pussy spank

[Avery_Chisholm]

Maybe becuase i love to have my dick spanked. I was just wondering if a women like to to have their pussy spanked.

unless i take his hand and slap it against my pussy yes if not NO lol

 

[neonflux]

anxiety and suspense is always a plus - love being on both the giving and receiving end...

It's definately easier when someone else does the spanking. i hesitate and flinch too much. i know when it's coming and how hard it will be. i like there to be more mystery. i want to be guessing.

 

[IveBeenMunsoned]

So as a complete novice (who's met a woman very much into it), maybe the best way to start would be to tie & blindfold her, then start softly. I could vary the timing so that the anticipation would drive her crazy. From reading the thread, I like the idea of using my hand and slapping her clit with my middle finger. Just start slowly and build until when???

Damn, I need a manual!

 

[neonflux]

always nice to start slow and build. perhaps until she uses her safe word??? until you see her either getting very excited and wet and want to take advantage of it or move onto something else? endless possibilities?

So as a complete novice (who's met a woman very much into it), maybe the best way to start would be to tie & blindfold her, then start softly. I could vary the timing so that the anticipation would drive her crazy. From reading the thread, I like the idea of using my hand and slapping her clit with my middle finger. Just start slowly and build until when???

Damn, I need a manual!

You could also try one of these - short, rubber, can be very soft, my primary play partner loves the way it feels...

 

[Etoile]

Had a nice couple of slaps this past weekend. I can't remember the circumstances but it was enjoyable.

It seems to me that slapping a woman's pelvic region would not feel too good to the slapper. There's a bone there and all, you know? Doesn't it feel strange to hit that?

 

[SirFace]

Had a nice couple of slaps this past weekend. I can't remember the circumstances but it was enjoyable.

It seems to me that slapping a woman's pelvic region would not feel too good to the slapper. There's a bone there and all, you know? Doesn't it feel strange to hit that?

Yes, thats why cushioning is so much better (both internal and external). I do find the flogger much easier in that area but now I have a crop to play with too.

 

[neonflux]

Had a nice couple of slaps this past weekend. I can't remember the circumstances but it was enjoyable.

It seems to me that slapping a woman's pelvic region would not feel too good to the slapper. There's a bone there and all, you know? Doesn't it feel strange to hit that?

Having yet to have a GF who was wired this way, I cannot say, although it seems to me one can avoid the bone... (as per prior post, not sure I'd be able to do this, although the thought is sexy)

Yes, thats why cushioning is so much better (both internal and external). I do find the flogger much easier in that area but now I have a crop to play with too.

Crops... Mmmmmm...

 

[Kailey_86]

Yesterday Sir told me that i have to spank my own pussy as a punishment for something i did. How am i supposed to do this? Ahhh! This is NOT the kind of pussy spank i like.

 

[FurryFury]

Yesterday Sir told me that i have to spank my own pussy as a punishment for something i did. How am i supposed to do this? Ahhh! This is NOT the kind of pussy spank i like.

Take hand, slap pussy, it's not that hard unless I'm missing something. It's also not that punishing IMO.

Fury

 

[Kailey_86]

Take hand, slap pussy, it's not that hard unless I'm missing something. It's also not that punishing IMO.

Fury

It's not the act of doing it that's hard, it's trying to make it painful enough that it's not pleasurable. That's the question. How am i supposed to turn something enjoyable into punishment? i like pussy spankings. It isn't very punishing. This should be a good thing. i should feel like i am getting off easy. Instead i feel really guilty. Punishment for my Dom is not supposed to be enjoyable at all and here i am relishing in it.

 

[FurryFury]

It's not the act of doing it that's hard, it's trying to make it painful enough that it's not pleasurable. That's the question. How am i supposed to turn something enjoyable into punishment? i like pussy spankings. It isn't very punishing. This should be a good thing. i should feel like i am getting off easy. Instead i feel really guilty. Punishment for my Dom is not supposed to be enjoyable at all and here i am relishing in it.

Did he say you had to make it so that it's not pleasurable? Maybe he knows how it will feel to you and that is part of his plan?

Do you have a way to talk with him about the difficulties of this task for you?

I mean short of taking a brush or something hard and using it, I can't see how it can be done either.

*shrugs*

Fury

 

[catalina_francisco]

It's not the act of doing it that's hard, it's trying to make it painful enough that it's not pleasurable. That's the question. How am i supposed to turn something enjoyable into punishment? i like pussy spankings. It isn't very punishing. This should be a good thing. i should feel like i am getting off easy. Instead i feel really guilty. Punishment for my Dom is not supposed to be enjoyable at all and here i am relishing in it.

This is the downside of these by proxy type orders in terms of physical acts...it is never going to feel the same doing it yourself as having someone else do it. You know when it is coming, you know how hard, there is no element of anticipation and surprise, there is only so much force you can administer to yourself due to physical limitations coupled with force behind the action...it is just like trying to tickle yourself into a giggling mess, much better done by someone else.

Catalina

 

[Etoile]

This is the downside of these by proxy type orders in terms of physical acts...it is never going to feel the same doing it yourself as having someone else do it. You know when it is coming, you know how hard, there is no element of anticipation and surprise, there is only so much force you can administer to yourself due to physical limitations coupled with force behind the action...it is just like trying to tickle yourself into a giggling mess, much better done by someone else.

Catalina

serijules might be someone to talk to about this.

 

[serijules]

Attitude has a lot to do with how successful proxy play can be. If you have a negative attitude about it, it's sure to fail. As with many things in life.

It's a downside for sure, but when it's an opportunity to be connected to someone you are at a distance from, with the right mindframe, a good attitude and a little imagination, it can be done quite well.

Ma'am and I do a lot of proxy play, and she can have me bruised and crying and begging her to stop. It does depend on the person though...not everyone has the ability or desire to do this at the level that I do. There is nothing wrong with that. It isn't for everyone. I get a little exasperated when people can't seem to see what it CAN offer though.

I can keep spanking myself quite hard even when it is hurting like hell and I want it to stop. I can put the tones in her words that I know would be there in person, and it has a big effect on me. It took some practice and I haven't been able to be this committed to doing well at it as I have with other partners, but my submission to Ma'am is deep enough that I truly try my best to please her by "torturing" myself as hard as I can. Wanting to please someone can take you to some pretty intense levels, even if they are not right there with you.

Certainly it hurts a lot more when she is doing it, but that doesn't mean it can't be effective if I am doing it at her command. Sometimes a punishment or a scene where she wants me to suffer may take 2-3 times the number of strokes as it would at her own hand, but hell, it's just time, and it's more time spent together at that.

I'm required to spank my pussy a lot....crops work VERY well. I use a razor strop a lot too. Add Screaming Toast, Tiger Balm, Ben Gay or Icy Hot to the area and spank on top of that; it adds a level of pain that you cannot control by going too lightly or whatnot. It's still going to hurt even without the added spanking. Try doing it directly after a hot shower, or even IN the shower. Also makes an area more sensitive.

Being made to orgasm before a spanking adds a more painful edge to it for some people too. Of course I don't have much practice in that; I am very rarely allowed to orgasm these days.

BTW, orgasm denial is another fantastic means of proxy play.

It's not ideal by any means, and I much more so enjoy our sessions when we are TOGETHER, but I love the connection that it brings us when we are apart, I love the opportunities to serve and please, and I love coming up with new, creative and effective ways to suffer for her in her absense.

Yup, it's doable. I've been doing it for years.

 

[EroticSexKitten]

i like it

 

[Kailey_86]

serijules, i agree with you here. It would definately work a lot better if i had a deeper connection with Sir. The thing is i still haven't met Sir in person. i am trying to build this connection on words alone. i am definately submissive to Him and i am definately connected to Him but there is only so much connection you can have without having met the person in RL. There is so much that can't be done without being together physically. Doing things in person develops a whole new level of trust and bonding. i am very anxious to get started. One more month....*sigh*

 

[callinectes]

I have yet to really experience this. I've only had one light swat with the crop with my panties on. It was incredibly erotic and I am so looking forward to a really good spanking (sans panties! )

 

[serijules]

serijules, i agree with you here. It would definately work a lot better if i had a deeper connection with Sir. The thing is i still haven't met Sir in person. i am trying to build this connection on words alone. i am definately submissive to Him and i am definately connected to Him but there is only so much connection you can have without having met the person in RL. There is so much that can't be done without being together physically. Doing things in person develops a whole new level of trust and bonding. i am very anxious to get started. One more month....*sigh*

That makes perfect sense...it is much harder when you have not met the person yet and have not felt those same things by their hand. Not to say the submission or bond or trust is not there until that moment but yes, it comes to a whole new level once you have met.

I hope everything goes well for you when you do meet Wishing you the best.

 

[KinkyRascal]

Crop it just right!

I just wanted to second Serijules' and Callinectes' comments about using the crop for pussy spankings.

You would be amazed at what just the touch of leather, let alone a thin loop of leather, over and between the labia or on and around the clit can do!

That's not even mentioning a random slap of different intensities in that area. Properly done, it moves a woman not only immediately to subspace but orgasms about as fast as anything I've ever seen!

K

 

[serijules]

I just wanted to second Serijules' and Callinectes' comments about using the crop for pussy spankings.

You would be amazed at what just the touch of leather, let alone a thin loop of leather, over and between the labia or on and around the clit can do!

That's not even mentioning a random slap of different intensities in that area. Properly done, it moves a woman not only immediately to subspace but orgasms about as fast as anything I've ever seen!

K

One scene I did a long time ago with a play partner still sticks out in my mind. He was not that great to play with in general as he was over-eager and was rushing to get so much done in the time we had that I felt like a piece of meat, but he did do one thing that still turns me on to think about.

He took a bunch of clothespins with leather shoestrings tied on the ends of them and clipped them to my labia lips (4 on each side)...then tied the strings behind my thighs so my lips were spread wide open. He then used a crop on the area over and over, harder and harder until I came. Good god that felt awesome...after I came, he pulled the clips off my lips one by one, slowly...that pain was exquisite as they had been clipped there for a good while by then....*shudders*

 

[Kailey_86]

He took a bunch of clothespins with leather shoestrings tied on the ends of them and clipped them to my labia lips (4 on each side)...then tied the strings behind my thighs so my lips were spread wide open. He then used a crop on the area over and over, harder and harder until I came. Good god that felt awesome...after I came, he pulled the clips off my lips one by one, slowly...that pain was exquisite as they had been clipped there for a good while by then....*shudders*

*shivers* Wow...

 

[catalina_francisco]

Hmmmm, well last night I saw some pics of the aftermath of a pussy paddling that made me hurt just looking at it.....and she was still smiling though I doubt she sat or did anything comfortably for a week or more!!

Catalina

 

[mcgill82ferret]

Sure gives new meaning to "beating around the bush.."

 

[pellso27]

florida omg

Maybe becuase i love to have my dick spanked. I was just wondering if a women like to to have their pussy spanked.

learn how to write

 

[pellso27]

body shot?

unless i take his hand and slap it against my pussy yes if not NO lol

no thanks I may drown