re: ideas for domination in the bedroom

[misshum]

That one actually made my heart skip a beat, thinking about seeing you like that! Whew!

You're not beginning to explore your inner "Bi", now are you?

 

[spreadwide]

You can explore me!!!!!

 

[SweetErika]

Again, it sounds like you both communicate well. That is key, especially in the area of anal play. You must be careful and safe with anything, but especially that. I don't use a strap-on either because I figure if my sub wants a dick, they need to find a male dom! Anywhoooo, I have used anal play many times, just not with a strap-on. In fact, I have used my subs for my OWN pleasure in that department!

This is a new perspective for me, misshum. I've never seen myself using a strapon as a replacement or stand-in for a male, I just see it as me with a toy that commands respect because it can either hurt or feel really good. And, well, it's something different for me (kinda like being able to walk around without a shirt, or pee standing up); it's more of a tool that helps me tap into my power as a woman and giver.

Do you feel the same about women who like dildos, i.e. if they want a cock, they need to find a male partner. How about FF couples who have strapons - are those just a replacement for the real thing?

Not to hijack this thread, but I'm really curious about your view on this.

 

[mary102938]

You're not beginning to explore your inner "Bi", now are you?

I'm not quite sure how to answer that, Misshum. This is all so new to me. But I must admit, some of these ideas and getting my heart racing a bit! What does that mean?

 

[misshum]

This is a new perspective for me, misshum. I've never seen myself using a strapon as a replacement or stand-in for a male, I just see it as me with a toy that commands respect because it can either hurt or feel really good. And, well, it's something different for me (kinda like being able to walk around without a shirt, or pee standing up); it's more of a tool that helps me tap into my power as a woman and giver.

Do you feel the same about women who like dildos, i.e. if they want a cock, they need to find a male partner. How about FF couples who have strapons - are those just a replacement for the real thing?

Not to hijack this thread, but I'm really curious about your view on this.

SweetErika (nice Avatar BTW), I am all for anyone using whatever tools or toys they find satisfying. I was refering to those who are looking for a cock, as in a man's cock, not as a toy. Instead of settling for a replacement for a male cock, they ought to go for the real thing. That is what I was saying. I do not feel a strap-on can give me any more power than I feel I already have. Not against others using one if they so desire. I see your point as far as it being viewed as a tool of pleasure/pain more than a male body part. I can agree with that.

 

[spreadwide]

What's wrong with both?

I think they both have their place. I love to have a real cock in my pussy while having my ass played with by a dildo.

 

[slndrbrwnsuga]

Whats wrong with both?

I agree, but in our case, I was the one with the strap on fucking him.

 

[SweetErika]

SweetErika (nice Avatar BTW), I am all for anyone using whatever tools or toys they find satisfying. I was refering to those who are looking for a cock, as in a man's cock, not as a toy. Instead of settling for a replacement for a male cock, they ought to go for the real thing. That is what I was saying. I do not feel a strap-on can give me any more power than I feel I already have. Not against others using one if they so desire. I see your point as far as it being viewed as a tool of pleasure/pain more than a male body part. I can agree with that.

Thanks for the compliment and explanation!

 

[gaius7]

Here a couple of ideas if You're just getting started and don't want to invest in a lot of toys...

finger nails can be great fun. applied to the nipples, the head of the penis and pernium (the bundle of nerves in the crotch) they can inflict an impressive amount of pain and You can adjust the pressure easily.

High heels are a personal favorite. a nice long walk about and down his body might be a nice warm up. Finding the sensative spot in his croth and twisting a heel into it something he'll thank You for.

Also, incorporating housework can be fun too. You can follow him around with a whip. One smack for missing a spot, ten for doing a good job.

The key here is for both You and he to focus on Your pleasure, Your power and Your expetations. For him to enjoy it You have to enjoy it and he has to know You're having a good time and he's going to know that by Your willingness to excersise complete power of him. Have fun!!!

 

[mary102938]

Hmmm, fingernails....yeah, I could do that. Hadn't thought about those as a tool of the trade! Thank you!

 

[bw08641]

I can attest to the fingernails. I love it when a women runs her fingernails down my chest and all around my cock and balls! It can make you quite the submissive very quickly!

 

[spreadwide]

Oh, the memories...

All this talk about domination is really making me miss my good friend who used to live down the street. She was very helpful in teaching me about alot of this. We had so much fun together playing around. We never had a relationship, in the personal sense, because I am happily married. I am just married to man who doesn't like this sort of stuff. So, it was nice to have someone show me the "ropes", so to speak. And show me the ropes she did!

 

[mary102938]

All this talk about domination is really making me miss my good friend who used to live down the street. She was very helpful in teaching me about alot of this. We had so much fun together playing around. We never had a relationship, in the personal sense, because I am happily married. I am just married to man who doesn't like this sort of stuff. So, it was nice to have someone show me the "ropes", so to speak. And show me the ropes she did!

So, what was it like to have another woman dominate you? I am assuming that is what your friend did? Was it wierd as first. I imagine it would be awkward if you've never done that before. I don't think i could ever have that type of relationship with another woman in real life. But I must admit, it might would be a little erotic to have an online friend...

 

[spreadwide]

I must admit, it might would be a little erotic to have an online friend...

Well, I have heard of women who have had what you might call an "online" Dom or "email" Dom. Someone who might email you with things to do and you must report back to them with your obedience. That is very rare, but if you're interested, you might find someone to take you along at your own pace, leading you to do more and more erotic things as you go.

 

[mary102938]

Well, I have heard of women who have had what you might call an "online" Dom or "email" Dom. Someone who might email you with things to do and you must report back to them with your obedience. That is very rare, but if you're interested, you might find someone to take you along at your own pace, leading you to do more and more erotic things as you go.

Hmmm, that does sound kinda interesting. It would depend upon what they would require.

 

[spreadwide]

A good idea...

Here's another domination idea. Tie him to the bed and straddled him with your pussy near his face and masturbate while forcing him to watch! Do not let him touch you....though you might stroke his cock enough to make him want to release badly, but do not relieve him. Just when he's about to cum, stop and make him lose it. That will REALLY dominate him by controlling his orgasms!

 

[slndrbrwnsuga]

Tried this one countless times

Also tried the fingernails, especially the area between his balls n ass, he loves my naturally long nails to tease, scratch and fondle that area including his ass..makes his hard as the rock of Jabralta...especially loves to mastuate in front of him, while feeding him my juices...any more ideas? would be nice

 

[midwestyankee]

Dude, two cups of coffee and I'm practically peeing out my ears.

Any chance that there's video to prove this?

 

[slndrbrwnsuga]

Actually,,,,,I do have a few along with some pics...but I dont kiss and tell

 

[handsomesam432]

I have recently surprised my friend by wearing a strapon after my shower, begged me to fuck his ass, but not until pleasing me orally, in everyway, you see, I loved to be kissed, caressed, and.... oh so slowly be teased, so when I got um...moist..LOL, I had him lay on his back, gave him a slow nice deep throat, all while playing and circling his ass with my fingers, then tongue my strapon welcomed his ass with so much pleasure, I brought him to a certain brink then withdraw my strapon, turned him over doggy style, teased his ass before my strapon find itself slowly entering him, going deep at first, withdrawing to the tip where I fucked him with the tip of the strapon until he begged me to go deep, then I let him have it deep, slowly at first, building the rhythm, until he said he was cumming, where I withdrew, lay him on his side, entering him again where I gave him a hand job all while making him cum,,,,at this point...I was on a wave, took me a while to come down, I've been addicted ever since...but I kicked his arse to the curb after encountering several lies and deceptions...enough of men for me for some time...LOL....but must admit...I miss fucking a mans arse.

Oh my god I love this

 

[Intoanythin]

What a great thread. I would love to have a woman dominate me. Nothing too crazy, but dominant women are certainly a turn on, and this thread is great, hope it keeps up!