Psychiatric Help, 5 Cents

[PreOwned]

Wow--that is enlightening, and more than a little discouraging. No matter how smart, tough, suave, rich, educated. . . whtever you are, there is ALWAYS someone more so than you. Actually, lots of them. I try to always remain aware that, finally, I am only in competition with myself.

Thanks for sharing here!

Love your post )

I'll fully admit my earlier answer was based strictly on stereotypes and partial knowledge of her situation. Having said that, Yes... it's more common than you know.

In regard to your question...
I believe ego issues generally do occur. I feel that much of this stems not necessarily from knowing the other person is intellectually superior (as you suggest), but instead from insecurities of the person having the issue.

I'd say that most humans (men and women equally) are not comfortable and confident in the things that DO separate them and make them unique. They, too easily, let someone else's "superiority" in one particular aspect break their confidence.

Once again, I'm speaking generically and stereotypically, but I've known many men who were very gifted in many different ways lose all confidence when bested by someone in one particular way. For example, I've been a runner all my life and can still run a 5k in under 23 minutes. I had 3 different male "friends" who were crushed that a girl could out-run them drive a wedge between us. Two of the guys refuse to even speak to me anymore. The 3rd was constantly challenging me to other contest until he finally won. All 3 guys were far more intelligent than I am and much more educated, but this one physical aspect of their lives was enough of a failure to rattle all of their egos.

Short Answer: all humans like to feel special and superior. It's the ones who aren't confident in themselves that allow one failure to break their egos.

 

[cbono1969]

help..

I have a Incest fetish within me and I wanna have a relationship with my sister..she"s 45 and im 42..she knows my desires and wants..how do i break from my issues???Ps..I have a 66 year old stepmother and I have used her garments as a sexual desire and she has cought me..How do i free from this sin???

 

[cbono1969]

Anyone deal with having a fetish Like I do????How do you deal with it and have you ever acted on your desire???

 

[box13]

Anyone deal with having a fetish Like I do????How do you deal with it and have you ever acted on your desire???

I'm not the "doctor" here, so I hope this doesn't anger anyone who feels like they are. If so, I apologize.

Not like that one, but something, and yes once or twice. I'm only a little older than yourself, but I've noticed over the years that interests come and go, so that might happen for you as well...just time...and it fades from importance. It might help if you replace it with something else, some other activity...sexual I assume...so that the other one doesn't build up.

I suppose there are those that think that if you have the feeling then it must be right and you should do it to be happy. I'm not one of those people.

From my own experience, I would look at your life (not me, you) and have a honest conversation about trauma or some sort of emotional stress. Being male, it can be something that doesn't seem related I suppose. Something way in the background like growing old and fearing death.

I listened to someone talk once about how feelings of shame can sort of pop out in odd places at times, as if the shame/pain you feel in your head needs to attach itself to something real in the present in order to be felt and expressed and visible and "look I have a hurt" like we did when we were kids.

Ya, I thought it was BS too.

But shame is a large part of sexual feelings for a great many people. Just look at the internet...not necessarily shameful in a judgmental way necessarily, but just looking at what people would not do in public they are somehow good with filming -- abusive and degrading (mostly to women unfortunately). A lot of things heighten sexual feelings, and doing something "taboo" or shameful or hurtful / damaging is one way that isn't physical.

I've only heard stories about families that encourage that....your situation sounds like it's never going to happen because they don't want it...so how do you forget about it? I don't think you ever do, I haven't about mine, but you can decide that it's just something that doesn't need to happen in order to make you feel "good" about your life...something like fucking the ex anymore maybe. I dunno.

Again, sorry if that wasn't helpful. I'm often not very helpful.

 

[StaciRay79]

In regard to your sister fetish... you're both adults. If you both want to do it, then do what you want. Just keep in mind that there are others in both of your lives who may not like it if you do. If you're asking how to break free of your incest desire, you're the only one who can figure out how to do that.

Regarding your stepmother... it sounds like you don't have any respect for her if you're stealing her things and using them for you're own purposes. If she caught you and you still do it... sounds like you simply don't care.

I have a Incest fetish within me and I wanna have a relationship with my sister..she"s 45 and im 42..she knows my desires and wants..how do i break from my issues???Ps..I have a 66 year old stepmother and I have used her garments as a sexual desire and she has cought me..How do i free from this sin???

 

[StaciRay79]

Thanks for filling in for the "doctor", I never intended to be the only one answering questions. Thought this could be a group effort.


I get accused of your comment below ALL THE TIME!

Again, sorry if that wasn't helpful. I'm often not very helpful.