Portfolio of a Wallflower

[gentold]

Certainly, both mind and body play an important role in a person or couple's experience of sexuality. Let's take a look at orgasm. The more we learn about female orgasm, it seems that the anatomical structure of a woman's genitals may play a role in her ease of orgasm. Personality factors, which are at least partly accounted for by genetics, are also linked to women's ease of orgasm. Both of these support the "body hypothesis." However, the way a woman feels about her own genitals plays a role, too, as does her ability to relax, to let go, and to feel sexually excited or aroused (the "mind hypothesis"). Perhaps for most women, the intersections of the body and mind will be key to easier orgasm.
Along similar lines, I am currently conducting a survey of women who experience sexual pleasure or orgasm during physical exercise such as sit-ups, lifting weights, cycling, dance, etc. (to learn more about the study, click here). While at first glance it may seem that it's the physical nature of the exercise that triggers pleasure or orgasm in women, that may not be the case for all women. Some may engage their mind through fantasy, determination or relaxation. Others may feel as though it is purely a physical act. When I learn more, I'll be sure to share it with you.

What does this mean for you? I would encourage you to explore these two sides of your sexuality, the mind and body, and not to stop there. Some of you may find that exploring your spiritual side is important to your sexual growth as well. While it may seem tempting to turn to body-centered sex guides, they are only part of the roadmap to better sex. Similarly, therapy that focuses only on the mind may fall short; rather, it should seek to educate people about their bodies, how sex may be modified to be more pleasurable or how certain medical conditions or prescription medications can interfere with sexual response. As you seek to improve your sex lives, try to pay attention to the multi-faceted ways that the body and mind play together.

 

[sexywriterfla]

Am I so astute to notice your confidence? XD Or do you mean to say I envision utilizing your particular skills optimally?
It's very interesting, because I am very much a pleasure-giver also. I suppose it's inherent with being a sub, but I am certainly a vicarious experiencer. That goes with punishment and consequence, as well. I learned a lot of life lessons through other people *nodnod*

Not at all inappropriate!
Hmm, let's see... I would say my most common thought when, erm, addressing myself would be the thought of being taken savagely from behind. This can be from many different positions, though: against a wall with a forearm barred across the backs of my shoulders and pressing my chest firmly into the wall, face down into the mattress and ass up while my ass and/or hips are gripped at firmly as a handle, side-laying spooning where I can get choked easily and pulled against his chest...
I love the feel of my ass being pressed into when I'm fully penetrated, and I love getting gripped.
I hope that's enough of an image for you.

Hmm... Well, that's a shame, but I hope I'm a little something good that's come along?
How's art life going? Do you have any recent works you're comfortable sharing?

Thank you kindly!

Oh, please pardon. >.< Thank you for your expressed appreciation!

Perhaps astute wasn't the right word, but I meant your observation was spot on. And I enjoy sharing mine with you.

 

[Dazer3]

Not at all inappropriate!
Hmm, let's see... I would say my most common thought when, erm, addressing myself would be the thought of being taken savagely from behind. This can be from many different positions, though: against a wall with a forearm barred across the backs of my shoulders and pressing my chest firmly into the wall, face down into the mattress and ass up while my ass and/or hips are gripped at firmly as a handle, side-laying spooning where I can get choked easily and pulled against his chest...
I love the feel of my ass being pressed into when I'm fully penetrated, and I love getting gripped.
I hope that's enough of an image for you.

Yes! You are a living dream... Thank you for sharing!

 

[toben3297]

Thank your friend roses_and_sake for
Don't repost the link.

mmmm..scrumptious

 

[k_m_d_]

Not at all inappropriate!
Hmm, let's see... I would say my most common thought when, erm, addressing myself would be the thought of being taken savagely from behind. This can be from many different positions, though: against a wall with a forearm barred across the backs of my shoulders and pressing my chest firmly into the wall, face down into the mattress and ass up while my ass and/or hips are gripped at firmly as a handle, side-laying spooning where I can get choked easily and pulled against his chest...
I love the feel of my ass being pressed into when I'm fully penetrated, and I love getting gripped.
I hope that's enough of an image for you.

That's a pretty good start....but I'm going to need to be mentally filling in some finer details of my own to get a better picture.

 

[Wallflower20]

It's moving day!

...and I'm just waking up.
Don't repost the link.

Have a neck while I wake up and bathe.

 

[vibes]

It's moving day!
Have a neck while I wake up and bathe.

It should be tattooed with "hand here"

 

[Massive Grooves]

It's moving day!
Have a neck while I wake up and bathe.

Moving next door?

 

[Wallflower20]

Certainly, both mind and body play an important role in a person or couple's experience of sexuality. Let's take a look at orgasm. The more we learn about female orgasm, it seems that the anatomical structure of a woman's genitals may play a role in her ease of orgasm. Personality factors, which are at least partly accounted for by genetics, are also linked to women's ease of orgasm. Both of these support the "body hypothesis." However, the way a woman feels about her own genitals plays a role, too, as does her ability to relax, to let go, and to feel sexually excited or aroused (the "mind hypothesis"). Perhaps for most women, the intersections of the body and mind will be key to easier orgasm.
Along similar lines, I am currently conducting a survey of women who experience sexual pleasure or orgasm during physical exercise such as sit-ups, lifting weights, cycling, dance, etc. (to learn more about the study, click here). While at first glance it may seem that it's the physical nature of the exercise that triggers pleasure or orgasm in women, that may not be the case for all women. Some may engage their mind through fantasy, determination or relaxation. Others may feel as though it is purely a physical act. When I learn more, I'll be sure to share it with you.

What does this mean for you? I would encourage you to explore these two sides of your sexuality, the mind and body, and not to stop there. Some of you may find that exploring your spiritual side is important to your sexual growth as well. While it may seem tempting to turn to body-centered sex guides, they are only part of the roadmap to better sex. Similarly, therapy that focuses only on the mind may fall short; rather, it should seek to educate people about their bodies, how sex may be modified to be more pleasurable or how certain medical conditions or prescription medications can interfere with sexual response. As you seek to improve your sex lives, try to pay attention to the multi-faceted ways that the body and mind play together.

Perhaps astute wasn't the right word, but I meant your observation was spot on. And I enjoy sharing mine with you.

Well, I'm not sure if it helps, but I'm definitely a logophyle and sapiosexual, so I find reading descriptive and emotive erotica is a prime way for me to get my jillies off, as it were. I definitely find more value in the correct types of clitoral stimulation, and I've used my clit to climax from all of my life. (and I started early, before I knew what I was doing.) I get a huge drive from knowing what my partner wants from me, and then challenging myself to do that to the highest standard, challenging myself to anticipate and directionlessly fulfill that desire.

Yes! You are a living dream... Thank you for sharing!

Oh, I'm so glad you liked it!

mmmm..scrumptious

Nice to know your tastes.

That's a pretty good start....but I'm going to need to be mentally filling in some finer details of my own to get a better picture.

Ho-ho-hooooh... Oh, I do so love how you challenge me, KMD.
Give me a LITTLE credit... He didn't ask for a narrative, and he asked for my most-used images for climax. Every time I climax, it's always at least a little different. I didn't want to be exclusive. I'll get back to this...

 

[Wallflower20]

It should be tattooed with "hand here"

Mmn, right? It's where that hand belongs.

Moving next door?

Ah, that would be adventuresome!

I'm moving into a home until May; the owner is going out of country for work and needs someone to look after the property.

 

[DanielBoone]

nicely

done wallflower.
great pics

 

[vibes]

Mmn, right? It's where that hand belongs.

Does it make sense to you ... too?

 

[peekingone]

lovely thread. Well done and for sure will peek in now and then for sure

 

[Dazer3]

I like you in a camisole, very cute. I was hoping for a chance to see you in one.

 

[Wallflower20]

nicely done wallflower.
great pics

Ah, thank you!

Does it make sense to you ... too?

... ^ ^;; I'm sorry, does what make sense to me also? I'm really sorry, but I gave an affirmative statement, and I'm not sure what else I'm supposed to be making sense of.

lovely thread. Well done and for sure will peek in now and then for sure

Thank you!
Awh, sweet! I got two "for sure"s!

I like you in a camisole, very cute. I was hoping for a chance to see you in one.

Well, lucky you! I only wear camisoles for my underclothes. Bras don't fit me.

Here's some purple.
Don't repost links.

Went ahead and took a couple pictures while I was fresh out of the bath, since you mentioned it...

 

[peekingone]

oops sorry for the double. LOL

 

[Jaws82]

Purple looks good on you.

Now I just need to find something on the top shelf and have you reach for it

 

[Dazer3]

You have made my day, Wallflower!

 

[Dazer3]

I imagine you are mind blowing in a white camisole...

 

[Moochienanu]

Went ahead and took a couple pictures while I was fresh out of the bath, since you mentioned it...

I love taking baths, but usually take them before bed rather than when I wake. You look quite curvy and sexy in your purple cami today. What does moving day involve? Are you using a company? Or friends with a truck? *wink*

 

[msub50some]

Oh, nonono... Not the feeling of exerting the control... it's the feeling of being the recipient of the control you're exerting onto your partner... If that makes sense.
I feel his intense arousal, his need for speed and erratic fucking. I, however, want to personally feel the dissonance between that dire need and a slow, firm, deeply erotic and sensuous loving that will have him whine and beg for more, while slowly stoking him higher and higher. Ugh, I feel the sensations he goes through. It's SO lovely...

I get that, I think. It's the "power exchange" dynamic. I love giving up control. In a dominant mindset, you receive that control I give up and enjoy what I've allowed you to take. In turn, your enjoyment entices me to give up more control. A beautifully wicked cycle.

 

[Wallflower20]

oops sorry for the double. LOL

Aww, don't tell me you're gonna take one away!

Purple looks good on you.

Now I just need to find something on the top shelf and have you reach for it

Thanks! I actually don't wear purple much, but I've been told that before, so maybe I'll invest in some more of the color.

Haha, and then hope I slept while you're standing under me? ;P

You have made my day, Wallflower!

I imagine you are mind blowing in a white camisole...

Awh, that's lovely! ~^ ^~ I'm so happy I could make your day!

I actually own no white camisole. I have purple, black, dark teal, light blue, and pink. I usually wear all black yoga pants and athletic shirts for my work, so the cami is the only color I get to have. ^ ^; Depends on the dress code for the place.

I love taking baths, but usually take them before bed rather than when I wake. You look quite curvy and sexy in your purple cami today. What does moving day involve? Are you using a company? Or friends with a truck? *wink*

Mmm, yes... I love using salts also, but this bath was just a strict cleaning. I'll likely shower before bed. ....D: O just realised there's only a stand up shower in the place I'll be living for the next five months! QQ

Oh, just a friend helping me move boxes for today, but then I'm getting help tomorrow from my Dom to fetch the bed and set it up. ... Among other things. I'm really looking forward to that. I'll be sure to get a good night's sleep tonight, because I don't think I'll be getting much tomorrow night.

I get that, I think. It's the "power exchange" dynamic. I love giving up control. In a dominant mindset, you receive that control I give up and enjoy what I've allowed you to take. In turn, your enjoyment entices me to give up more control. A beautifully wicked cycle.

Actually, I'm specifically trying to steer the idea away from the power dynamic. Yes, that of course is a powerful influence, but that isn't what I'm trying to explain at all.

I'm talking about fierce and raw empathy. I'm talking about being inside your partner's body, and giving them the sensation you want them to feel, whether they want that or not. I wonder if I'm still not making sense.

 

[sexywriterfla]

Ah, thank you!

... ^ ^;; I'm sorry, does what make sense to me also? I'm really sorry, but I gave an affirmative statement, and I'm not sure what else I'm supposed to be making sense of.

Thank you!
Awh, sweet! I got two "for sure"s!

Well, lucky you! I only wear camisoles for my underclothes. Bras don't fit me.

Went ahead and took a couple pictures while I was fresh out of the bath, since you mentioned it...

Fuck. I purple. And your ass. Needs a long sexy two handed squeeze...

 

[Wallflower20]

I dun goofed.

One more day before I move in. I'm glad I checked with the home owner.
I really remember her saying the 7th, but she was also talking about taking a later flight than originally planned. Guess they bumped her a full day. :s

 

[sexywriterfla]

Well, I'm not sure if it helps, but I'm definitely a logophyle and sapiosexual, so I find reading descriptive and emotive erotica is a prime way for me to get my jillies off, as it were. I definitely find more value in the correct types of clitoral stimulation, and I've used my clit to climax from all of my life. (and I started early, before I knew what I was doing.) I get a huge drive from knowing what my partner wants from me, and then challenging myself to do that to the highest standard, challenging myself to anticipate and directionlessly fulfill that desire.

Oh, I'm so glad you liked it!

Nice to know your tastes.

Ho-ho-hooooh... Oh, I do so love how you challenge me, KMD.
Give me a LITTLE credit... He didn't ask for a narrative, and he asked for my most-used images for climax. Every time I climax, it's always at least a little different. I didn't want to be exclusive. I'll get back to this...

Value in the correct type of clitoral stimulation. I like that. A lot. And there's nothing better than a challenge. Now I need to go look up logophyle.