drives me crazy. He could be calling me his beloved pet or his filthy little whore and I wouldn't know, all I can make out is that he is speaking. I also like NIN, Massive Attack are a good choice too.

We don't do that much bondage but what we do do most often involves leather cuffs. If you're planning to make this a regular thing and are more interested in tying her down rather than intricate bondage for now, I'd recommend the investment. My cuffs have rings that ropes can be run through or a metal bar that clips them close together. I'd recommend buckled or velcro rather than padlocked ones for quick release if needed. Ankle cuffs can be bought with a spreader bar or used with rope to tie her spread-eagle. I find the leather more comfortable than rope and you can be confident they won't damage the veins and tendons in the wrist in the way that a rope would if it tightened under strain.

I happen to know a friend who was first tied down using the velcro fastened pads her young son wore when skateboarding, they were pliant enough to be tight enough but were a very safe form of first time restraint.

 

[PertPerth]

I hate TV period, and for those reasons basically. I don't feel like having my brain absorbed, thanks. Even though it rarely happens, I dislike passively sitting there and just watching someone canned entertainment. Live stuff? Different story. I like watching live performances of all sorts.

As above.
I'm definitely in preference of ear plugs rather than music (any kind).

Also, thanks everyone for the ideas and links.

 

[myinnerslut]

if you wanted to make me feel vulnerable, you wouldnt have to go as far as the headphones, or even the gag. all you have to do is blindfold me. A comments on how i try to curl up every time my eyes get covered. its a natural reaction for me when i feel vulnerable.

if you want to gag for the vulnerablilty aspect then there is a very simple way to do it safely. put a piece of cloth or a pair of panties in her mouth. something that will make her feel helpless and possibly a bit humiliated, but that she could push out of her mouth if she had to safeword. of course, this would be a bit more difficlt if you were gaging her to silence her.

 

[alexanna]

I was thinking of gagging her. If I do, is there a good alternative to a safeword?

My husband and I are relatively new to this but he has wadded up and shoved my nightgown in my mouth a couple of times while I've been tied up. I find the spontaneity of him just using my clothing to gag me very arousing and if needed I can just spit it out.

 

[PhilGarlic]

Still tied up

Have you untied her yet, if not I suggest you take her a cup of tea, maybe a sandwich!