People with Disabilities?

[DustyWolfe]

I know what you mean about the weight. I lost 50lbs a couple of years ago. I could stand to lose a few more but I'm not going to fret about it. Traditional exercise is just a huge no go for me. It's too much for my body to handle. About all I can endure for any amount of time is walking. Yoga has been really wonderful for me. It works my muscles and gives me peace of mind that I really need. It's a short little escape from pain. I had to start really slowly and there are still somedays that I can't do some of the moves. But I just move on and don't worry about it. It's all pretty much what you make of it.

I went through a huge depressed period when I was told what I had. It was just horrible for me to think that I was in my early 20's with a new baby and I had a chronic illness that would never ever go away. I did what most people would do...I wallowed in it for awhile( a long while). Then I just decided that I had had enough and I was NOT going to let this condition ruin my life. And I started to live again.

I still have good days and bad. I still get sick more often than anyone else I work with. People look at me and say "you're young and healthy..." But they don't know, I'm really not. My pain ranges anywhere from almost non-existant to OMG I want narcotics NOW! All in the course of a day.

The beginning was the hardest for me, but now I just sort of go with it and try really hard not to let it get me down. Sometimes I do ok...Sometimes I don't. I'm very lucky that my Man understands and loves me.


Here's a fibromyalgia website. I go there sometimes and just read. Maybe it'll be helpful for you.

http://fibrohugs.com/

I know I would feel much better if I did get the weight off.

Yeah.. I have good days and bad days. My pain seems to the worst when I first wake up in the morning though. Then I take my vioxx and I do fairly well throughout the day. But some days are really bad.

Oh yes.. I get sick alot. I got Whooping Cough back in August and was sick for 4 whole months. It was terrible.

Thanks for the site. I will check it out!

I am happy you have someone that understands you and your disorder.

I was sorta upset when I got diagnosed but my father has studied the disorder so much that I already knew I had it....

 

[RawHumor]

First, I will tell you about myself. I'm switch... I can be either dominant or submissive, depending on who I am with. I automatically drop to submissive when with men and am pretty split with women.

Man, I KNEW there was something about you that I like, Dusty!

A bi switch, normally submissive to men... that's just about perfect, isn't it?

 

[DustyWolfe]

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Man, I KNEW there was something about you that I like, Dusty!

A bi switch, normally submissive to men... that's just about perfect, isn't it?

*blushes and giggles* perhaps

 

[petrel]

Dusty, I think you are really brave to try and explore the life you want to lead despite what must be depressing and painful times.
Good luck in your explorations both to find a means of dealing with the fibro and with the sub play

 

[DustyWolfe]

Dusty, I think you are really brave to try and explore the life you want to lead despite what must be depressing and painful times.
Good luck in your explorations both to find a means of dealing with the fibro and with the sub play

Wow... that really made me feel good Petrel. Thank you
Thank you so much.

 

[RawHumor]

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*blushes and giggles* perhaps

If you tell me that you're sometimes into forced exhibitionism or semi-public displays of sexuality, then I may just have to stalk you a little longer...

 

[DustyWolfe]

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If you tell me that you're sometimes into forced exhibitionism or semi-public displays of sexuality, then I may just have to stalk you a little longer...

Um no... I'm verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry modest. I can't even talk about sex outside of rp.. lol

 

[RawHumor]

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Um no... I'm verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry modest. I can't even talk about sex outside of rp.. lol

Now I think I might be able to help cure you of your modesty... at least it would be fun to try!

 

[DustyWolfe]

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Now I think I might be able to help cure you of your modesty... at least it would be fun to try!

Oh? You really think so? My face would be incredibly red. Hell, my face gets red when I try to tell Jen things on the phone...

 

[RawHumor]

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Oh? You really think so? My face would be incredibly red. Hell, my face gets red when I try to tell Jen things on the phone...

Some girls look REALLY sexy when they blush... besides, if your face was red then it'd just match your ass.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Some girls look REALLY sexy when they blush... besides, if your face was red then it'd just match your ass.

*blushes even more* umm... Ummm... ummm... yeah

 

[petrel]

Wow... that really made me feel good Petrel. Thank you
Thank you so much.

My pleasure, I'll do quite alot more than just send a little post to make a lovely girl feel happy

 

[DustyWolfe]

My pleasure, I'll do quite alot more than just send a little post to make a lovely girl feel happy

*grins*

 

[lilfrk]

I know this is an old thread but there are lots of new people here that might need/like/use this information and I have some new links to add.


http://www.fmpartnership.org/FMPartnership.htm


http://www.sover.net/~devstar/index.htm

Be well everyone~A

 

[DustyWolfe]

I know this is an old thread but there are lots of new people here that might need/like/use this information and I have some new links to add.


http://www.fmpartnership.org/FMPartnership.htm


http://www.sover.net/~devstar/index.htm

Be well everyone~A

Great links, thank you so much.

BTW... Might I say that I answered some of my own questions?
I did several scenes while on my trip and only had problems twice. Some of my Fibromyalgia trigger points are worse than others, but most of them aren't affected when a flogger and such is being used. As far as canes and quirts and such, those shouldn't be used in areas where I have trigger points in the first place so it was not an issue.

Just thought I would share that.

 

[Shadowsdream]

I live in a 24/7 D/s lifestyle and deal with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue plus 4 disintegrating discs in My spine. I deal with the constant pain and fatigue by biting the bullet with stubborness.

Medication side effects were worse than the disease itself and took away My lust to Dominate and My desire to control. Since Domination is the core of My needs to feel fullfilled the only choice I really had was to endure the physical agony and the emotional lows.

I also spend a great deal of time training submissives and new Dominants into the beauties and complexities of a 24/7 lifestyle so many days each month My home becomes the arena of hopes and dreams.

My disabilities take a place in the background. I am sure no one is aware of My pain as each spanking I administer and each flogging I give is mixed with pleasure and pain on both sides of the experience.

I imagine..one day...IF...I lose both of My arms...I may find no place in BDSM that I fit in. Ya right! Thats when the tongue lashings and interrogation specialist will be born! ~~~grin~~~

There is always a way if there is a will.

Next week I will begin physical treatments after 5 or 6 years of only a bullet between My teeth. In the past I have found the use of a TENS unit, ultra sound, massage, accupuncture and water arobics to be very helpful. I will try this combination again.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

Just cause your disabled (I'm disabled) doesnt mean you cant have fun. The partner just has to be understanding of what you can and cant do due to it. My bf is somewhat disabled to.. althought if I said that in front of him hed probably wouldnt be happy with me. He doesnt see himself as disabled. and I suppose hes not really. But he has back problems (he needs to loose weight its so not good for his back). He had disks problem was bed ridden for 6 months had back surgery. he still has to be careful. when he was here he did stuff he wasnt suppose to. which was pick me up (I'm 50 lbs. I'm a little person as it would be said). Bad boy LOL doctor wouldnt be happy with him anyway.

But the key is being understanding.

 

[Rrrosyn]

A very good thread, indeed.

I am looking more into the Domme with disabilities aspect myself. I know it can be done. Just trying to figure out how.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

where there is a will there is usualy a way

 

[Rrrosyn]

where there is a will there is usualy a way

Yes! *looks for How-To book anyway*

 

[Richard49]

If anyone has read my bionoc Dom thread they know that I am disabled ... hell I 'm dying.... but I can still function in the BDSM arena .....

Truly looking for solutions is the answer

 

[Pixie Mischief]

comprimizing and being creative are the keys.
alot of the things are possible... just need to find a different way to do them.

 

[Rrrosyn]

If anyone has read my bionoc Dom thread they know that I am disabled ... hell I 'm dying.... but I can still function in the BDSM arena .....

Truly looking for solutions is the answer

I did indeed read it. To lose your SO at such a time appauled me.

 

[Rrrosyn]

comprimizing and being creative are the keys.
alot of the things are possible... just need to find a different way to do them.

was a prob with the last guy. should've known his lack of adventure in the bedroom would lead to a breakup over my health

 

[Pixie Mischief]

LOL that will never be a prob with my bf..
the only problem is that he likes "Agreesive" girls.
and thats a problem with me since I'm shy and not confident.

but hes real open minded and creative.