Post Break-up Sex

[AficionadoAngel]

While I can't disagree with this saying, I must admit that some of the best sex I've had has been with exes.

The was one guy that I dated for a couple of years who was one of the nicest guys I'd met, but I eventually had to break up with him because he was "too in love with me", if that makes any sense. He was very attractive, but just too passive, too accommodating and our sex life was rather boring. After we broke up he seemed to get his game on because I know he dated a number of different women for a year or two before we met up for a friendly "date". On that date he said the oddest thing. He said "All that time I spent in love with you I should have spent fucking you". Well, one thing led to another and we ended up back at his place where he did indeed fuck me like he never had before. He was much more assertive after that and we had amazing sex off and on for years, in between other relationships. Often what really got us going was sharing information about other people we had been with, which opened up a whole new realm of eroticism for both of us.

"NEVER cross burned bridges"

 

[HampshireBoy]

I normally subscribe to the view that they are an ex for a reason and never go back. However "just sex" is different to a relationship. One of the problems with my first marriage was that she lost interest in sex, she has assured me it was sex in general not just me.

There were some harsh words during the split but we still need to stay in contact because of the kids. About six months after we split I was dropping some stuff off and when I got there both boys were out. I couldn't help noticing that she was getting flirty, long story short I ended up fucking her brains out - first time in over a year for both of us. I fucked her a number of times over the next five years, each time it was great and she tried things that never happened during our marriage. Sometimes one of us would just text the other with a simple "Are you free?". Both agreed that there was no chance of getting back together but the sex was really good.

 

[19cock]

I have had sex with a few exes. One was trying to convince me to get back with her by doing everything I liked. It did not work. The other was one that wanted things to end better than they had the night of our breakup. A day of sex was much nicer than arguing and crying. She will still occasionally text and get flirty, but she’s married, so I think she just misses the sex.

 

[BongoGal]

"NEVER cross burned bridges"

I recommend avoiding the burning of bridges.

I have been pretty good, I think, about maintaining friendly relations with most of my exes. I don't at all like the idea of someone out there hating and resenting me. Over the years, this has resulted in my winding up in bed with a number of my exes. If we are both unattached at the time and are both willing, then why not? (I remember one such ex who made me laugh out loud during sex when he said, "It's like riding a bike." That could have seemed insulting since I was the bike in that scenario, but I knew it was true.)

One ex of mine ended up being the beneficiary of break-up sex on the occasion of four(!) break-ups with other guys. This happened over a period of about eight years. The first time, after I broke up with a boyfriend of about a year, I called the ex and we ended up hanging out and talking about old times and eventually we wound up in bed. That hadn't been my plan, but it turned out to be great fun. I stayed the night at his place and had even better sex the next morning. I left before noon, and except for a couple of emails, we had no contact again for a year. A year after that first break-up tryst, I had another break-up (this one uglier with lots of yelling). This time I called on him with the idea of sex foremost in my mind. He didn't let me down. Over the next six years or so, this happened two more times. It became a ritual of sorts, I guess. One day, however, I got a message from him informing me that he was getting married. I thought it was very sweet of him to inform me since it saved me the embarrassment of asking a now-married man if he wanted to bone newly-single me yet again.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

I recommend avoiding the burning of bridges.

I have been pretty good, I think, about maintaining friendly relations with most of my exes. I don't at all like the idea of someone out there hating and resenting me. Over the years, this has resulted in my winding up in bed with a number of my exes. If we are both unattached at the time and are both willing, then why not? (I remember one such ex who made me laugh out loud during sex when he said, "It's like riding a bike." That could have seemed insulting since I was the bike in that scenario, but I knew it was true.)

One ex of mine ended up being the beneficiary of break-up sex on the occasion of four(!) break-ups with other guys. This happened over a period of about eight years. The first time, after I broke up with a boyfriend of about a year, I called the ex and we ended up hanging out and talking about old times and eventually we wound up in bed. That hadn't been my plan, but it turned out to be great fun. I stayed the night at his place and had even better sex the next morning. I left before noon, and except for a couple of emails, we had no contact again for a year. A year after that first break-up tryst, I had another break-up (this one uglier with lots of yelling). This time I called on him with the idea of sex foremost in my mind. He didn't let me down. Over the next six years or so, this happened two more times. It became a ritual of sorts, I guess. One day, however, I got a message from him informing me that he was getting married. I thought it was very sweet of him to inform me since it saved me the embarrassment of asking a now-married man if he wanted to bone newly-single me yet again.

I also would counsel "normal" people to NOT burn bridges behind them.

Unfortunately I don't fall into the category that I would counsel them to not 'burn bridges'...

 

[FGB]

I recommend avoiding the burning of bridges.

Please Do!

F.G. Bridges!

 

[Katieb_38]

I still see my ex husband from time to time, after we split we would still meet to have sex, Because of lockdown we have not seen each other since December.

 

[Daddysfatwhore]

I've broken up with most on fairly good terms so having another fwb is nice. Makes sex quicker and more easy to get.

 

[emmcee_M_Aussie]

Met my gf at college and we were married for 10 yrs but split a couple of times. Each time she came back to see me about some issue and we ended up in bed which led to us trying again. Sex was always great and never an issue but living together was not a good chemistry. The laugh is that the third time she tried to get us back together, she popped in unannounced to my flat. I was chatting with a lady from work when the ex came in and literally took a backward step - she knew the secretary from work as well. She said what she had to say (some feeble context for being there) and I walked her to the door where she whispered to me, "Watch out for her. She's after you!" "Nah, I don't think so," I replied but I knew it was a fib as the secretary and I had been fucking like crazy 20 minutes earlier and had been seeing each other for a couple of weeks!

 

[Uneklensane]

A "Blast" from the past

My 2nd wife was 11 yrs older than I. 35/46. We were married for 8 years in which we had really great sex. For most of the 8 yrs we had no problems. The last year so much changed. She became manic AND menopausal at the same time. A year after the divorce we ran into each other in the mall. Chit chat turned into lunch. Lunch turned into taking in a movie we both wanted to see. In the theater there was only 1 other couple. The lights dimmed and we were sipping sodas and munching popcorn she asked "you need a napkin"? I said yes. She reached into her purse and handed me what I thought was a handkerchief which I ran across my lips. It left a wet, sticky musky coating. Prior to the movie she had visited the theater bathroom. She fondled her pussy until her panties were saturated with pussy juice. As I was pondering the coating on my lips she leaned over and kissed me while stroking my cock in my shorts. She then whispered "I've been dripping since you agreed to lunch and now I want to gush on your cock" She unsnapped her shorts, then mine. As I pushed mine over my knees she stepped out of hers saying "I can't keep them on... you'll see why". She slid her pussy down my cock in one thrust since she was so wet. I could hear her pussy slurping on my cock as she rode up and down my length. I began tweaking her nipples as I remembered she liked it when she said " Grip them tight and FUCKING PULL"!! Which I did. She moaned, and groaned at the same time then whisper-screamed "THAT'S FUCKING IT"! "THAT'S WHAT I NEED"! She sank her pussy to my balls, and doused my cock, balls, thighs, calves, ankles, and shoes in a torrent of pussy juice than I have ever imagined. As her body convulsed I blew 1 of the biggest cum loads I have ever had deeper inside her than I thought possible. Had I not had a VAS years before I would bred my ex wife on the spot. As we sat there with her pussy occasionally clamping down on my still hard cock she whispered "I found out I squirt from my nipples being pulled while being deep fucked, but it's only been from a dildo, but I was hoping today that I would get your cock in me again". "That's why I stripped off my shorts". She also giggled as my shoes squished saying "next time I'll fill your mouth"!

But I'll save that and the other times for later.

 

[shaquilee]

When I left my ex I knew that I walked away from some great dick. After dating a few guys I messaged him asking if he was missing my body as much as it was missing him. He was there in less than 20 minutes and we had incredible sex. I'm more into ruff sex than he is but that night he did everything and more. I rode him until my legs gave out, and he choked me when he wanted it deeper. I usually cum easily and that night I came more than ever. We ended our night with some anal and we continued to see each other once a month after that with no strings attached. About a year ago he decided to get married. There goes the best I ever had.

I have been looking for someone too, and I think that some online dating services might be good for that. What do you think about those seniors dating sites ca, for example? I guess they are really trusted and fun to use. Not sure if the are good for sex though, but they are definitely worth a shot

 

[Uneklensane]

I had a similar situation, but then I started dating more guys, and found a much better person shortly

There is always the hope of finding "as good if not better" sex with new people. But with an Ex they know your body, know your likes and dislikes, and can often give you that..."Best Fuck Ever" feeling you craved when the relationship still existed, and that you might be seeking in all your new relations.

 

[Lydia_Deetz]

I haven't thought about this night in years...

Years ago I dated someone in the Army. Before his deployment we actually broke up but remained good friends. Then he called to let me know he was leaving for Iraq soon. We went out a few days before he left and we ended up having some of the hottest sex I've ever had, that night. There were no expectations and we both let our guard down completely. Like others have said, they already know your body and what you like. It gets tricky if there are still feelings, but if you can get beyond that, it can be incredibly hot.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Many years ago, I was in a 2 going on 3 year long relationship with a good-looking older woman (I was in my early 30's, she in her mid-40's). In the last few months, I had completely lost interest in her, she became more demanding and unpleasant towards me (I'm not sure which was the cause and which the effect, probably a bit of both) and eventually we broke up.

It was months before we were on speaking terms but eventually we got to the point where we'd see each other socially once in a while. About a year later, on almost a whim we decided to spend the night together for "old time's sake," not expecting much of it, and the sex was electric, even more intense than when we first started dating. While neither of us wanted back into a relationship, we'd meet up every so often for repeat encounters, and for a while it stayed intense. She became so insatiable that if we'd meet at a bar or restaurant, she didn't want to wait to get home, she'd insist on being fucked in the back seat of the car in the parking lot and one time, in the lot behind a restaurant next to a dumpster (very romantic!). After a month or two of this it became stale and routine, so we again went our separate ways, but for a few weeks it was incredible.

I think that the psychology behind it is very much like that of a little kid who isn't interested in something until he thinks that he can't have it - i.e. no interest in an old toy until his parents decided to throw it or give it away, and then it's suddenly his favorite again.

Of course, it doesn't always work this way. Thinking post break-up sex is always something magic, I was delighted when I reconnected with another ex-girlfriend while on a business trip to Jacksonville. When she agreed to get together, I extended my stay to spend time with her. The post-breakup sex with her was awkward for both of us, I had trouble even performing sometimes after noticing that she seemed about as excited about it as folding laundry, as though she were doing it for the sake of formality. Somehow, the "lost toy becoming your favorite again" didn't work at all that time.

What have post-breakup trysts with exes been like for others here? More like the first or the second?

In my life and world there is no such thing as post breakup sex...
There is only one girl (my 'crazy hillbilly girl')who I was connected with that would even still say "hi" and that isn't often.

 

[naughtymind]

I have had some pretty amazing sex after breaking up, unfortunately I can't say that it was all good. The sex part was good, but it wasn't a particularly healthy relationship at that point and post break up sex usually ended up being make up and get back together sex. Neither of us was particularly good at removing the love from the lust, especially me. We were still pretty deeply in love, and the frequent returns to the bedroom made for a much longer and messier break up in the end. But damn the sex was good! NO doubt about that.

 

[Lydia_Deetz]

I have had some pretty amazing sex after breaking up, unfortunately I can't say that it was all good. The sex part was good, but it wasn't a particularly healthy relationship at that point and post break up sex usually ended up being make up and get back together sex. Neither of us was particularly good at removing the love from the lust, especially me. We were still pretty deeply in love, and the frequent returns to the bedroom made for a much longer and messier break up in the end. But damn the sex was good! NO doubt about that.

I can empathize with the difficulty of removing feelings. I had a situation like that years ago. The sex was amazing, but it made the breakup that much worse while feelings were there, that we both said were not.

 

[nassauguy_2001]

Same here. I think I only had one ex that I didn't fuck a few times after the breakup. Banged my second ex wife for two years until she got remarried. Only did her once after her wedding.

Happy to say that we recently updated this to twice since she got remarried. Short version is that alcohol was involved at a family wedding that we both attended!

 

[FGB]

"NEVER cross burned bridges"



Word!
We can be real Bastards!

 

[masterslave00]

When I was 27, I was in nearly three-year long relationship and we decided to get married... Then something broke and we called the wedding off few months before the date. We could not cancel pre-booked honeymoon trip, so we decided to still go as FWBs... Best fucking we both had, even better than before... We did not start dating again immediately, but both needed sex badly, so we stayed FWBs and continue fucking each other for about 18 months until she decided to stay loyal to her new BF. We are still in contact 36 years later and still good friend. We just do not fuck each other anymore...

 

[SharesMe]

Damn I love that break up sex. I remember my ex and I were like “ why wasn’t it like this before?” Of course no strings attached and fucking everyone helped

 

[Gr82meetu2]

I went out with a woman for about 10 years from my early 20s to early 30s. We travel a lot together and we’re just trying to figure our lives out.
The sex had always been really good, but we didn’t do so well and day-to-day, living finances, and shit like that

Anyway, I was living in Vancouver, and I think she was at the time in Toronto or Montreal

And without a lie, I was walking down fourth Avenue in Kitsilano, which is a neighbourhood Vancouver, and she walked out of a store, and we bumped into one another

She was in town for a conference

So we went out for a drink she didn’t have a boyfriend I didn’t have a girlfriend
We are both horny as hell

We went back to her hotel room and fucked like rabbits all night long

I basically stayed there for the three days of the conference. She would go we would go out for dinner and we would just fuck.

We texted a little bit for maybe a week after that and I don’t think we’ve ever spoken again

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I was seeing my high school/college girlfriend for four years. We broke up when she joined a religious cult that forbade premarital sex, but got back together after three months. That didn't last long -- it just wasn't the same without the sex. I met someone new, and started enjoying life again. The old girlfriend sensed I had lost interest in her and called me to come visit one day. She knew right away I was over her. I admitted I had found someone new and moved on. We had a very emotional conversation about our 4+ years together, and then suddenly she was all over me. We undressed, she sucked me off, I went down on her, and then we enjoyed some of the best sex ever together. We both knew we still had feelings for each other, but this would be our last time together. We went at it hard and long, and finally I left when I was thoroughly drained of strength, emotion, and bodily fluids. I never looked back from that day.

 

[newhere2learn]

Yes, I've had sex with most of my exes. Some of my best bonks ever.

Had sex with a few of mine, and phone sex with a few more.

Ex-wife and I had post split sex a few times, was weird. No kissing, no affection, no words. Just her, all fours, moaning as I ass fucked her hard. Was freeing, no emotions just need.

Couple of other GFs have had booty call arrangements with me afterwards.