Pussies & Cunts

[Marlene38EE]

As long as you don't use "vajayjay" you're okay. I'll bitch slap anyone who says that in front of me. lol

Now there's a word that Humanity has to stop using!!!
...bitchslap'em with a chainsaw....
Sorry, was that my 'outside' voice???

 

[hongluobo]

For what it's worth my wife prefers the word "pussy" unless she's being penetrated then "cunt" comes into play. Examples being, she will text me "my pussy is wet" and beg "FUCK MY CUNT DEEP" when fully engaged.


Amongst her female friends she uses the words "pie" and "pussy" only. I've NEVER once heard them say cunt or refer to that area as their cunt.

But your wife is Chinese so what about in Chinese "mei mei" vs. "bi" or even "yin dao" ??

Like Elaine, I guess I tend to go for the cuteness myself in describing the Divine Miss V... i.e.. kitty.. pussy... and yep.. mei mei (little sister ) in Chinese... but you see that goes with "ji ji" and "xiao di di"

 

[ChinaBandit]

But your wife is Chinese so what about in Chinese "mei mei" vs. "bi" or even "yin dao" ??

Like Elaine, I guess I tend to go for the cuteness myself in describing the Divine Miss V... i.e.. kitty.. pussy... and yep.. mei mei (little sister ) in Chinese... but you see that goes with "ji ji" and "xiao di di"

I've posted about "bi" before but spelled it "be" so non-Mandarin speakers would understand how to pronounce it. As you know, it's not pronounced bi=by/buy.

As for mei-mei, I really think it is reserved for the mother's circle when speaking about their little daughters or a younger girl in a group of children..Same applies for "ji ji." Just my experience of the Chinese usage. In classical Chinese literature, as there is no real substitute for bi, metaphor always applied such as the "Jade Door" or "Jade Gate." Modern Chinese lit is quite explicit though.

 

[hongluobo]

I've posted about "bi" before but spelled it "be" so non-Mandarin speakers would understand how to pronounce it. As you know, it's not pronounced bi=by/buy.

As for mei-mei, I really think it is reserved for the mother's circle when speaking about their little daughters or a younger girl in a group of children..Same applies for "ji ji." Just my experience of the Chinese usage. In classical Chinese literature, as there is no real substitute for bi, metaphor always applied such as the "Jade Door" or "Jade Gate." Modern Chinese lit is quite explicit though.

I love all those metaphors in Classical Literature and am searching out your earlier post. I guess that I am uncomfortable with using "bi" much like using cunt... a bit crude and rude. but maybe in the right context, stimulating.

 

[ChinaBandit]

I love all those metaphors in Classical Literature and am searching out your earlier post. I guess that I am uncomfortable with using "bi" much like using cunt... a bit crude and rude. but maybe in the right context, stimulating.

I agree.

I have only heard Chinese women use "bi" in public as "shabi!", and they must be very angry!

Or, interestingly, the Ob/Gyn. The (female) doctor always seems to refer to it as bi or your cunt. Disconcerting, to the western Mandarin speaker.

 

[susurrus]

From a literary standpoint, it's good to have a few variations at hand, so you aren't using the same terminology over and over again. While I seldom use the words "vagina" or "penis" due to how cold and clinical they sound, in a certain context, each of those terms work perfectly. It's all a matter of knowing where to put which...

 

[lustfulraj]

A friend's wife uses both the words when I'm playing with hers

 

[michellebarr55]

Pussy. Cunt seems a bit... vulgar.

 

[naughty_shygirl]

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[sweetladytee]

Honestly...

Either one, pussy or cunt, it works for me! Both words turn me on! I believe you will make it work, and good luck with it, man!

 

[OpenMouth]

I like the word cunt. I like the contrast between the feminine beauty of what it's describing and the harshness of the word.

When I go down on my wife, I like her cunt to smell.

 

[LucyH]

Nothing. I don't like any of the words. I work around it.

 

[HeyItsDani]

Nothing. I don't like any of the words. I work around it.

How do you "work around it" without sounding silly or using silly cliches?

 

[LucyH]

How do you "work around it" without sounding silly or using silly cliches?

I may sound silly sometimes. But maybe my reason for not having picked a word I'm comfortable with is the fact that I lost interest in the subject of female genitalia - mine or anyone else's - before I got uninhibited enough to talk/write about sex in any detail. I used to be interested enough to consider myself bisexual. Who knows - I could swing back that way sometime. For now, though, what gets me going is men, so that's who I focus on.

I've written a total of 6 short stories or chapters that are finished enough that I'm willing to share them, and in which there's enough sexual content to get at least one character out of their pants. Four of them include women. Two of them include women who actually get out of their pants at some point. One of them was about anal sex, from the guy's point of view, and he was focused on that, and fantasizing about another guy. That leaves me with one story that required actual grammatical work-arounds, which mostly involve using verbs instead of nouns, and being vague.

 

[vibes]

@ LucyH: you seem to have lost an awful lot of interest in the subject matter

 

[amofiga]

I may sound silly sometimes. I've written a total of 6 short stories or chapters that are finished enough that I'm willing to share them, and in which there's enough sexual content to get at least one character out of their pants. Four of them include women. Two of them include women who actually get out of their pants at some point. One of them was about anal sex, from the guy's point of view, and he was focused on that, and fantasizing about another guy. That leaves me with one story that required actual grammatical work-arounds, which mostly involve using verbs instead of nouns, and being vague.

I suppose my question has to do with intentended audience for any written or even spoken piece. I've read erotic stories that range from the "unnecessarily crude" to the "bodice ripper" romantic. I tend to prefer something in the middle i.e. something raw enough to keep the guys interested, but not so crude as to turn off the women.

I've known many women that aren't put off by words like pussy or cunt, especially in the context of a sexual environment. As someone above said, when his wife is in the mood, she would tell him to "stick his cock in her cunt and fuck her". If she were discussing this with her gyn or some of her friends in a restaurant she might be refer to inserting a penis into a vagina. I think it really does center on the intentended audience and context, and not so much on what the writer thinks or feels him/herself. I our own time, my wife has no problem with using or hearing the word cunt if it refers kindly to the situation. Saying that "as she spread her legs and his heart thumped at the first view of her beautidul moist cunt, he...." is certainly different from saying "I grabbed the cheap cunt and smacked her face." Although, there certainly could be a story context where that latter works, it doesn't portray anything pleasant or necessarily erotic.

I think what is important, and what I try to do, is mix raw language with meaningful emotion and sensitivity so that it can describe a pretty erotic act being done with good intentions by considerate people. That way, maybe it doesn't really offend as much as some might think. Does that make sense?

 

[MrsCCfromRC]

Interesting discussion. One question I would ask the non-c word users is, "Do you use the word cock?"

It has been mentioned that the 'k' sound makes it harsh and hard... but it's the same with cock (pun intended). To me, the first consideration is who you are with and what they are comfortable with. If it's ok with them, then in a sexual situation I do use Cunt... I mean it just works with cock. They balance each other. However, I too dislike like it when used pejoratively... and in non-sexual situations then pussy is fine.

I know this is completely a personal choice but I couldn't use some of the descriptors mentioned here. Using the Pink song as an example... I could never say sugar walls or mink slide and keep a straight face.

"Oh, please, I need you in my mink slide"

Nope...

 

[HeyItsDani]

"Oh, please, I need you in my mink slide"

Nope...

lolol

 

[vibes]

@ Mrs: a dirty pun here, a nasty aural/visual there ...

 

[isseii]

I have a question, primarily for the women, but the guys can chime in here if they wish.

I am writing a series of stories I'll be submitting to Lit. Hopefully, they'll all get published. My question concerns which word you prefer to use to refer to your genitals.

Do you prefer the word "pussy," the word "cunt," or some other word? Or does it depend on the situation? If you read someone's writing and they use one or the other, does it bother you?

I used to detest the word "cunt," primarily because of the way it is used pejoratively in our society. A friend of mine eventually convinced me of the power of the word, however, and I have become an avid fan of it. So when I write or speak, I will almost always refer to my crotch as my cunt. I'll tell someone to "eat my cunt" rather than "eat my pussy." The word just has such an evocative power over people. If you don't believe it, use the word yourself when you're among friends and watch the reaction. Unless you already use it a lot, it'll generally stop them dead in their tracks.

I find it even hard to use the word "pussy" these days. It just sounds so...juvenile or middle-schoolish. I can say it, but I want to giggle when I do. lol

So, anyway, what do you call yours, and what do you prefer when you read someone's writing?

I have to agree with your friend, it can be a very powerful word and as such it does deserve a degree of consideration when writing. I would have to agree with what others have said about word choice being highly dependent upon the nature of any character, as well as upon the circumstances in which they are being portrayed.

You mentioned your past distaste of the word cunt. I still hold that perception and probably always will, though there's a bit of history that reinforces that for me. However, I think it's important to note that in spite of my personal disdain for the word I have never had an issue with it when it's being used appropriately in a story. So yet again we find ourselves left with the fact that it's really about the characters and what they would use. If a sweet, meek character were to suddenly ask to have something shoved into their sloppy cunt I would certainly stop and scratch my head. If that's your intent great, if it's not your intent...well then, obviously not so great. If a character similar to yourself (based purely upon what I've seen of your posts of course) were to refer to it as her hoo haa I would probably fall out of my chair laughing.

 

[bidaddy]

to me if you are writting a story i think it is a matter puntuation. It sounds better to say.... she spread her legs and showed me her pretty pink pussy. then when the action gets more heated you can say... she said shove that big cock deep in my hot cunt until i cum. It is the same as useing dick and cock.

 

[night&day]

Depends On Your Age!

I mean come on ladies, if you aren't 10 years old you have a cunt when you are in bed with your lover(s).

 

[infinity706]

I really like cunt, but I'll use any other word if I have some reason to. The only one I object to is vagina being used to refer to the entirity of the female genitals. The part technically called the vagina doesn't have any sexual sensation, so it's not only confusing, but kind of sexist. Vagina is a fine word as long as you're only referring to the internal tube, though.

As far as writing porn, I'd use whatever word makes sense with the character.

If it's ok with them, then in a sexual situation I do use Cunt... I mean it just works with cock.

Well, it certainly makes sense considering they're the oldest, surviving words for the genitals. They just have a reputation for being "vulgar" because the nobility decided they were going to speak Latin with its huge, multi-syllable words instead of English, the language of the common folk. Once upon a time, cunt used to be the normal word for a woman's privates.

 

[hongluobo]

I really like cunt, but I'll use any other word if I have some reason to. The only one I object to is vagina being used to refer to the entirity of the female genitals. The part technically called the vagina doesn't have any sexual sensation, so it's not only confusing, but kind of sexist. Vagina is a fine word as long as you're only referring to the internal tube, though.

As far as writing porn, I'd use whatever word makes sense with the character.


Well, it certainly makes sense considering they're the oldest, surviving words for the genitals. They just have a reputation for being "vulgar" because the nobility decided they were going to speak Latin with its huge, multi-syllable words instead of English, the language of the common folk. Once upon a time, cunt used to be the normal word for a woman's privates.

I remember reading a paper in University in anthropological linguistics that discussed the origin of the word "cunt". It comes from cunny which is another word for rabbit.. and a rabbit is a type of animal that doesn't really fit into any broader animal categories... is out on the limb so to speak.. and many swear words originate from such word that are not easy to categorize.... or at least that is what I can remember from the paper 30 years later

 

[hongluobo]

p.s. I love the oh so strokeable soft and furry aspect of cunny/cunt too