Pure
Fiel a Verdad
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Thanks for your note, "lost".
Sex outside marriage is a big topic, but some forms of it are rampant throughout the OT.
Paul, of course, sets a guideline pretty high, and doesn't want
"fornication" --he mentions intercourse with prostitutes. If 'fornication' (porneia) means an impure contact, that would have to be defined. Clearly with prostitutes is one example, but between, say, an engaged couple, I'm not sure that qualifies. Indeed a number of Christians, the Puritans in NE, countenanced this sort of thing.
Why not get a divorce? The OT recognizes it, and at Matt, 5:32, it clearly recognizes adultery as grounds for divorce, as it is in many conservative Christian countries. Even the 'no divorce' position of the R. Catholics, allows for annulment.
The Bible, with its patriarchal views, is mainly concerned with adultery; since the wife 'belongs' to the husband, there's adultery--so defined-- if she (married) has sex with any other male. There's no way, according to OT or NT that a wife's extramarital affairs are going to be countenanced, though of course they might be forgiven. (And maybe common sense says it's usually not right to promise faithfulness to one's partner, and then sneak around. But partnerships can and are dissolved, and surely that dissolves the promise of faithfulness.)
The OT is hardly concerned at all about a married man 'sowing' his oats, e.g., with prostitutes, so long as he doesn't do it with another man's wife.
The question of two, non married people having sex, not for money is, imo, far from clear as being banned in the OT, and (I may get criticism here) probably is murky in relation to the NT, as I said, depending on what "fornication" meant to Paul. In the Gospels, it seems to be adultery, as defined above, that's talked about.
So my suggestion to lessen guilt is to dissolve the marriage, if not already, and to 'hang out' either with non religious folks, or protestants who are a bit liberal, or if not that, at least forgiving.
J.
"pure"
Sex outside marriage is a big topic, but some forms of it are rampant throughout the OT.
Paul, of course, sets a guideline pretty high, and doesn't want
"fornication" --he mentions intercourse with prostitutes. If 'fornication' (porneia) means an impure contact, that would have to be defined. Clearly with prostitutes is one example, but between, say, an engaged couple, I'm not sure that qualifies. Indeed a number of Christians, the Puritans in NE, countenanced this sort of thing.
Why not get a divorce? The OT recognizes it, and at Matt, 5:32, it clearly recognizes adultery as grounds for divorce, as it is in many conservative Christian countries. Even the 'no divorce' position of the R. Catholics, allows for annulment.
The Bible, with its patriarchal views, is mainly concerned with adultery; since the wife 'belongs' to the husband, there's adultery--so defined-- if she (married) has sex with any other male. There's no way, according to OT or NT that a wife's extramarital affairs are going to be countenanced, though of course they might be forgiven. (And maybe common sense says it's usually not right to promise faithfulness to one's partner, and then sneak around. But partnerships can and are dissolved, and surely that dissolves the promise of faithfulness.)
The OT is hardly concerned at all about a married man 'sowing' his oats, e.g., with prostitutes, so long as he doesn't do it with another man's wife.
The question of two, non married people having sex, not for money is, imo, far from clear as being banned in the OT, and (I may get criticism here) probably is murky in relation to the NT, as I said, depending on what "fornication" meant to Paul. In the Gospels, it seems to be adultery, as defined above, that's talked about.
So my suggestion to lessen guilt is to dissolve the marriage, if not already, and to 'hang out' either with non religious folks, or protestants who are a bit liberal, or if not that, at least forgiving.
J.
"pure"
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