Safety Question - How do I turn off the 'sub' vibe?

[Curious_in_Cali]

It's all about being aware and in control of your own emotions enough to not confuse being submissive in personality and relationship choice, to putting out for everyone who looks in your direction. Believe me, I know it is easy to get carried away with the submissive label, but it is not a 'please molest/rape me' condition unless you choose to make it so and then blame others for your own behaviour. As an adult we all take responsibility for our behaviour and own it. Did you let people do this before this incident? I am guessing not, so why now, and why blame it on being submissive and claim no resonsibility on your part? And yes, I continually get told by people I am one of the most submissive (not even necessarily in a BDSM sense) personalities they have ever met, but those same people do not molest me, nor would they expect me to go along with it if they or anyone else did> But hey, if it works for you to equate being submissive to being easy and helpless, more power to you.



Catalina

Hmmm, I did not take it in the way that she was not taking responsibility for it OR that she felt that she or anyone else should not take responsibility for themselves... quite the opposite actually. In this case, I don't read blame as much as I read honest surprise and then reasonable concern. I think it is responsible and mature to face a mistake and work to address it so that it is not repeated. I give props to her for owning this and reaching out for help as it is not really the easiest thing to do for everyone.

 

[MasterandSir]

I'm curious--how do you mean, "Physically dangerous?"

Break a leg? Have a heart attack? Piss her panties? Suffer an attack of the bends?

I like everything else that you said, but your advice becomes suspect when you add something so preposterous as that.

As I remember it, osg's solution was to never ever go anywhere public without her Master or someone else, for protection. So... I don't know how much use she would be in this case.

Dangerous because if someone is far down in subspace, say immediately after a heavy play session, and you immediately rip them up and out of it through a trigger word from a hypnosis session, the shift in brain and body chemistry causes a flood of adrenaline in the system that has been known to cause adrenal shakes/shudders, loss of motor control, high blood pressure, and other nasty things. Loss of motor control in particular being extremely dangerous to those that might drive. Then there is also the collapse after the adrenaline clears the system.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Dangerous because if someone is far down in subspace, say immediately after a heavy play session, and you immediately rip them up and out of it through a trigger word from a hypnosis session, the shift in brain and body chemistry causes a flood of adrenaline in the system that has been known to cause adrenal shakes/shudders, loss of motor control, high blood pressure, and other nasty things. Loss of motor control in particular being extremely dangerous to those that might drive. Then there is also the collapse after the adrenaline clears the system.

Well, I would like to see som documentation on that, but it sounds plausible.

I admit, I never even thought about "ripping someone up and out of subspace" in such a brutal way -- the thought never entered my mind.

I was more thinking "dispelling the last lingering aftereffects" as she's going out the door to head back home.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Hmmm, I did not take it in the way that she was not taking responsibility for it OR that she felt that she or anyone else should not take responsibility for themselves... quite the opposite actually. In this case, I don't read blame as much as I read honest surprise and then reasonable concern. I think it is responsible and mature to face a mistake and work to address it so that it is not repeated. I give props to her for owning this and reaching out for help as it is not really the easiest thing to do for everyone.

Agreed.

 

[paisleyavenger]

update

Hi all, just wanted to report that I've been riding the bus safely and haven't been floaty unsafely again. Thanks for being a safe place to ask for help, and for giving really practical advice.

 

[darrinprescott]

I control the way I walk, it helps. I sway my hips a little when I walk because it's more comfortable, but if I walk a bit more military like I get harassed a bit less.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Hi all, just wanted to report that I've been riding the bus safely and haven't been floaty unsafely again. Thanks for being a safe place to ask for help, and for giving really practical advice.

So glad to hear it!

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

Hi all, just wanted to report that I've been riding the bus safely and haven't been floaty unsafely again. Thanks for being a safe place to ask for help, and for giving really practical advice.

BIG HUG! Yay!

 

[His_pet_slut]

Hi all, just wanted to report that I've been riding the bus safely and haven't been floaty unsafely again. Thanks for being a safe place to ask for help, and for giving really practical advice.

So good to hear. I'd been wondering how you were doing.

 

[sdnt]

What a scary experience. I don't have much advice, I just wanted to say I'm very glad you're alive and safe. Boys are stupid and men are assholes. Be strong. I don't understand what you mean when you say 'sub' vibe. I, myself, am a submissive, a flirt, a tease. But only online. I'm a student and a retail associate so I experience encounters with all kinds of people. It's the simplest of body language that can give something away in a person.