pointless Marquis thread

[NeverWinterNite]

I'm glad to see things are beginning to turn around for you.

 

[Red Sonja]

Indeed, very crazy. I remember when Marquis was in law school. Been lurking rather than posting of late, but this did draw me out.

Glad things are on the upswing.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

It's good, I have learned as well, to have a fallback skill like tutoring. Like having a pocketknife.

Glad things are looking better.

 

[Marquis]

Wow indeed.

It seems the last ten years have been pretty crazy for a lot of us.

Nice to see you Stag. How's things?

Indeed, very crazy. I remember when Marquis was in law school. Been lurking rather than posting of late, but this did draw me out.

Glad things are on the upswing.

It's good, I have learned as well, to have a fallback skill like tutoring. Like having a pocketknife.

Indeed. I think it's also important to remember that not everyone's path looks the same. If it takes me a bit of extra time to find the right job, I think that will be better than landing the wrong job too soon. It will be a lot easier to feel this way once I have SOME income, of course.

 

[Marquis]

In other news, I find myself getting really lonely lately, and desiring of love.

It's weird when I think of what love looks like in my mind and I know it is something fucked up and wrong and sick.

But that's what I want.

 

[eastern sun]

In other news, I find myself getting really lonely lately, and desiring of love.

It's weird when I think of what love looks like in my mind and I know it is something fucked up and wrong and sick.

But that's what I want.

You're not alone. What's interesting is people can see that it is love when it is.

 

[Marquis]

so so.

I hung around in a mediocre dead end job for far too long before i was unlawfully terminated in 2010, just before my daughter was born. Things have been rough... but my wife has full time work now so I've had to embrace being a stay at home dad, at least for now.

It might be unfair to sum up my life as precisely the opposite of yours.

Not sure how our lives are precise opposites.

Are you thinking of reentering the work force at some point?

 

[Marquis]

Stag, there is nothing wrong with being a stay at home dad, but you sound unsatisfied with your situation.

Have you considered starting a business you can run from home? I believe there are quite a few Litsters who do this.

 

[intothewoods]

I understand it's pretty common for stay at home dads to feel inadequate.

Societal pre-conceptions entangle bread winning with masculinity, & that can be hard to escape even if you'd just as soon give the rest of society a certain finger.

My creative impulses wither like apples on a fencepost when money becomes remotely involved. Or any outside pressure, for that matter, but money is the worst.

I think i have an emotional block against placing a set value on my creative work. Either it's priceless or it's worthless. I certainly had difficulties allowing/ asking friends to pay me for massage, even back when I was licensed to do so.

I agree with Marquis that you sound unsatisfied, and would encourage you to take some small steps to improve your situation.

Caring for a two year old full time is tough. Can you get out of the house? Are there other stay at home dads where you are? I know what I need for my sanity -- schedule, variety, proper sleep (nap and bedtime). A little tv is fine -- don't sweat it. Just figure out what you need and lay down the law. It might take a while for it to take, but you're in charge. Really!

 

[Marquis]

I understand it's pretty common for stay at home dads to feel inadequate.

Societal pre-conceptions entangle bread winning with masculinity, & that can be hard to escape even if you'd just as soon give the rest of society a certain finger.

My creative impulses wither like apples on a fencepost when money becomes remotely involved. Or any outside pressure, for that matter, but money is the worst.

I think i have an emotional block against placing a set value on my creative work. Either it's priceless or it's worthless. I certainly had difficulties allowing/ asking friends to pay me for massage, even back when I was licensed to do so.

Stag, I understand how you feel. Ironically, the skill of creating a market for your goods or services is fundamental to earning a living as an entrepreneur, perhaps THE fundamental ability, IMO. You never know until you try. I think the key is always to give a little more than you feel like you're getting, that way you're always in a mindset of generosity that will keep you from feeling guilty and whored out. The people who pay you are not paying for your product/service so much as they are sponsoring your passion and helping motivate you and cover your expenses.

 

[Marquis]

Doing good, y'all!

 

[DVS]

Doing good, y'all!

Things finally breaking loose?

 

[Marquis]

Things finally breaking loose?

Yeah, definitely. Still got a bit of a ways up to climb, but definitely off the floor.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Yeah, definitely. Still got a bit of a ways up to climb, but definitely off the floor.

That's great!

 

[Marquis]

A re-occurring random thought (is it still random?) just triggered a realization.

I used to think if I met you somewhere, Marquis, you and I are different enough there wouldn't by much of a face to face conversation.

The realization that came with this is that the very notion is tangled up with the idea of meeting someplace public; I always imagine you being comfortable in a night club or a bar, or possibly in a cafe; all places where I am generally uncomfortable and unlikely to engage in conversation. On the rare occasion I ever went to places like that it was because someone dragged me there, and it was generally food oriented, so if you somehow met me... say at a "munch," i'd just be that weird guy that was hanging out with some other person you might have had an interesting conversation with...

It's been years since anyone's bothered to drag me anywhere. Maybe for a reason.

A major part of that discomfort, by the way, has to do with ADD; those public places are invariably noisy & I have difficulty filtering out background conversations enough to make sense of the person in front of me.

Not sure what you're saying here.....

 

[Marquis]

Hi Everyone,

Just wanted to let you all know I am doing much better.

-M

 

[intothewoods]

Hi Everyone,

Just wanted to let you all know I am doing much better.

-M

So what's new?

 

[Salvor-Hardon]

Hi Everyone,

Just wanted to let you all know I am doing much better.

-M

Excelsior.

 

[DVS]

Hi Everyone,

Just wanted to let you all know I am doing much better.

-M

Are we talking about the financial/job situation? You're doing better even with this crappy economy?

 

[Marquis]

Are we talking about the financial/job situation? You're doing better even with this crappy economy?

I live in Singapore.

 

[Marquis]

So what's new?

Not exactly in Canaan yet, but out of Egypt certainly.