Safety and Dating

[Krinaia]

sort of back on subject...

the subject being safety and dating... so this is just in relationship to the safety bit.


Tonight, i ran to kinkos, after parallel parking my heinously large vehicle and slipping some nickels into a meter - I was stopped by a woman. She was small, black - she had a very islandy look to her and her voice confimed it - probably Haiti - I think (?) - anyhow she asked me for 50 cents . As I was leaving my meter I had noticed her approach an obviously tourist couple in front of me. they gave her wide berth and shook their heads. I saw that there was a bus stop at the end of the street and that the woman was wearing what looked to be a uniform with a sweater around her waist - odd it being 80F outside. But she obviously wasn't homeless and you obviously cannot purchase drugs for 50 cents and beer? geez, you'd be lucky to find a beer for two dollars on this island- however, you can obviously ride a bus for 50 cents. So I reopened my purse and counted her out five dimes. She smiled, thanked me and hurried towards the bus stop. I felt I'd done a good thing.

But I caught myself asking if i'd done a smart thing. Was it stupid of me to open my purse like that on a busy street? what if she'd had a "partner" ready to seize upon my "generosity"?

 

[SweetDommes]

But I caught myself asking if i'd done a smart thing. Was it stupid of me to open my purse like that on a busy street? what if she'd had a "partner" ready to seize upon my "generosity"?

yeah, that could have been a problem ... that's actually one of the reasons that Holly and I neither one carry a purse. We carry our change in our pockets & have wallets for paper money, that way if we do feel that someone has a legit reason for needing change, we don't open ourselves up to possibilties like that. Of course, as poor college students, we rarely have even $.50 to spare, but whatever ...

 

[Krinaia]

Lol... yah no one should rob me. My jeans have holes in them and the shoes I was wearing ? Pitiful. Flip flops with puppy teeth marks and wood stain.

I switched to one of those purses that you can tuck in you armpit you know? I own too many pairs of dress slacks with no pockets -fucking designers and their lack of pockets. And my cell glows in my pocket if I bump the buttons.

You know what I hate? When you're living alone and you feel like you can't leave the house after dark. I get scared having to even go to say Wal-mart by myself. It's times like that I wish I had a dominant to hold my hand/leash/whatever.

I think that for me is one of the biggest attractions of this lifestyle. the feeling of protection when you're with someone can be so much deeper.

 

[SweetDommes]

Lol... yah no one should rob me. My jeans have holes in them and the shoes I was wearing ? Pitiful. Flip flops with puppy teeth marks and wood stain.

I switched to one of those purses that you can tuck in you armpit you know? I own too many pairs of dress slacks with no pockets -fucking designers and their lack of pockets. And my cell glows in my pocket if I bump the buttons.

You know what I hate? When you're living alone and you feel like you can't leave the house after dark. I get scared having to even go to say Wal-mart by myself. It's times like that I wish I had a dominant to hold my hand/leash/whatever.

I think that for me is one of the biggest attractions of this lifestyle. the feeling of protection when you're with someone can be so much deeper.

true true ... our cell fits in our pocket (jeans or jacket if we have one on) and we pretty much only wear jeans so the lack of pockets is never an issue with us

I know others who feel the same about having a Dominant ... although for us, it's often the other way around ... our boy and potentials alike have all said that they want to protect us ...

 

[Krinaia]

is that something particular to the Domme/m sub relationship or just to you two particular Dommes?

 

[SweetDommes]

is that something particular to the Domme/m sub relationship or just to you two particular Dommes?

We don't know, actually... but it has been a trend, especially in the more masculine of our potentials. Our current boy, and the first 2 that we seriously considered keeping all wanted to protect us, others have mentioned it, the 3rd that we seriously considered ... he's not exactly effeminate, but he's not all that masculine either, and he definately never tried to protect us.

 

[Krinaia]

hmmm.... we should ask Shadow's Dream. I wonder what her take is.


i'm so incredibly bored tonight. i should just go watch tv, i'm the only person in my buddy list online

 

[SweetDommes]

hmmm.... we should ask Shadow's Dream. I wonder what her take is.


i'm so incredibly bored tonight. i should just go watch tv, i'm the only person in my buddy list online

I dunno, you should track her down & ask ...

lol, we're watching one of the jurasick park movies ...

 

[TNRkitect2b]

hmmm.... we should ask Shadow's Dream. I wonder what her take is.


i'm so incredibly bored tonight. i should just go watch tv, i'm the only person in my buddy list online

enjoy the time off while you can if you want, i'll send you some work to do, I have plenty to spare; we can't have a lonely sub and wanna-be architect at a loss for something to do on a weeknight....

 

[Krinaia]

juraSICK... hehe ... how long have you been waiting to use that one?


we totally have hijacked this thread, it's useless now. Miss T should move it to the Chat board.

 

[Krinaia]

who said this wanna-be architect didn't have work to do?

hell i have AutoCAD open, i keep swtiching to it, staring at it in anger then minimizing it agian. lol...

i'll do yours if you do mine

 

[TNRkitect2b]

who said this wanna-be architect didn't have work to do?

hell i have AutoCAD open, i keep swtiching to it, staring at it in anger then minimizing it agian. lol...

i'll do yours if you do mine

<sigh> incompatible already... I use MicroStation

but I couldn't resist offering... and needed the break from working on my final project for the semester...

 

[Krinaia]

yah... my project is near finished. i just need line drawings. i use a combination of formz, autocad, illustrator, and photoshop - my drwgs get put through the ringer


i'm supposed to be working on getting some things done so i can set my comp up to do a 3-d animation fly through of my site but i'm just so unmotivated right now

 

[TNRkitect2b]

yah... my project is near finished. i just need line drawings. i use a combination of formz, autocad, illustrator, and photoshop - my drwgs get put through the ringer


i'm supposed to be working on getting some things done so i can set my comp up to do a 3-d animation fly through of my site but i'm just so unmotivated right now

I konw the feeling... I have Form-Z but haven't even loaded it yet this year... been working in MicroStation, Illustrator, Photoshop and SketchUp... the last is the easiest 3-D modeling program on the planet to use... not as sophisticated as Form-Z but much easier to use when developing a design... if you want to check it out.... ,SketchUp homepage

but, I have 9 days to complete my project, and am so far away it isn't funny... so I'm going back to lurk / work mode now... you lovely ladies have a good evening.

 

[Krinaia]

mwahaha ... not quite back to lurk mode, i'm going to send you a pm about software so we architecture nerds can discuss such in private and not bore the rest of the boards

 

[slvjenn]

hope you don't mind me breaking into your thread here..but I never understand some things when it comes to online dating...

I have, in the past given out my number in bars and such when guys asked for it. Some never called, some did. Some I met for coffee or a drink after the call, some I did not.

Why are people so paranoid about people online? How or why is it so different?

As to those who said to get his number and not give yours out...

If you do this to hide your number, ensure that you set your phone to hide your number on caller ID. Most cell phones these days have caller ID and I'm sure a good number of people have it on thier home phone as well.

 

[Krinaia]

i actually feel you on this. i would never give my phone number to a guy in a bar. well maybe - but he'd have to spend a bunch of time chatting and getting to know me first. but not like some of my friends have - as a means to get rid of someone they didn't want to talk to.

 

[SweetDommes]

i actually feel you on this. i would never give my phone number to a guy in a bar. well maybe - but he'd have to spend a bunch of time chatting and getting to know me first. but not like some of my friends have - as a means to get rid of someone they didn't want to talk to.

We don't give out our number at any time without talking to the person at length. Doesn't matter where we meet them. We are paranoid about a lot of things, for multiple reasons.

 

[Krinaia]

Okay, so I called him and we talked. It's funny because he has an accent and there are no southern accents online if you type like a normal person. So I feel like I have three different versions of him floating around in my head - just variations on the same thing - and I need to mesh them together somehow.

I'm still processing everything. Don't know what to make of it. I do know that I am probably safe trusting him. I know that he makes me feel comfortable. I'm a little afraid our humors don't translate to each other but I won't know for sure until we meet. Part of that is me having grown unaccustomed to translating the kentucky dialect in conversation I know I want to meet him. And I get more of a feeling of domination in our online conversations then I did over the phone ... so I'm interested to see how he and I will interact in real life. And I pretty much want to make out with him in a bad way. Other than those clear thoughts, a lot of things are jumbled together in my mind.

He seemed to get pleasure out of making me laugh. Though I wish he would have thought to tell me I had a nice laugh. Lol. Shame on me.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL...congrats on the call SB. Brings back memories of my experiences where you did the online thing for awhile and had this image in your head, complete with voice, accent etc., and then got to the phone call and thought, 'wow, was that really him....isn't at all how I expected him to sound or speak'. Of course sometimes that was more a put off, and sometimes it was difficult to keep two feet firmly on the ground and not allow the added dimension of voice, sexy and silken smooth, to add yet more assumed layers to the person you are yet to meet. Was not always easy, but I seemed to find a way of pulling myself back to reality enough to look at cold, hard facts. There were some I knew would go nowhere beyond friendship, but found in discussing it they were happy with that and also trustworthy enough to help me gain some realtime experience and explore physical aspects I might like. Was mostly a fun time during which I made some good friends. Enjoy and continue your safe path.

Catalina

 

[SweetDommes]

Okay, so I called him and we talked. It's funny because he has an accent and there are no southern accents online if you type like a normal person. So I feel like I have three different versions of him floating around in my head - just variations on the same thing - and I need to mesh them together somehow.

I'm still processing everything. Don't know what to make of it. I do know that I am probably safe trusting him. I know that he makes me feel comfortable. I'm a little afraid our humors don't translate to each other but I won't know for sure until we meet. Part of that is me having grown unaccustomed to translating the kentucky dialect in conversation I know I want to meet him. And I get more of a feeling of domination in our online conversations then I did over the phone ... so I'm interested to see how he and I will interact in real life. And I pretty much want to make out with him in a bad way. Other than those clear thoughts, a lot of things are jumbled together in my mind.

He seemed to get pleasure out of making me laugh. Though I wish he would have thought to tell me I had a nice laugh. Lol. Shame on me.

Actually, I have talked to some people who type in their accents ... lol, it's really cute ...

Anyway, definately congradulations. I hope hope hope for you that it all works out *smiles & crosses fingers*

 

[Krinaia]

jury is still out....

i wish i could find a dominant in the 23 to 27/28 yr. old range - that way it would be likely for us to be on the same page you know? i have a year and a half to graduation, i'm not ready to make major committments

 

[SweetDommes]

jury is still out....

i wish i could find a dominant in the 23 to 27/28 yr. old range - that way it would be likely for us to be on the same page you know? i have a year and a half to graduation, i'm not ready to make major committments

I understand that sentiment as well ... we found a boy that Holly's parents will accept, now we have to find one that my parents will accept, which is infinately harder (my parents subscribe to the thought that no one is good enough for their children ... ug). Closer to our age is best for us (similar interests & whatnot), very close to my age is best for my parents (no more than 3 years younger, 5 years older).

 

[Krinaia]

I don't do younger. younger means not legally being able to drink.

Sometimes being a young submissive is rouhg. You get lots of old lecherous men wanting to train and mold you - not that there is anything wrong with that, in fact it could be massive fun. It just isn't ideal you know?

 

[SweetDommes]

I don't do younger. younger means not legally being able to drink.

Sometimes being a young submissive is rouhg. You get lots of old lecherous men wanting to train and mold you - not that there is anything wrong with that, in fact it could be massive fun. It just isn't ideal you know?

Oh, I get that entirely ... but at less than a month from 26, I can go a little younger - I prefer not to, but I could. And the worst part is, it's not just the young submissives who get the lecherous old men wanting to train you ... we get guys who want to "show us our true place" or "teach us how to be better dominants by showing us the submissive side" ... crap like that.